Tell me I can do it!!!

wbg · 11-05-2009, 05:28 PM

My beautiful LO is now 18 months and just awesome. She is absolutely obsessed with my boobs, which I think rocks!

However, I also find this age so exhausting and tiring. She sometimes gives me a break and will eat only at bedtime, in the morning and once or twice during the day. She still wakes at night but will settle with some cuddles from her Dad.

But then she goes back to waking and nursing constantly. Only I can settle her. My breasts start to feel sore and abused and I almost flashback to those early weeks!

With #3, at this point I actually weaned him. And I have always regretted it. He adored my boobs and he spent the next 4 years putting his hand down my top every time he needed comfort in order to replace what he really needed!
I was just so tired looking after the three little ones and I felt that I needed to sleep!

DH is awesome and super supportive, but he works very long hours so is not around a lot. We have no help and no family around.
I feel so honored that I have been able to have wonderful breast feeding relationships with all my babies and I really want to keep going with this gorgeous girl as long as she needs it.

I guess I am hoping for some moral support! An words of wisdom. Is this an age thing? Or will she need to nurse this much for a lot longer. FYI, she is a pretty laid back happy baby. Very active and healthy. Just a little boob obsessed. DH thinks its genetic and they all get it from him!

Oh and on a completely selfish note, I never get my body back until after I finish feeding and I miss my non flabby body! wah! I think my body skipped the class where most others learnt that BFing will help you lose the weight. Mine likes to retain it until weaning time??? Anyway that is my ridiculous and silly rant!

Advice, hugs anything....!!! Gentle words please...am a little frazzled and over sensitive at present!

LadyCatherine185 · 11-05-2009, 06:04 PM

Great job on BF'ing 4 children Mama!

Oh, and I love your siggy, btw.

What if you just put some limits on nursing? Like, only at certain times, or for certain lengths of time? Would that make you feel better? It doesn't have to be all or nothing, and she is old enough to have a few limits if gently enforced.

Blessed_Mom · 11-05-2009, 07:21 PM

If it is any help - you are my new idol

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wbg · 11-06-2009, 10:25 AM

Thanks Mamas. I needed that. Catie...I am trying to limit the night time feeds, but she has just hit that point where she just screams and cries and I am not comfortable letting her cry it out like that. She has a lot of stamina!! During the day when she finds a huge pile of left over candy and then chucks a huge fit when she cant have it! That I can handle. I know that she will just cry for a minute and move on and that is better than filling her with a bunch of junk food because she was clever enough to find it

. I think it is just an age thing. She suddenly only wants Mummy etc. Even in the day. I find distracting her during the day from the boobs easy, but its those all nighters that make me a little crazy. I am just so tired and it all seems hard and sometimes you just think that oh well, enough is enough! So I am trying to ride it out and keep going. So thanks for the encouragement. It was just what the doctor ordered. I am living away from home at present and everyone here seems to think I was a little nutty just having a more natural approach to birth so they all think I should have "given up this whole breast feeding nonsense months ago!" So no real life support and encouragement from them huh?!

PatioGardener · 11-06-2009, 11:09 AM

Just wanted to remind you of how awesome you are