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Well, I feel like I've been hit on the head with several tons of bricks.
Spicyginger, I need to thank you.
I had subscribed to this thread four years ago or so, when I had a small baby and was informing myself about educational methods. I lurked for awhile and it was definitely this thread's influence that helped me to send my son (now 4) to a public kindergarten (here in Ontario, there is an extra earlier kindergarten year). He loves it and we love it. And he can READ. Ok, not very well, but he is only 4. And we are proud of him!
I never want him to feel like he should be ashamed for knowing things or wanting to learn things, no matter his age. Knowledge is a gift, and the human brain's capacity for knowledge and skill is a marvel.
I hadn't given the thread much thought for years, but since you posted in it, Spicyginger, and I was subscribed, what you wrote brought be back here. And I was compelled, for some reason, to read the WHOLE thread. And the WHOLE old closed thread. Oh, yes. It took me a whole week--over ten years of posts.
And I cried and cried. You see, this year, I have been experiencing workplace trauma--a hostile work environment. And I felt so alone, so angry and frustrated, so trapped, and so sad and confused. Also--very crazy. Because, the first "abusers" do, even in the workplace, is make you feel like you're getting upset over nothing, that all the things you're talking about never really happened, that there is no problem and that you are being DIFFICULT.
This thread is pretty dead now but it was extremely active for years, and included many brave stories from parents and teachers who were experiencing a hostile environment. And reading about other's experiences was so cathartic to me. I know it wasn't a *waldorf* problem exactly, but it validated my frustration and confusion and everything. I recognized so much in what everyone wrote.
The originator of the thread, Beansavi, isn't around anymore, but she is great. Very smart and extremely brave. She did a wonderful job of supporting other parents and making them feel heard for YEARS. Just reading the other parents' support of each other over the last decade was comforting to me.
Yeah, so, this is awkward. I am writing a thank you to nobody in a dead thread in what is pretty much a dead forum (sorry, Mothering). And I don't know why I wrote it but I did.
Spicyginger, I have a whole different perspective on your son's transition now. My main question for you is this: is he HAPPY where he is for now? Do you feel like his soul is being crushed--is he acting up in school, or afraid to go? Is he being bullied or hurt? Not just physically bullied, but emotionally--told he is dumb or no good or a troublemaker? If so, get him out NOW.
As some parent said at some point in the thread (it's all jumbled in my head) there is no need for closure for a student who is being mistreated. Those kids don't need closure, they need to be rescued. So if you feel your child is wilting at the school, don't wait for the next fairy festival--go now.
HOWEVER, if you kid seems basically fine and is not unhappy, then I don't see what difference 6 weeks will make in the grand scheme of things.