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#91 of 120 Old 03-03-2013, 08:09 AM
 
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Ok mamas, I'm losing steam. My dready adventure has only been a year but it may be coming to an end. Boo. Actually, though, I'm happy with the decision & am looking forward to massaging my scalp like a crazy woman! 

 

So....how?? My first thought is that I have no patience to comb them out but I just watched a few youtube videos & am considering giving it a go. Has anyone done this? I thought about chopping it & having a sassy short 'do but the more I examine my hair, these things are knotted pretty close to my scalp - about an inch all around. Eek! So combing out may be on tap. Correct me if I'm wrong but it sounds like using a single point (not a comb!) on dry hair is the best method. I have a feeling this will take quite a while but I'm hoping to give myself as many hours/days needed, working on them when I can. 

 

When I first started dreaming about taking them out, the summer solstice seemed like a good goal. But alas, I'm now hoping for a vernal equinox transformation!


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Koru, I've got no ideas how to comb out dreads. I'm all about the sassy short do - I wore my hair an inch or two long several times, and I love a good pixie cut on most anyone. Can you just let the roots grow out a bit more before cutting? I just think about how damaged the hair might look once combed out; I know when I get rid of my dreads, I'll cut them.

Otoh - I haven't been maintaining my dreads because of a horrible family emergency (it's all fine now, but touch and go there for a while. No death, thank goodness). And so, my hair took a back seat for 3 weeks and now I just sat down with it yesterday. They've locked up so much! The ends are almost totally blunted! Yay for progress! Bonus points BC we are going to visit my parents in a week and they will see them in peron for the first time.

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Double post!

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You should totally shave your head. :P

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I've combed out 5 dreads at the base of my neck & WOW, what a process. My hand hurts. I'd say it takes 30+ minutes per dread....and I have about 75. Do the math. If I decide to keep going, I need to pace myself or I will have carpel tunnel, for sure!

 

I go back & forth between wanting to unknot them or just chop them off. I've had super short hair many times so it doesn't scare me....but I'm not quite sure it's time. You know what I mean? My newest thought is to continue combing them out but keep in a handful of my favorites. thumb.gif As I unknot them, I'm starting to feel the attachment. *shaking my head* 

 

If anyone cares to know, to unknot them I've been using a comb with a single metal pick as the handle. To start, I trim 1/2" off the end & then painstakingly stick the metal end into the tip of the dread & pull down, unknotting little by little by little. It feels fuzzy & "unhealthy" at first but it silkens up. Once I wash it, I imagine it'll feel totally normal. And I have the hugest ball of dead, lint-filled hair. If I have them all undone by the equinox, there will be a fire to commemorate this journey!


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For those of you who have had dreads for a long time, how long did it take before your dreads really started looking like dreads?  Mine are about a year old now and they're looking better but they're nowhere near where I had hoped we'd be this far in.  I still have tons of loose hair that either worked it's way out or never got incorporated.  I keep telling myself to just trust and wait and they will come into their own on their own time, but some days it's hard to be patient.


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After 18 months mine finally looked like dreads (mostly). It really depends on how you start them. Natural dreads take much much longer. I still had a bunch of loose hairs that I knew were not ever going to dread in so I actually snipped a few of them off (mainly the ones sticking out the sides ) and it looks much better. You can also try crocheting to neaten things up if you want.


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I started with twist and rip and I have never been able to get the hang of crocheting.  I have tried several times, I just can't seem to get it.   I might try snipping some loose hairs and see how that works.  Thanks :)
 

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I've combed out 5 dreads at the base of my neck & WOW, what a process. My hand hurts. I'd say it takes 30+ minutes per dread....and I have about 75. Do the math. If I decide to keep going, I need to pace myself or I will have carpel tunnel, for sure!

 

I go back & forth between wanting to unknot them or just chop them off. I've had super short hair many times so it doesn't scare me....but I'm not quite sure it's time. You know what I mean? My newest thought is to continue combing them out but keep in a handful of my favorites. thumb.gif As I unknot them, I'm starting to feel the attachment. *shaking my head* 

 

If anyone cares to know, to unknot them I've been using a comb with a single metal pick as the handle. To start, I trim 1/2" off the end & then painstakingly stick the metal end into the tip of the dread & pull down, unknotting little by little by little. It feels fuzzy & "unhealthy" at first but it silkens up. Once I wash it, I imagine it'll feel totally normal. And I have the hugest ball of dead, lint-filled hair. If I have them all undone by the equinox, there will be a fire to commemorate this journey!

Koru - this lovely lady combed out all of her dreads, and hers were a few years old. (She cut a bit off the ends but they were still long). Here is her blog post describing the process and all of the products she used...http://www.deniseandrade.com/category/dreadlocks/


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Well friends, the journey is over. I've had the flu for 5 days & spent many hours sitting on the couch, unknotting my dreads. It was the most tedious thing I've ever done in life & can't believe I actually thought that was a good idea. Ha! I left in my favorite one, though, so I'm not completely dreadless. 

 

I'm shocked at how thin my hair is. At first I thought it just felt thin because of the heavy dreads but I'm not so sure. I definitely lost tons of dead hair while taking them out but it feels like about half my actual hair came out, too. Gah. It will thicken up & grown back, I know, but it feels weird because I normally have a ton of hair. I have an appointment later today to have my hair styled....I'm thinking a funky stacked 'do, longer in the front with my beaded dread hanging down (and soon to be wool wrapped). 

