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#31 of 32 Old 01-13-2009, 09:39 AM - Thread Starter
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I'm still reading! (I'm the original poster ; ) )

I'm so glad this helped you. It helped me too. Since your husband's in Iraq, give yourself LOTS of space to be lonely and confused, and forgive yourself. What you did sounds totally normal (and good that "nothing happened.")

If you haven't already, I would actually wait before you decide whether to tell your husband. Maybe the whole thing will pass (the feelings, and the guilt) and it is better left unsaid, esp since you never acted on it. I wouldn't add hypothetical problems to your marriage, esp since you two will have enough to deal with when he comes back. He could feel betrayed and hurt, needlessly.
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I'm still reading! (I'm the original poster ; ) )

I'm so glad this helped you. It helped me too. Since your husband's in Iraq, give yourself LOTS of space to be lonely and confused, and forgive yourself. What you did sounds totally normal (and good that "nothing happened.")

If you haven't already, I would actually wait before you decide whether to tell your husband. Maybe the whole thing will pass (the feelings, and the guilt) and it is better left unsaid, esp since you never acted on it. I wouldn't add hypothetical problems to your marriage, esp since you two will have enough to deal with when he comes back. He could feel betrayed and hurt, needlessly.
Thanks again, and yes, that's one thing that made me feel a lot better was the fact that is IS in Iraq, so HE was what I was "lacking in our marriage" haha. So, I really feel that's why I developed this "crush". hehe

And no, I haven't told him and I don't think I will because of the exact reasons you said. Nothing did happen so I don't really think I did anything wrong. And literally after I read this post, I pretty much stopped thinking about him. I actually took a deep breath and almost started crying because I realized I was making it into a WAAAAYY bigger deal than what it was. I was scared my marriage was over, etc. hehe I went a little crazy with it. But yeah, I'm not going to tell him, I don't think.
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