I was in the exact same spot 5 years ago with my SO. He got paid every week and every friday night he would go out and come home drunker than cooter brown. Sometimes saturdays too. Everything I said turned into an argument, since I didnt work, his money was HIS money and I got what was left from paying bills and buying grocerys. But with a new baby and little family support, How could I leave I wondered and make it on my own. Until one explosive weekend that involved him passing out and getting his ENTIRE paycheck stolen, among other things, when I decided I had enough. I told him either I was taking our son and leaving or we were going to fix our relationship. Luckily, we pulled it together and worked things out. But I will tell you, The person I am today would have left much sooner and been done with it. I wonder today what my life would be like if I had, but Im very happy with our relationship and my decision to stay. What I want to say to you is, Only you can decide if its worth saving, or even able to be saved, But you are not alone momma, and you're not overreacting to feel like your deserve more respect from your partner!
SAHM, Baby-Wearing, APing, EBFing, Co-sleeping, Proud Autism warrior mama to two boys. 7/2/08 & 6/8/09