No patience with my LO since being preg

olien · 11-04-2009, 09:29 PM

My poor 15mo DS. Since I've been preg my patience has dropped to ZERO. I am tired all the time & just cant take him at times. I feel like such a bad mama right now.

He is not doing anything bad just testing his limits & being a 15mo baby. I can only take about 5 hrs with him & I start to unravel. The 2 dogs are also feeling my horrible mood/behavoir too.

Anyone else experiencing this too. Any advice. I try to AP/GD/UP, but I find I am yelling more & more which is not cool. I know its just me

helianthus · 11-04-2009, 09:38 PM

I don't have any other kids, but I have noticed that my patience is gone lately. Poor DH!

It doesn't take much to make me frustrated, and I've gotten short with a few random people besides DH, too.

So I just wanted to say that you're not alone! I can't imagine trying to care for a LO right now, too. No wonder your patience is short!

I don't know what AP/GD/UP is, but I can say that the only thing that has worked for me is to remind myself that these emotions, while they seem strong, they are being caused by something unusual (hormones) and that I do not need to put too much weight on them. I've been trying to walk away from frustrating situations and breathe for a while until I can remind myself that this, too, will pass. I will go back to my normal temperament someday!

Good luck. Hang in there!

BabyFinch · 11-04-2009, 09:45 PM

I'm totally with you on the being a bad mama thing. I feel so bad for my 28 mo. daughter! Between being sick for most of the 1st trimester and then all of us getting swine flu after that, I just feel tired and cranky with zero patience. I work 3 days/week, and now I'm actually glad she gets to go stay with grandma(s) those days, since at least they're not cranky! I just flat out have no energy to play, so there's been a lot more movie watching than I would prefer and not much playing outside time.

It's nice to hear I'm not alone, but it probably doesn't make her feel any better about it. I'm hoping I can snap myself out of it ASAP!

olien · 11-04-2009, 10:02 PM

Yes! OMG I have no patience for playing. We are watching so much TV, which I hate. Mostly animal planet & the wiggles.

AP - attachment parenting
GD - Gentle dicipline
UP - unconditional parenting.

If you stick around these boards you will quickly learn these terms after you have your LO.

clicksab · 11-04-2009, 10:26 PM

Y'know, I felt this way up till about 16 weeks with my DD. Things have definitely gotten better around here though. My hormones must have shifted, lol. Hopefully the same will happen for you ladies!

Doberbrat · 11-05-2009, 05:28 AM

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Originally Posted by olien

I know its just me

all I can say is its not just you. its really hard.

I've been letting dd have some tv time and some computer time when I need a break (up to an hour a day) but she's 4.

staceychev · 11-05-2009, 06:48 AM

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Originally Posted by clicksab

Y'know, I felt this way up till about 16 weeks with my DD. Things have definitely gotten better around here though. My hormones must have shifted, lol. Hopefully the same will happen for you ladies!

I'm with Sabrina. I felt like this until a little into the 2nd trimester, and suddenly, it got a lot better. I'm a lot more patient with my LO and with my students. I feel like I'm a kinder, more compassionate person than I was 4-5 weeks ago!

2sw33t · 11-05-2009, 06:59 AM

I'm 23 weeks pg, I have a 17-month-old, and I work while my dh takes care of her during the day. When I get home, I'm so tired that I can't give her the attention she deserves, and if I actually try to get some housework done, I lose my patience with her for trying to get my attention. Fortunately, I can take her over to my parents' house some evenings (they live 5 minutes away), which takes some of the pressure off me to play with her all the time, since she then has lots of people to divide up her attention.

If you have anyone who can "share" your ds's attention some of the time, that might help.

Always,
Jill

Jiniphur · 11-05-2009, 10:50 AM

I feel the same way. I am almost 14 weeks with a 14 month old Ds and I feel like a horrible momma too. I am so sick with this pregnancy and have been relying on my DH and SIL way to much to take care of DS. We have been watching way to much TV and eating way to much junk food. I keep telling the boys when I feel better things will be going back to normal (less tv and good food). I feel like a lazy bum that cant take care of her family. Its really hard but I am sure it will get better.

