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#31 of 37 Old 11-27-2011, 07:00 PM
 
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I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.

And....

Ignoring my kids.

HELP!

Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on



Right, this is why I can't compare it to a 'hobby'.  I suppose anything can be done to excess, even ...photography? Scrapbooking?  I know my mom ignored me a fair bit to sew.  But she always finished with a concrete, usually practical product. 


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I went computer free for 4 years,.... It did not take me long to get hooked on MDC again. And it is not as happening as it was years ago but I still find myself staring at the computer.

And....

Ignoring my kids.

HELP!

Really. It is an issue here to and one I am trying to work on


You could try having blocks of time that are computer free.  I am going to.  I find it hard to be moderate otherwise because I am constantly going on for a few minutes to check threads, hotmail, etc.  

 

I am going to experiment with going mornings free.  We shall see how it goes.  I might literally throw a cloth over the computer screen, lol, so it does not beckon me!

 

edited to add:  I know it is not this simple - but it is an action I can take.

 

 

 

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Oh this is my down time... and um... work down time.  Shhhhh my boss is a scary little many with flailing appendages!   He's likely figure out what I'm doing and steal things from my desk.  I stole his tied/glued/taped down pen from his desk.  He knows it was me... I have shifty eyes!  But I love coming on here even when I shouldn't be.  I work with all men.  YUCK!

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I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 


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I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 

Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

 

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I'm also struggling with this!  I bounce between this & job searching & checking email & this time of year price shopping for Christmas gifts...I just feel so sucked in.  I tell myself in the am that I won't even turn it on then I need it for something and I'm sitting here  in my pajamas realizing that my kids bus will be here soon. I feel like when I'm not on it it is calling my name like when you are reading a really good book that you don't want to put down.  I feel like I need a change fast, but because I have to look for jobs online it is a catch 22! 



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Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

 

 

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Yep this is me too. The amount of times I am rushing out the door because I have 'just quickly gone online to check something' a few minutes before we need to leave...creating unneeded stress for my DS...

Emilie, yep I ignore my son too sometimes, he's always clambering on my back 

I blamed it mostly on being a single mother and feeling pretty alone and unsupported - I have friends, sure, but 99 % of the mom friends I know either aren't very 'like minded' - reallly only thing we have in common is had babies at the same time -  so I find meeting up with them more draining than fun b/c I can't fully express myself, or they are just too busy with their own lives and can never meet up... so I think MDC does meet a legitimate need. I also go thru phases of being addicted to FB - weirdly, I can not 'pick up' with FB for a month or two, then suddenly be on it several times a day. It's SO Draining. 
Im going to try the computer free times....prob is I can only play music off my laptop at the moment and I really survive by having music in the background most of the time, so not turning it on at all is not really an option..but I could just not open any browsers... and have a 'no internet unless specifically looking something up like what time the pool is opening' when DS is around. I do NOT want him growing up with an example of a computer screen being more compelling than RL. 
Good luck everyone!!

 

 

Yuck, I feel like I'm doing this sometimes, even though DS is so young.

 

It's strange that when I'm working, I just think about how much I miss DS and wish I was home with him, and I hate that our family relies so much on my income so I can't be a SAHP right now. Then when I am home, I end up spending time doing unimportant things online. Maybe I need to start implementing some time limits on my computer for myself.

 


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