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|Thank you for your support. I’m so glad to hear I’m not the only one who found her behavior inappropriate. The whole experience, some of it I couldn’t put into words, still shakes me up, and I wish I could find a way to get it out of my system. Fancyoats your experience borders on my friend and I appreciated the story.
When I got her e-mail in mid-December I was actually excited that my friend had come around. DH reminded me, "Remember that she was too involved." When I reread her e-mail I had a feeling this may be a ploy to see me / my son since I had been refusing her offers to baby-sit, visit, or have lunch. I guess I just wanted my friend back and wanted to give her a chance. Honestly, I sort of forgot some of her previous behavior because I have been so involved with my son. Here is the original post about my experience with her when I was pregnant: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1058078
I didn’t mention that the visit on Friday ended with me taking her back to work and DS screaming because he was hungry. She told him, “I promise you I’m not taking this personal. We’ll try again later.” We barely even said goodbye. I parked the car, nursed my son, and immediately called DH to tell him how upset I was and it was over between her and me. My husband, whose normally a mellow guy, was upset with her behavior, too.
I know this is not the last time I will hear from her. It maybe months but I know she’s not going away. I’m also certain that the next e-mail I get will be as though everything is fine, which would be just as inappropriate: wouldn’t you think that as pissed as she was that I wouldn’t allow her time with my son she would never want to see me again? My question then is what do I do? I totally agree that if I’m in doubt I need to go back and re-read this post. I should have done that with the first post.
Having my son makes it possible for me to walk away from our friendship. It’s one thing to act that way with me, but it’s not okay with my son. In fact, DH and I agreed if I ever did see her again my son would not be with me, or DH would go.
Part of me wants to write a letter that basically says we can’t be friends because you can’t see past my son. But I’m scared she’ll do something… show up at my house, take my son, shoot me?… okay, I’m thinking worse scenario, but that’s how extreme her behavior appears to have changed to me. So maybe it’s best to say nothing and ignore her.
Did she maybe lose a baby recently? miscarriage or stillborn.
Regardless I'd keep my distance, just wondering...
Jenna ~ mommy to Sophia Elise (1/06), Oliver Matthew (7/07) and Avery Michael (3/10)
Wading slowly and nervously into this homeschooling thing.