Pinoikoi · 11-05-2009, 12:29 PM

I was really cranky and irritable at the beginning of this pregnancy- pretty much from go. I increased my B12 intake and it seems to have really helped!

northwind · 11-05-2009, 12:49 PM

Oh, I hear you!!! I am 26 weeks, and my DD is 16 mo, and some days I feel like she is on my last nerve. She's cutting molars too, which doesn't help. When I get snappy I just try to breathe, relax, and remind myself that she's a baby and doesn't "get it", and that it's my hormones and not me in control right now. It also helps to forgive myself if I *do* yell at her - I hate to, but once in a while I snap. But I have to let it go and remind myself she won't remember it!! As long as I don't make it a habit, she won't hang on to it!

olien · 11-05-2009, 07:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Pinoikoi

I was really cranky and irritable at the beginning of this pregnancy- pretty much from go. I increased my B12 intake and it seems to have really helped!

How much B12 do you take?? (from your prenatal & extra)

Why did you increase B12??
Dont know much about the Beeeez

Kikelet · 11-05-2009, 09:42 PM

Hey mama. The first thing that came to mind when reading your post is that MANY women go through this and probably have been for hundreds of years. Being hormonal and lacking patience is not going to completely damage your child.. This will pass and rather than feeling like a terrible mama, try to find some peace with who you are right now (even though it feels wrong..)

I get very hormonal when I'm pregnant and I assume I'll go through this someday.

Chamsia · 11-06-2009, 09:50 AM

Lie down. Even if your tot is bouncing atop you, yanking your hair (as mind=e does, she's 3 1/2), it does wonders.

I thought I was feeling ok a few weeks into my pregnancy (I'm 35). But then I heard myself being so short and snippy and impatient with poor dd. Now I lie down for about 30 mintues (or more, sometimes less) every day after lunch. I usually can't actually sleep, but just being off my feet and resting, even with a 33 pound wrestler atop me, makes a HUGE difference.

If you think you don't have time, think again. You will be so much more productive and a much better mama. It's a pretty amazing treatment, and it's free!

Hope you feel better soon!

Pinoikoi · 11-06-2009, 09:54 AM

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Originally Posted by olien

How much B12 do you take?? (from your prenatal & extra)

Why did you increase B12??
Dont know much about the Beeeez

I am pretty sure that B12 is water soluble, so I don't think it is a vitamin you can "overdose" on at all. There are plenty of women that get B12 shots during pregnancy, but I just got an extra bottle of B12 tablets and take an extra one per day. I told my OB, she didn't even ask me what amount I was taking..

Here this looks really good.

http://www.naturalnews.com/027095_vi...B_doctors.html

http://www.ecologyhealthcenter.net/node/189

This article talks about the dangers of LOW B12 levels..

http://www.genuwizesolutions.com/vitaminb12.html

This talks about how low B12 levels can be a contributor in mood swings..

There are a lot of articles on this topic- so look around and ask the questions..

if you are still unsure about how much EXACTLY to increase the B12, I would ask your healthcare provider.. like I said, my OB had NO problems with it (would probably have given me the shot if I had asked) and my midwife would definitely have recommended looking at my vitamins and suggesting some increases before going the shot route.

mosmom06 · 11-06-2009, 11:44 AM

Glad to see I'm not the only one! I'm 32 weeks, and some days feel like if I have to tell my almost 3-year-old daughter 'NO' one more time I'm going to turn into a stark raving LUNATIC complete with drooling and hair pulling. Today is one of those days.
Problem is, I never know what kind of day it's gonna be 'til that morning...

Yesterday, I was [almost] normal. Today, I just want to scream and crawl back in bed. It's been like this for, oh, 30 weeks or so, give or take a few days.
And DD is VERRRYYYYY energetic, curious and STRONG-WILLED.

I guess it probably doesn't help that I'm currently on antibiotics for a bladder infection?

Anyway, to the OP: I feel your pain. You're not the only one!