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#1 of 53 Old 02-06-2010, 02:39 AM - Thread Starter
 
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I just posted a great big revelation to me in my blog, and it's something I'm not ready to share with my husband yet. You don't have to comment on it or anything, just let me know that you read it. Being heard right now is enough, you know?

http://memoirofacheeseburger.blogspo...velations.html

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I'm not sure I have anything to offer... just know that you aren't alone in your food issues... I have them, but for different reasons

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I read it too

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That sounds really tough, but it seems like you're starting to deal with the heart of the problem. I wish you healing.

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for acceptance and healing..

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From one daddy-less little girl (now grown woman) to another.

OUR DAUGHTERS ARE PROTECTED SHOULDN'T OUR SONS BE TOO! :
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I understand the feeling of wanting a mommy and not just a mother. I know when I look at my little kids, dancing with delight at something that my "mother" never appreciated that moment the way a "mommy" would have.

Good luck on your journey of healing
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I read your post, Kris.

I adopted my DD. Thanks for your perspective. It helps me see through her eyes.

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My older sister was adopted and she was never easy to be around. I struggled for years to love her. Thank you for your perspective, it does help the understanding.

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I can relate to your post, mama. I have a father but not a "Daddy" too. It has been hard but I'm working through resigning myself to the fact that he never was and never would be what I needed.


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I read. Many .

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I read and understand what you mean. I spent many years looking for a Mommy and pretending my father was more of my Daddy to me then he is.
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(((hugs)))

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Thank you, mamas. It is so nice to be heard. This kind of revelation is one I have never had before, so I was feeling both nervous and excited to share. Someday I want to share this post with my mom, but that day won't come for a very long time. Maybe never. We'll see.

Kris - married to Nate since 12/06, mom to Toby since 1/08. Also servant to two felines. Done having babies for medical reasons.

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I read. I was adopted within the family... had a daddy and knew my bio-father. I loved them both and hated them both. It's such a convoluted world, sometimes.

Love to you, mama. My eating issues still persist to this day (Goddess help me, I just got off the scale ). I have always wondered if my problems with self-perception are related to my early-childhood abandonment. I have to say... I feel somewhat better, deep inside, knowing I am not the only one with problems stemming from that feeling. I hope we can both heal.

So many s to you...

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I read it.

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I have been exploring some somewhat similar issues about my mother. And I do have a dad, but he stopped being Daddy when he started drinking.

Thanks for sharing your blog.

I am a 40 year old unschooling, belly dancing, artist-mama of one almost 8 year old. I just had brain surgery and blogging.jpg about it a bit because it's just so surreal.
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I'm sorry mama .

My daughter is 8 and struggling with her father's abandonment right now. She has a 'dad' she's known since she was 1, but still mourns the abandonment of a father whom she remembers but won't see her since age 3. She talks about it a lot even to strangers, teachers.
If you can save my child any pain, mama, please tell me what I can do for her.

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I read, Kris.

You deserve to be loved. You are loved. Saving a big hug for the next time I see you.
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I read it, too. *Hugs*

I was an angry child, as well, though didn't have any younger siblings to take it out on (and the older ones where TOO much older to do so... I was adopted, too). I still haven't figured out what all happened in my childhood to lead me to who I seem to be now.
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I read too, and just wanted you to know that you aren't alone. (((HUGS)))

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