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#1 of 7 Old 10-14-2010, 01:28 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I'm not sure if this belongs here, but I didn't know where else to put it.

Does anyone have suggestions for books to help effectively and constructively manage anger without losing it. I am really struggling lately and could use some help.

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I'm sorry to hear you are struggling with anger. It is so commendable that you are addressing it. Acknowledgement and self reflection are a large part of understanding where it is coming from, and how to change your actions in mid-stride. I use journalling a lot. I just write freeform sort of letting my mind wander and try to get as close to the bottom of it as I can. Counseling also has helped me more than anything else. I usually discover that anger often is a more superficial feeling or reaction to pain, fear, or frustration that I am having.

I often reflect on writings from the Dalai Lama, and Thich Nhat Hanh. They both address anger, and understanding it in oneself. You don't have to be religious to benefit from them. They are fairly neutral, but you do have to give yourself some time to digest their writings. At least I find that I don't have to read very much at a time. Healing Anger is the one by the Dalai Lama. Here's some quotes from Hanh http://www.ineedmotivation.com/blog/...ich-nhat-hanh/ and he has written a book called Taming the tiger or something like that.

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Counseling also has helped me more than anything else. I usually discover that anger often is a more superficial feeling or reaction to pain, fear, or frustration that I am having.
I agree!

The Dance of Anger is quite good.

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I have heard great things about this book, though I have not personally read it.

What really helped me when I was angry with my then 3 year old ds all the time(and newly post-partum as well), was "Kids, Parents, and Power Struggles" by Mary Sheedy Kurcincka. That, and the "Parenting and Rage" thread in this section.


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I agree!

The Dance of Anger is quite good.
I just listened to this via cd while in the car. I thought it was very informative.

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I think this is a good website.
http://www.angriesout.com

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supplements are what help me- magnesium (citrate or glycinate), D3, a b complex, more inositol and choline, cod liver oil for efa's, and gaba (a calming neurotransmitter) and i keep my cool. if i'm off magnesium, d3, and b complex my rage rears it's head. the others i take as i can afford them. rescue remedy also does wonders for me. i believe there is often a biological basis for behavior, and that while cognitive behavioral efforts help, they are not the be all and end all.
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