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#1 of 11 Old 05-16-2013, 10:44 PM - Thread Starter
 
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I have never had any interest in joining facebook, but recently I've been thinking it really might be a nice way of staying more in touch with friends. What are your thoughts? Have you been on facebook and then regretted ever having had an account for whatever reason (too time consuming, too much garbage,....?)? Or do you really think it's a good harmless way of keeping in touch?

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I love facebook.  I just ignore stupid ads, don't "like" many business/celeb/non-individual human being pages, only play a couple games that I really like, and am only friends with people I already know. 


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I don't play games so that's not a time suck for me and I don't really get caught up in debates.  If someone starts posting a lot of nonsense I find upsetting, I hide them from my feed (I'm not going to unfriend my 87 year old cranky great aunt and start a family war, but I don't have to read her crazy rants all day either).  I enjoy seeing everyone's pictures and some of my friends are much funnier than I realized.  It's a great way to keep up with and feel more involved with far-flung family and friends.  You can easily avoid or weed out things that aren't fun and just keep the fun parts.  I don't see how people get so caught up in FACEBOOK IS TEH EEEEVILZZZZ!  just don't read what you don't like! 
 

It's also really great for things like PTA/PTO, school and weather alerts (so helpful in hurricane season), room parent info or activities your kid is in, keeping up with what's going on at the library or local stuff, etc.  I have friended all the local parks, state and national parks, school board, libraries, news stations, etc.  It's nice to get reminders about festivals, stuff going on in town, or school closings. 

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I like it but I've learned a few things over the years on it and I'm now very mindful of what I'm posting. I stick to the rule of not posting anything I wouldn't want my employer/colleague/grandma to see. I pay close attention to my privacy settings. I have it set so that if someone tags me in a picture, I have to approve it before it shows up on my timeline. I don't post pictures of other peoples' kids without permission and I generally don't tag people without permission.

 

It's a fabulous way to keep up with friends and watch their kids grow.

 

I've learned to stay out of debates about politics, religion, and gun control. To me, it's not worth it. Other people enjoy the art of debate, that's not how I want to spend my time.

 

I "like" business pages as well as non-profit organizations and musicians. I learn about a lot of cool events and good deals that way.

 

It is a time suck, and i don't even play games. It's become an annoying habit - oh I have a moment of free time, what's going on on facebook....

 

I think it's a good thing, but if you are a private person sometimes it can feel like a bit much.

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I was on facebook initially for 4 years. Last summer I got sick of it, something made me mad and I deleted my account vowing never to return. Well, I rejoined a few months ago. I missed keeping in touch with friends and family who are all on it... who live far away. We moved 1100 miles from them last year. I missed the business and local "likes". Facebook has its good points and bad. I keep my friend list to close friends and family, neighbors, and to people who I would stop and say hello to if I saw them at Target... kwim? I only have a few pictures on my profile of my kids. I don't post much. I also don't take part in religious/political/parenting debates. I did with my old account and shouldn't have. Lost a few facebook friends in the process. It's hard for me to bite my tongue, but I learned my lesson last time. Really, my main reason to be on it overall is to learn about what is going on locally, being part of local homeschool groups, etc. My news feed is mainly that kind of stuff.

 

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Your replies were encouraging so I did join Facebook, and am learning how to use it, so far so good. My new issue is what to do with friend requests from people who have both me and XH as friends. Clicking on 'no' seems harsh, so for now I'm just ignoring the friend requests, and of I see these people in person I'll explain that I want to keep my world and his world very separate.
 

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Your replies were encouraging so I did join Facebook, and am learning how to use it, so far so good. My new issue is what to do with friend requests from people who have both me and XH as friends. Clicking on 'no' seems harsh, so for now I'm just ignoring the friend requests, and of I see these people in person I'll explain that I want to keep my world and his world very separate.
 

I think ignoring them is a fine idea. I have a friend who just politely tells people that she limits her interactions on facebook. Another thing to keep in mind though is that you can control who sees what. So if you end up with a "friend" that you don't want to see some details, you can block them from seeing pictures or updates. I do this with certain family members. 

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 So if you end up with a "friend" that you don't want to see some details, you can block them from seeing pictures or updates. I do this with certain family members. 

 

Yep - and you can block their stuff from your wall by "hiding" them.  It's really quite easy to avoid people when you really want to.  LOL


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If you block your XH he will be unable to search for your fb page, see anything you post, or even comment on(in the case of mutual friends). You can do this in the security area.
 


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Hmmm, cool! Thanks for tip!
 

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If you block your XH he will be unable to search for your fb page, see anything you post, or even comment on(in the case of mutual friends). You can do this in the security area.
 

Hmm, I tried to do this (my mom has my evil ex-step-father as a facebook friend... hasn't caused any problems so far, but it creeps me out), but I couldn't find the option.

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