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#1 of 10 Old 03-06-2013, 11:25 AM - Thread Starter
 
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My husband told me this morning that in two months he's moving out.

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I never posted on your other thread in the fall, but I remember it.  I followed it.  And I remember that he was emotionally abusive.  Why is he waiting 2 months?  It sounds manipulative.

 

How are you feeling about this?  Are you okay?


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I never posted on your other thread in the fall, but I remember it.  I followed it.  And I remember that he was emotionally abusive.  Why is he waiting 2 months?  It sounds manipulative.

 

How are you feeling about this?  Are you okay?

I'm fine I just wish he would go. I don't have an income myself so figuring out how to support myself and my children is going to be a problem but I'm working on finding resources to help me figure this out. It does sound manipulative and strange. I'm just emotionally done. I can't do it anymore, if he doesn't move out then I'm going to. I can't take the fighting anymore. All he wants to do is fight and scream at me over nothing all the time, it's the same way as it was back in the fall when I posted the other thread but steadily getting worse. I'm not doing it anymore.

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I would start talking to a lawyer now and start getting their advice. You're in the US aren't you? I feel like if you leave the family home with the kids there could be some trouble, might pay to look in to that.

 

That said, two months is a long time. I'd try and get him out sooner.

 

One more thing to think of - get all your information and the kids information (birth certs etc) anything that has a lot of sentimental value and move them to a friends house now. Plus get all information about your bank accounts etc and keep that somewhere safe as well.

 

Because your husband has been abusive in the past I think you need to be aware that this whole thing is probably going to be a shit fight and you need to protect yourself now. 

 

Also, most in the single parenting forum. You will get lots of help and advice from women who have been through all this.


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I would start talking to a lawyer now and start getting their advice. You're in the US aren't you? I feel like if you leave the family home with the kids there could be some trouble, might pay to look in to that.

 

That said, two months is a long time. I'd try and get him out sooner.

 

One more thing to think of - get all your information and the kids information (birth certs etc) anything that has a lot of sentimental value and move them to a friends house now. Plus get all information about your bank accounts etc and keep that somewhere safe as well.

 

Because your husband has been abusive in the past I think you need to be aware that this whole thing is probably going to be a shit fight and you need to protect yourself now. 

 

Also, most in the single parenting forum. You will get lots of help and advice from women who have been through all this.

I know this is all going to be a shit storm and that is what really scares me. I have the birth certificates and things already, I've slowly started to get some other things around too like clothes etc so that I can have them ready to just go out the door with. It's his out bursts that scare me, I don't know if I'm going to be safe after I do this, and at this point, I don't care. I just need out. I just can't take this anymore.

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Another day, another threat on my life if I leave. What the hell has my life come to? What the hell was I thinking? How did I let it come to this point? I'm looking for rent assistance programs in PA, and also, places to help me file Custody and Divorce. Fun day researching.

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You need to find a shelter to help you and GET OUT. Please!! Threat on your life? Please take him seriously. Leave today!

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I have another update for everyone. i left I'm out we are getting a divorce and in the middle of a custody battle right now. i no longer live in pennsylvania i have recently moved to new york. life is great
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That is good you were able to leave. How are you feeling? Has he left you alone? Stay strong.

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No he's not leaving me alone he keeps harassing me but i just ignore his texts and calls. it feels wonderful to be out and free.I have also met someone who is a wonderful guy and is standing right by my side through it all
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