Would you apologize? - Page 3

**Theoretica** · 11-12-2009, 09:36 PM

I think you handled it GREAT mama!

And don't apologize, at least not for you doing anything wrong.

I've told my 16yo PLENTY of times "I'm sorry this didn't work out the way you expected it to" and meant it. Because I do, I know he's frustrated and annoyed, and I'm sorry! It's not my FAULT, and he's become an amazingly responsible kiddo...I think BECAUSE of handling it this way. It's a logical consequence, it sucks, it'll be a good gentle reminder of how to plan better in the future!

gbailey · 11-13-2009, 07:09 AM

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Originally Posted by nextcommercial

"I'm sorry you didn't think things through.. that must suck" Probably isn't the apology he was hoping for.

I love it!

Anumaria · 11-13-2009, 07:37 AM

I thik HE should be coming to YOU whenever he needs a ride arranged. Why do you need to try to remember to arrange things for him?

bestjob · 11-13-2009, 07:08 PM

Teens see things oddly. That's why they get to have great adults in their lives.

Point out that he's the one who knew there were time obligations. Point out that you offered. Refrain from making the connections in an "I told you so" tone of voice.

That's it. Job done!

In about 70 years he'll come to you and thank you.

Moms all want to live to be 100 years old. That's because they figure that's about the time their kids will be able to say "thanks". I'm 48 and I still don't think I can say it to my mom. It's that hard.

~Leonor~ · 11-17-2009, 11:10 AM

I would express I'm sorry he had to walk, but not take responsibility for it. 15 is old enough to show some awareness, he should have told you.