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#1 of 7 Old 08-31-2011, 11:56 AM - Thread Starter
 
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Well, I shouldn't really say "no one".  I do have my Mom, I guess and my DH (of course) and a couple of friends but I feel like everything I say is just a repeat of what I've said before.  I hardly talk personal stuff with people I work with because I get the idea that they really don't care.  I have a lot on my mind that I need to share with someone - get it off of my chest - but that person isn't there.  Do I need to look at seeing a therapist?  I've tried writing in a journal, but I sometimes forget to do that and lose track, but the thoughts are still in my head.

 

Even when I post stuff on Mothering that I'm almost certain I'll get a response from someone, I don't and that leaves me even more frustrated and unsure of what to do.


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therapy might be a good idea or maybe a support group in your area?


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I think our culture definitely minimizes genuine encounters between folks and mamas of young kids absolutely have it the hardest, in general.  Yes, you definitely should find someone to get some of the things on your mind of of your chest.  Maybe a therapist, or a therapy group, as pp suggested.  As a starting point.  You deserve to have those connections--we all do!  I am struggling with some of the same stuff in my life right now and moving in the direction of looking for a support group as well. 

 

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I'm in the same situation.  I work full time and have two little ones.  I have very little time to do activities and make friends.  My best friend basically abandoned me when she moved in with her fiance--we talk only a couple times a month now.  My coworkers are either older than me and their kids are grown, or they are just out of college and don't have kids--not that any potential friends have to be in the same situation I'm in, but it makes it hard for us to find common ground or have serious conversations.  Most of the moms of little kids I know (including my sister in law) are SAHMs--which I admire and I know is just as hard as being a working mom--but it seems like they're in a different world from me or something--it's hard to explain.  Every day I go to work, come home and take care of the kids for a few hours, then on the weekends among doing chores and errands I try to find some time to relax and be with DH and my girls.  I love my life and am thankful for my family, but lately I've been feeling really isolated.  I really miss having conversations with people (other than my DH and mom!), being challenged by other perspectives, and sharing frustrations.  I don't really have any suggestions for you, but just know that you're not the only one feeling this way. 

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i feel the same as you. I started therapy but had to stop when hubby lost his job. But I felt so releaved when i would leave therapy.

 

definitely look into it or a support group even. big hugs


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yes, if you feel that you have a lot that you want to talk to someone about, and that you have no one to talk to, find a good therapist if you have time and money for it. You can alk about the things you need to talk about. It is so important to be able to get things out and be heard and have other people help give advice. Sorry you feel you don't have anyone right now- I hope a therapist can help for now. And that you find some people to relate to. It probably isn't about anything you are not doing or doing wrong- just sometimes it is hard to find people to connect to.  Maybe you coupld open up an avenue in your life that is new and different from what you do already- such as pursiuing soemthing that inspires you- and see if you meet peopple that are easier to talk to than people at work.

 

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Co workers are not where you should be looking for personal chats.  

 

As for making friends...are there any support groups or play groups you could join to meet other like minded moms?  perhaps volunteering once a week would be a good way to make new friends that you can have a real connection with.

 

I think in the mean time a therapist would be a good idea.  At the very least you could get all this big stuff out there and process it.


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