So yesterday was an odd day. I walked into a situation where I could tell I had been gossiped about and the gossip/talk was wrong. I feel free to ignore stuff like that but it was funny how every word or move I made was interpreted through their predetermined lens. Its sad that people don't think others know when they've been gossiped about or are being lied to. Anyway, I stayed quiet and just people do what they needed to do. It was sad to witness though. Personally I get PO'd when I am patronized esp. when its from their own made up nonsense but that is besides the point.
Then I came home and had a similar, but much more light and comical, situation online. But it served to bring some of my thoughts on the subject to a head. Its all good. Things always seem to happen for a reason and God can use the oddest things to help me be a kinder woman. I get mad that my time is being wasting when I am just trying to go about my business or when people try to bring it into my home. Kwim?
Anyhoo, my day ended with my laughing and being slightly annoyed at women and common group dynamics and wishing that women were free from stuff like that.
So this leads me to wanting to know your thoughts and experiences?
Why do YOU think women do stuff like it? Why do you think they don't realize what they are doing and that some others can put 2 + 2 together? Why aren't they upfront and direct with others and would rather sit in a group in secret than dealing with relationships or with situations?
Thanks everyone for your replies. Each has given me things to reflect upon and think about. I am not sure I believe its a self-fulfilling prophecy in general or specificially. I know that I try to assume the best of people and take them at their word. I do get thrown off by the betrayal that occurs later or he lies that emerge out of nowhere. I think people can be mean and dishonest at times regardless of whether you are assuming the best of them, seeing them honestly or assuming the worst. Darius and Ligmom