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#1 of 3 Old 11-27-2010, 08:25 PM - Thread Starter
 
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How can I help an old friend whose husband suddenly left her, a SAHM to four?  She's in shock, she's broke, and she needs support.  I live about 2000 miles away, but we are mutually connected to many high school friends via Facebook.  What should I do for her?  I was thinking about a way to collect donations...if many people were able to give even $5 or $10, maybe that could help her through the holidays.  Gift cards?  Two of the kiddos are under kindergarten age, so if she's able to find a job, she'll have to think about childcare expenses...my heart is breaking for her.  Please give me your ideas about what she might need and how I can be useful even being so far away.  Please keep her and her little ones in your thoughts.  Thanks!

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Her exH is responsible for taking care of her and the kids.  She needs to talk to the local child support agency ASAP. 


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I agree about talking to the child support agency, although it can take upwards of 3 months to get help, and some states now won't help you unless you are getting state services.  She needs a lawyer, and I know that it may be difficult with no income. Does she still have access to their bank account?  I'm sorry she's in such a difficult place.  That sounds terrible. 


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