Hello. I read your piece in the article. My mother and I have always had a tumulous relaltionship. I want to go to couseling but I know she wouldn't go and if she did that would hurt so bad, I love her, but I dont think I could ever hope of having a relationship with her if she told be no because that WOULD really prove to me that She doesn't love me very much. I know I would go for her.
Thanks for letting me vent.
Tigerchild, it's so lovely to see you still here.
Since actually having children I have neglected to come here much as I would like and it is great to see you, your advice is worth gold.
Jonathan911, excellent advice as well.
OP: I just wanted to say you have my sympathy.
Write the letter but don't send it. Have a serious sit down with yourself and figure out your boundaries.
Establish them and stick to them. Keeping things superficial is safer when dealing with emotionally abusive parents.