I've finally come to the realization that I must have unreasonably high expectations for my IL's as grandparents, because my own parents aren't involved. I mean, there are many things between ds' birth and now that I am having trouble letting go, but my newly-discovered perspective is helping that process.
The biggest things issues causing me to 'stop and breathe': the fact that my MIL skipped ds' 1st bday party. We were waiting to get it started until she got here, but she called half an hour after it's designated start time to say she's sick and wouldn't be coming. *breathe, breathe* But hey, my mom and dad didn't come, so why am I so hung up on this? My FIL showed up to watch ds after a full day of drinking. (Just one time.) Granted, his idea of 'watching' ds is coming over after ds is already in bed for the night. He promptly passed out in the recliner and didn't even hear us walk back in 10 minutes later. *breathe breathe* He's apologized a hundred times, but still hasn't watched ds during awake time so we can have an actual date night.
So I feel like I might nag and be unreasonably bitchy about less serious offenses, but they are what they are and I'm doing my best to work with them. Even if deep down, I feel like they each need a swift kick in the arse instead of my cooperation.
And if you're at all curious about what MY side of the family is like, I did previously post about it:Pg 15 #297
So even if my IL's are sometimes unforgivable...I have to keep in mind they are all ds has, and they DO love him. This has been a huge revelation for me in the past few weeks and thanks for letting me share it.