Join Date: Oct 2002
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hi all, sorry i haven't been around. out-of-town family visit has kept me from mdc. i have a few minutes now, so thought i'd try to catch up a bit.
it seems like this is something people want to do on an adhoc basis, posting dreams as they think of them. we can try that, although i have found that having a deadline to discuss a dream somehow either calls them up or helps me remember them more easily. it never failed when i was working with dreams with my psychologist that i'd have a really interesting one a day or two before my appt, just as i was thinking of cancelling for lack of material.
that's why i was thinking that a weekly posting, maybe on a sunday or monday, might prompt us to have a more productive dream life. i think we may also need to add some personal details when we post dreams, to help others offer useful comments. since we don't know each other irl, we don't know the context the dreams are coming out of. i'm thinking of your belly dancing experience luma, and how that adds meaning to your dream.
welcome, amymarie! that's great that you can remember and recount your dreams with so much detail. i'm going to throw out a bunch of things that come to mind to see if any give you that tingle of recognition...
if this were my dream, i would wonder whether walking through a poor neighborhood and then going up hill to a shopping district might say something about the economic/financial progress going on in my life. gifts imply an abundance over and above just having your needs met. what does a necklace symbolize for you? it might mean to me an aspect of beauty and wealth, or in a different vein being collared/restricted. a phone to me seems very much about communicating (is there someone you need to feel heard by? someone you want to say something too?) security guards searching bags might indicate a feeling that i am not really entitled to these gifts (personal abilities are also called gifts--do you feel you have a gift for communication? a gift of beauty?) or i am under suspicion for having them. what does your niece represent for you? how do you feel about her? a park with hills (again.) of grass is a mix of bucolic and tranquil with uneven terrain, a tough climb, maybe, an inability to see very far around you? how did the park feel to you, what emotions did it elicit?
and chaka, a very powerful sounding dream. if it were my dream, i'd consider the various meanings of being frozen -- unable to move, unable to act, unable to communicate, cold, unloving, unemotional, stopped in time all come to mind.
in my dream, step-dad driving would indicate he is in control of where i am going or what i am experiencing, and i wonder how that felt to you in the dream. okay, exciting, frustrating, frightenening, oppressive?
yelling, but not in anger, is interesting... for me anger is a big component of my frustration, when i feel frustrated i feel angry too. so if this were my dream and i wasn't feeling angry in it i'd wonder if that was being repressed.
putting her in the trunk instead of the car is interesting... some possible interpretations -- she is not treated like a person, she is not included in the trip/experience you are having with your step dad; you are putting her away because you can't reach her, you can't communicate with her.
and then a sexual experience attempted/initiated by your stepdad. I've had some dreams like this with a male relative that made me wonder if i'd repressed molestation, but i was never able to come up with anything, so i had to let it go and assume it was a metaphor for other boundaries being crossed.
i'd be interested to hear if any of these possibilities resonated with you. if it were my dream i'd consider one theme or msg to be that i felt like my mom was unresponsive/not protecting me from my step-dad's inappropriate interest in me, and i might explore the idea of unacknowledged anger/my own frozen emotions towards her.
i have a four year old bouncing on my lap, so i'm going to sign off now.
maybe after christmas we can try to get up and running with this, if you all are willing and interested.