I parted ways from a friend of mine over 3 1/2 years ago. No contact has been made, I haven't seen her since then, we just took different routes in parenting styles, and just grew apart very quickly after having kids. It really should've happen much sooner, but it is what it is. It was mutual and just a long time coming.
Anyhow, now 3 1/2 years after the fact, DH is getting the 'shut out' effects from this group that she's friends with. She no longer lives where we live, but is still in contact with this group.
DH is also friends with most of the husbands in this group and I'm friends with a couple of wives/gf's, but recently, we were not invited to a pool party where a wife of a friend of DH's was present. I'm no longer friends with this woman as she took sides with the ex-friend, called me a bunch of names, and accused me of things that never happened. It's complicated and very lengthy.
So why do folks still feel like they have to tip toe around me and my DH? Making us fully aware of when the ex-friend may or may not be present and this other woman that I'm no longer in contact with are going to make an appearance?!
It's so childish is just completely unnecessary. DH found out about it on FB. I think his feelings were hurt, too.
He's going through a lot of red tape to get this guy some really, really nice seats to a concert in a couple of months that he's all going to with more guys from this group and he feels like he sort of got slapped in the face.