Thank you SO much for your thoughts. You're right, my benefits aren't great, they're pretty standard, which I'm grateful for, but they're easily duplicated somewhere else. DP does have insurance, but I can't get it through her since they don't cover same sex partners.
Ellien - Thank you for the hint about the WOHM forum. I'll go check that out. I'm really glad that your job turned around for you, gives me hope to hear of others who have good situations.
AllisonR - Ugh, I hear you about being physically ill. Sunday nights I'm always an emotional mess and I usually feel sick, just thinking about starting another work week. It's so very difficult. Unfortunately the environment seems to be getting worse, not better. I typically get to work from home on Fridays though and that's my one current sanity saver.
Yes, feeling trapped, maybe I need to start looking at options, if only to know that I HAVE options? I hope things start getting better for you! It sounds like you're in an awful situation.
_ktg_ "I will be in this emotionally abusive job for a long time and end up doubting my skills, values and worth" this rings so, so true to me. That's where I'm at. Good luck with the Masters! Sounds like a great program.