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Originally Posted by AngelBee
Thank you! I do have to change my thoughts.
It kinda stems from thinking I am getting somewhere and having the people closest to me be disappointed that I didn't do enough.
I would try to explain my thought process. They would just say that
I was lazy and unmotivated.
They don't realize that I really do try. Their critism just makes things harder because I tend to shut down.
Originally Posted by Saralynn
Simplicity, I too am a recovering perfectionist and I have noticed a pattern in my life - when I am happiest, I don't stress that the hand towels aren't folded in neat thirds, or that my husband's side of the vanity mirror is covered in miniscule food and toothpaste particles, even though I just cleaned it yesterday. When I am happiest, I can let these things go. Your phrase, "searching for security" really struck me - that is exactly it! The insecure me hides beneath the perfectionist mask. It is almost as if I need the praise and admiration of running a tight household, of throwing the best birthday party, of sending the most thoughtful gifts and letters - for security. And when I'm really stressed out, I need to feel control over my environment - as if I were the goddess of dust - directing all the unsightly particles to fall in my neighbors houses, rather than my own. I just wanted to thank you for this new perspective on my life.
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