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#1 of 3 Old 03-03-2014, 06:03 PM - Thread Starter
 
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Oh, that is hard! A little bump for you, I would say the first step is recognizing that you behave in a passive aggressive manner.


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Hi Katica,
I've been thinking about this aspect of my personality too.
Can I offer you a little of my own observations and some prompting questions that may be helpful?
Feel free to keep the answers to yourself, or to share them.

I might lean towards the passive end of things, but certainly have been passive aggressive at times. My mom is generally passive, but does things like tease, avoid conflict, and project. I think I might have adopted passively agressive behaviors as an adaptation to living with her. If I was too aggressive for her, I seemed to cause her to withdraw. So I learned to manipulate, rather than be direct.
Why do you think you adopted passive aggressive behaviours?
Can you describe a behaviour of yours that you recognize as passive aggressive?
What is the opposite of passive aggressive?
I've been thinking that some form of assertiveness training could help in this realm.

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