Oops we forgot to get married..
My man and I have been a couple for half our lives now. We moved out together at 20 to finish college. I walked the aisle 7 months pregnant to accept my bachelors. That was a hard year working ft and going to school ft but now those days are long gone. Fast forward 11 years, we have two school age kids and I’ve been a sahm for 7 years.
Been officially engaged since 2010 and I’m thinking now that ship may have sailed. It's the one thing left that we "should do", yet I know we don't have to do anything. In another 11 years our oldest will be 19! Crazy to think about..
Knowing what I know now, there’s a reason why love comes first, then the carriage. Once kids arrive, life changes…everything gets real and raw.
At 22 marriage was still a few years off, now it makes more sense. I care about being married now that our youngest is about to turn 5, but I don’t, then again I do. Does that make sense?
Part of me feels like there’s no point now though and that the ship has sailed, especially when my man says things like “the best way to never get divorced is to never get married”. At any point we can untie anchors and sail away on separate ships, but I know that's not a good way to look at life.
Last edited by whoami; 12-31-2015 at 06:48 PM.
Reason: rethinking this issue