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Does anybody have any recommendations? I'm in therapy and realizing how negative/pessimistic I am/have been my WHOLE life and am wanting to change that.

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Mike Dooley's Notes from the Universe

Many more I cannot think of right now, but go to amazon.com and type in Positive Thinking.
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I found "Being Happy" by Andrew Matthews really good. Easy to read as well.

He also has a website that you should definitely check out: http://www.andrewmatthews.com/

The website has heaps of little tips that help alot. You can also get a free 7 day email thing that gives you one thing to work on a day.

I find him really great and motivating.

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DH has found a really helpful book to be "Change Your Brain, Change Your Life". It's by Dr. Amen (I forget his first name). It talks about automatic negative thoughts (ANTs) and how to get rid of them.

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I can definitely relate, I spent much of my life battling low grade depression, anger, and frustration.

This might be an odd suggestion, but I found Marshall Rosenberg's Nonviolent Communication changed my emotional states more fundamentally than anything else I've tried.

It didn't teach me how to be happy, but how to empathize with myself and others. NVC believes (as do I) that underlying negative states such as anger, jealousy, and cynicism are unmet needs. NVC gives practical tools for recognizing and empathizing with those needs. When needs are met, or at least acknowledged even if they cannot be met, positive emotions- joy, contentment, hope result.

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Need to check these books out!!

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the movie "what the bleep do we know" (along the "you can change your life if you can change your mind" idea...)

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Does anybody have any recommendations? I'm in therapy and realizing how negative/pessimistic I am/have been my WHOLE life and am wanting to change that.
I am exactly the same way and have been wanting to change that.

But here's the thing- I don't believe just thinking positive is healthy anymore than constantly thinking negatively is. I don't like the whole "think happy thoughts and all will be well!" movement of late. It hurts more than heals, IMO.

That said I am so flipping negative it is harming me and those around me. I have to say that I am not very into "self help" books and all that but I have to admit that Byron Katie and her book "Loving What Is" is AMAZING! What I love about Katie is she isn't about just smiling and thinking about butterflies and puppies and saying that will cure what ails ya, rather she is all about self-reflection and exploration. You can check out "The Work" here.

Basically what I am trying to say is I am trying to approach this less about thinking positively or negatively and more about thinking realistically.

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Great info. More books to add to my wishlist!

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I'd also like to suggest some Pema Chodron books. They focus less on "being positive" but more on staying with whatever feelings you have at any given moment, and learning how to ride through them. Being negative stems from fear, and learning how to sit with the fear and work through it rather than ducking it, hiding it or trying to make yourself feel better enables you be less afraid in general, and therefore more positive.

This is an extremely brief and not very good summary, but I have found her teachings to be very helpful! I especially love her audiobooks.
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Basically what I am trying to say is I am trying to approach this less about thinking positively or negatively and more about thinking realistically.
that's great to find some way of phrasing it that helps you! i have to say, though... i "know" you from several places on mdc, and i've never thought of you as especially negative! i'm guessing now that a lot of my posts probably irk you, lol, so i apologize for that. i think finding a way (or ways) that resonates with you is so important (and if that includes fluffy bunnies, than that's ok, too. ).
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that's great to find some way of phrasing it that helps you! i have to say, though... i "know" you from several places on mdc, and i've never thought of you as especially negative! i'm guessing now that a lot of my posts probably irk you, lol, so i apologize for that. i think finding a way (or ways) that resonates with you is so important (and if that includes fluffy bunnies, than that's ok, too. ).
No, I totally agree. Whatever floats your boat and all that. And I have never known you to be irksome... Maybe I am reading the wrong threads!

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no, no, whatever you're reading, that's all good.
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This isn't a 'self help' book, it's a novel, but it was SO inspirational to me regarding staying focused on goals and keeping a positive attitude.

The Power of One, by Bryce Courtenay

It was made into a movie, but the movie was NOTHING like the book. NOTHING. So don't bother, it killed my positive attitude for about a week straight LOLOLOL

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What a great thread
I personally find this book uplifting
http://www.amazon.com/Four-Agreement.../dp/1878424319

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I saw that movie (The Power of One) and from what I remember it was very depressing. I will have to check out the book, I didn't know that it was a book first.

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The movie was HORRID. Absolutely despicable. The BOOK, however, is a huge epic journey of self and really empowering. The whole 'take what life gives you and make the best of everything you can' kind of thing.

I've read it about 30 times, it's seriously the best book!

It's one of those books that when you read it you think WOW this would be a GREAT movie. Except, what makes it awesome is that it's a LOT of his thought processes and (mis)perceptions of the world around him, so that's impossible to accurately portray in a movie. Then of course the movie has to mesh all the characters and streamline the story so it fits in two hours. And this is NOT a two hour kind of book.

Ok I'm just going to have to go start a book thread on it I'll re read it if anyone else wants to discuss it?

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