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I consider my chronic lateness as my greatest character flaw. Even though I have lost jobs as well as friends over this issue, I have been unable (unwilling?) to change. There doesn't seem to be any deep underlying issues at hand (like needing to be the center of attention or thinking only my time matters). My best guess is that I don't seem to have a very good concept of time. If I have an hour to get somewhere I will think- great! I can check my email, throw in a load of laundry, take a shower, get ready and drive. It seems obvious that I should just get ready and go, but that is the part I struggle with.
Im a person who is neurotic about never ever ever being late. I usually get places 5 minutes beforehand, and get upset if Im a minute late.
Dh, on the other hand has NO concept of time. For him it is no big deal to be 30 minutes late. I have noticed for him..it is he really truly does not GET the concept of time...same way he doesnt "get" the concept of using the debit card 20 times a day spends lots of real money and it adds up fast. It is a weird thing with him grasping certain concepts.
Some things that I do...Im always aware of the time. If I have a task to do, I assign a certain amount of time to finish it in. When we need to leave, I figure out what time we need to leave to get to our destination, and dedicate 10 minutes to ONLY doing things essential to leaving...shoes, coats, making sure a kid isnt missing. Then we are on our way. During that 10 minutes, I will not answer the phone, I do not allow myself to get sidetracked.
It is almost like a game to me..by seeing if I can get somewhere or do something in the time allotted. The other day I really impressed dh because we were meeting up at a restaurant, and he got there first. I told him I would be there in 8 minutes...I pulled in at exactly the 8th minute.
Dh has gotten better about getting places when he got his GPS..it tells him how long and his ETA. He needed it badly because he is in sales, and has appts in people homes. It helps him stay on track.
SO...that is what I do...and yes I admit I am a bit odd...but being a sahm for 7 yrs I need little mental games to keep me sharp... : :
The thing I hate that I do is rush when I know I am late. I hate giving my son the stress of being rushed. We all know it feels terrible to be rushed!
Homeschooling mom to 4
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When you are late, you are saying that what you are doing NOW is more important than where you are GOING.
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