I would just quit and go back to my COMFORTABLE cloth pads, but I'm going somewhere for a few days where I won't be able to wash and hang my cloth - and I won't have enough to just wait.
Any tips? I manage to insert it, but it just doesn't open and so feels really uncomfortable.
20 minutes later.... after my DH pushing it futher in (to my cerv) he finally got the damn thing out.. it was soooooooooooooooooooooo : but hey, what do ya do..
I have only had a chance to use it one other month, I have no idea how to get it to "pop". When I used it the second month I got it right a couple times, but most times it leaked.. so Im interested here too!
What I do if I use mine is to now we trip merrily into TMI run a finger up insied and alongside the cup and all around. Pressure where it's folded so that the folded in part unfolds seems to help. Twisting it a bit can help too.
The first month was the worst, the second got better, and by the third month I was like an old pro with it.
A trick for getting it out: Try to put your finger in as high as possible and reach the top lip of the cup. Push it in a bit and it sort of breaks the suction. Then you can pull it out. It gets kind of messy this way, but it's better than having it stuck in there. And lots of deep breaths. When all else fails, get the pliers.
|The suction can be a little intimidating, but if Miss Kitty can handle a good pounding on date night and a baby 9 months later, she's not so delicate that the Diva's going to suck out her plumbing. Keep that in mind if you start freaking out.|
there truely is a learning curve. it seems to be about three months for many people.
YAY!.. what a relief to find others who have experienced and expressed similar issues to mine..
(DISCLAIMER: WHEN VENTING I DO NOT TEND TO USE CAPS, PUNCTUATION or PROPER GRAMMAR properly when venting... ) that being said, here i go.
Ooookkkk..So I decided to order the DIVA Cup on-line.. (much too expensive @ Whole Foods) especially for my first experience... eitherwho... I'm super excited because it came highly recommended, especially for women like me, who have an extremely heavy flow. My previous experiences with the SoftCups proved to be less than 'neat' so I was in search of something new...My references spoke of the 'pop' and NO LEAKS... hmmm I am like day two into this experience and i cant say i'm a happi camper... I feel like i'm bleeding more for just sticking this thing up there and irritating my cervix. Which by the way is cramping more than ever!...I just cant seem to get this right!.. I fold it.. insert it, it opens, i turn it... but it's like i havent done a thing!... forget a pantyliner..i'm still wearing my super-sized elephant flow pad WITH the cup... !...
Ok.. another issue, how low is this cup supposed to hang out of my kitty?.. I cant seem to push it in very far without some level of discomfort or pain.. but i do push it as far as it will go. yes its open as well..I noticed when i arrived at work that sitting in my office chair i could feel it sticking out and it was quite uncomfortable.. I thought that maybe i had inserted it and positioned it properly and that it was full and needed to be emptied.. WRONG... all of my flow was in my pad..... there were a few drops inside the cup.. but not much...yes.. my flow is extremely heavy the first few days... Ive even had to ask my employer for FMLA (Family Medical Leave Act).. because my cycle is so out of control I cant be productive or comfortable at my job... Tonite I felt more confident because i had the Diva Cup.. umm NEGATIVE...
Ive read that it takes a few months to get used to.. but does anyone have any tips on how to ensure that im placing the cup in the right place?.. I know we're all built differently but somethings gotta give!... I'm suffering this extreme cramping in vain!...
Thanks for all of your other post.. they made me feel less dysfunctional.....
I threw mine away. I tried multiple cycles, sometimes it'd pop open, other times it wouldn't. Just when I thought I was breaking it in it'd change up on me. Would always leak and my periods were spent w/ constant anxiety if I'd leak through pants or something. I have a tilted uterus so I have no idea if that affected it or not.... but I tried everything and it just didn't work for me. I was really upset too :(
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I must admit.. it was quite uncomfortable... and i forgot to mention that if felt like it was blocking or pressing against my urethra.. It was difficult for me to urinate when i had it in... yes.. i do realize i did something wrong..lol.. I may give this thing one more try next month... (keeping my soft cup close at hand)..
Oneblkwmn, it sounds like you have it much too low and maybe are unfolding too soon. Might also be too small a size, if it is unfolded but your flow is going past it.
Fold it in half vertically, then fold it again. Now it's folded in fourths and you are holding it with your first two fingers and thumb. Insert. Push it as far up as you can WHILE FOLDED; once it is mostly inside, you can move your fingers lower on the cup. The entire thing should be inside you, except maybe part of the stem if you did not trim it. Now hold the base of the cup between your thumb and index finger and rotate it. Now do a few high marching steps. Now rotate your hips like hula hooping. Now slide a finger alongside the cup and make sure it is open and round. Now clean yourself below the cup with toilet paper, or a damp rag if you can--that will help you tell the difference between genuine leaks and flow that was below the cup when it went in.
That's what works for me. I did have more leaks with the Keeper in my 20s pre-motherhood than I have had since getting a Diva postpartum, so I agree with what someone said above about different cups fitting better for different bodies.
I must have a pretty heavy flow because for me, wearing it 12 hours straight is preposterous until the 4th day. It's easiest just to empty it every time I'm using the bathroom anyway (every 2-3 hours) to avoid overflow.
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Trim the stem off or at least down to one notch for comfort. and for putting it in angle it back then put your finger up along side it up by the rim then press up you should feel it pop. to take it out rock it back and forth while pinching the bottom above the stem and pulling gently downward and it comes out easier.