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[QUOTE=AbundantLife;9497670]Where to begin. I'm not posting this in the teens forum because this is more about me and my expectations/feelings as a parent than it is about him. He doesn't have many friends yet I feel that he should. If he would rather stay inside than go outside to play football, I feel like I want to push him out the door. He has a hard time in school so I have offered him the option of homeschool or a private school, yet DS seems determined to stay in his school and flounder. He doesn't care too much about what he looks like, so I always feel like I need to help him choose his clothes, brush his hair, etc. His choices of friends (the few he does have, which are neighborhood kids who are all younger than him) are not good choices and sometimes he agrees with me, but is reluctant to try to make new ones. He doesn't seem interested in girls or going to school dances, yet I feel that I am pressuring him when I ask him why.
He is a good kid, very loving, smart, and empathetic. He is not doing drugs, cutting school or engaging in any other "risky" behaviors.
I realize part of my problem lies in comparing my two sons. My oldest is 18 and a freshman in college. He was pretty much a dream to parent. He did well in school, was involved in sports, music, and had a good group of friends to socialize with. He is in college on a scholarship.
Do you think I am needlessly worried about my 14 yo? Reminding myself that I shouldn't compare doesn't do me any good. I know that, but I want the same kind of experiences for my youngest.[/QUOTE]
Maybe he doesn't.
He's not your older son, and there's nothing to say that he won't be just as happy, or happier being what HE wants to be.