 

I'll post photos when it's all said & done. Thanks for walking with me, friends!


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Wow. What an undertaking! I can't wait to see the new do!

 

I have a question. Dd's natural dread journey is progressing well. I'll post pics tomorrow. She had a giant knot form at the back of her neck, but didn't want me to separate it. It has since flattened out into a thick kind of rug in the back. Will that eventually separate itself out in to individual dreads or are we going to have to help it along? A single 5 inch thick dread in the back is not going to work for her, long term. lol


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incorrigable, I would try to separate it. If you wait too long it can be really hard/impossibe to do. Just tell her that she really does NOT want a beaver tail in the back.
 


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That is TOTALLY what it's growing into! lol Thanks for the advice.


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Me TOO~!!!!
 

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Hello!  These are my 1 month old dreads (and my daughter).  My OH and I are both on the dreading journey, it's been really neat to see two different processes but so far both are doing awesome!

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Incorrigible, how are your daughter's dreads coming along?


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I'm restarting my neglect dreads this week! I don't care what hubby says anymore. It's MY hair and I feel what he thinks I should do with my hair is oppressing my creativity. Hopefully my hair will start locking up by the time summer is in full swing. I can't wait. :)

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I'm sorry I haven't updated! Here's a pic of her wearing the beads that were in her Easter basket.


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Hi ladies orngbiggrin.gif I've been lurking for a while. About a month ago I decided to braid yarn into my hair to lock it up. I'm mixed and I'm shooting for pencil width uniformish dreads. I've noticed a lot of animosity between "dread heads" and "loc'ers" online, so if this isn't the right place for me I understand smile.gif

Anywhoodles, my roots are locking fairly nicely but I'm noticing some yucky build up. I'm thinking it might be from my use of coconut oil on my scalp... What do you ladies use to keep you're scalp moisturized and stop the itching?! I've got a spray bottle with tea tree oil, coconut oil and water that I've been using, but I'm afraid that since coconut oil is a solid at room temp that's what's causing buildup at my roots. I wash once a week and do a ACV rinse. How to stop the itch?! And maybe get this white gunk out of my hair too?

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I'm sorry I haven't updated! Here's a pic of her wearing the beads that were in her Easter basket.

Oh wow! They're really coming along! Yay!!!!


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Hi ladies orngbiggrin.gif I've been lurking for a while. About a month ago I decided to braid yarn into my hair to lock it up. I'm mixed and I'm shooting for pencil width uniformish dreads. I've noticed a lot of animosity between "dread heads" and "loc'ers" online, so if this isn't the right place for me I understand smile.gif

Anywhoodles, my roots are locking fairly nicely but I'm noticing some yucky build up. I'm thinking it might be from my use of coconut oil on my scalp... What do you ladies use to keep you're scalp moisturized and stop the itching?! I've got a spray bottle with tea tree oil, coconut oil and water that I've been using, but I'm afraid that since coconut oil is a solid at room temp that's what's causing buildup at my roots. I wash once a week and do a ACV rinse. How to stop the itch?! And maybe get this white gunk out of my hair too?

We're all for crazy hair, however you choose to do it. Of course, we all have preferences of our own, but we welcome everyone. orngbiggrin.gif

 

If you're getting buildup, I'd wash with Dawn dish soap to get it out


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Here we go! Day 1 of neglect! I towel rubbed really well and blow dried it to help start it knotting up. I'm not going to let anything DH says make me not do this. He'll get used to it sooner or later.


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How exciting! I hope he gets on board with it this time!

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Me too! And if he's not.... too bad.

 

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Go for it Becky! If they make you happy they should make him happy.

 

Welcome tmOsweet! I think Dawn dish soap would work with water as warm as you can stand it. People who want to take out wax use this method and it usually works. Tea Tree oil is great for itchies and dandruff. There is a deep cleaning concoction you can make with ACV but I am not sure how to make it. All I know is that you have to soak the dreads for at least 30 minutes and rinse a LOT.


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Even though my dreaded journey is over (one lovely still remains!), I'm so excited that my daughter's friend is now wanting them!! She lives across the street, has approval from her parents & I'll be helping her get things going within the next month, probably after school gets out. Passing on the love!


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Thanks all smile.gif

I've been debating whether I want to crochet my roots or just let nature take its course.... I've already got a little baby dread that I love! I can't keep my hands off it orngbiggrin.gif I do have some thinning around my face from the weight of my hair greensad.gif kinda makes me afraid to do any active maintenance or dread tightening. How many of you ladies do anything to tighten up your dreads and what methods do you use?

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tmOsweet, I have found that any maintenence I tried to do too early just fell right back out. I am not sure how old your dreads are but mine took at least a year to start locking really well and start actually looking like dreads. But it is different for different hair types (I started with uber-caucasian pin straight hair). If you want to crochet I think there are lots of tutorials online but people really have mixed results I think.

 

BTW, here are some pics of mine at almost 2 years.biggrinbounce.gif

 

 


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Hello! Just wanted to up date all you ladies on my progress! I'm 11 days over 8 months! I'm really enjoying this process! Such a freeing experience 😊❤️✌️
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Hi! Just wondering if there is a 2014 thread that I missed, or is everyone just continuing on this one? smile.gif
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