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i feel like i belong here! :
i'm super empathetic, even to the point of feeling other folks physical pain. i've had many "prophetic" dreams, they always come true. there is always a difference in "those" dreams and other ones, if that makes sense. for some reason, people ALWAYS tell me their secrets, it's so bizarre. it happens so frequently though, it's got to be something more than i'm just easy to talk to. for example, last time i went out, i had thus guy in his 40's behind me in line at the grocery store with his probably 6 y/o kid. the guy went on and on about how his wife left him, his mom committed suicide, he doesn't know how to be a dad.... it's always a cry for help. then at the craft store, same day, a woman was telling me how she'd had an abortion, and it haunts her and she hears her baby crying every nite. she was crying and having this meltdown on me, and i'm like, "uh, i'm sorry?" i try to talk to these folks and be polite, but sometimes it's too much and i have to go ice queen or i start crying and feeling too much. i feel like i should start carrying around cards for therapists lol it really is hilarious and crazy, my husband and i will make bets on how many people will "talk" to me any time we go out.
i've always been able to gauge other people's emotions, i also know when someone is lying immediately. my husband is the same way. he's very good at reading vibes, and he's never been wrong in the 6 years we've been together.
this is all so very interesting to me, and i'm so glad i have a place to talk about this! i've felt crazy for far too long.
Originally Posted by Samm;12366035[SIZE=2
][/SIZE]Can you share some ways you are working on the fuzzy boundaries? Your post made me think we may need to do something similar, as the three of us here are quite empathetic (me, dh, dd).
My first thought was, "oh no, it's progressing even more... and so quick.". This man looked so real, as real as a living person but, I knew he wasn't. I've been see full body aparitions when waking from sleep late at night or very early in the morn when it's still dark for a few years now but, this is different. When I'm woken from sleep I'm still a bit out of it and have no fear because any hint of fear is still sleeping quite frankly. At night I can see, hear, and physically feel these people. But, during the day I had been pretty free of any any physical senses.
A few weeks ago, maybe a month I started hearing (with my ears) different people. Couldn't understand them but, could definatly hear them. It was so real that I actually hve to stop what I'm doing, be silent for a moment, and make sure it isn't an actual person around me... theres never anyone there (anyone living I mean). For months and months now I've been wondering when these things would progress into the day time and fully awake time. Looks like they are... and very quickly. The man I saw in my house last night was the next progression I suppose.
Luckily dh is very supportive about this. He could tell right after I saw this man that something was making me uncomfortable so I told him what I had seen. He grabbed one of our kitties and took her into ds's room and asked dd to stay out in the living room with me. Dh came back out a minute later and had me sit with him on the couch. Dh said that he looked up some things online awhile back to see if he could find anything that might help me with coping with all of this. I love kitties so naturally he looked to see if cats have any connection to the spirit world. He said that he read that cats can see and feel it all and will react negitivly, with fight or flight if something unseen to us makes them uncomfortable. He said that any time I see or feel something he will have one of our kitties check it out. He said our cat was fine when he took her into the room so if something was there it wasn't negitive. I love dh .
Hey Tracy, you post gave me the chills and I can definitely commiserate. So far things have not progressed to that extent with me during the daytime. I've seen more "shadow" people for lack of a better example, but only a couple different times the and it's pretty quick, like they are hiding from me as well.
I'm glad your husband is so understanding, that is such a huge help. For the most part my husband has been a huge nay-sayer and I've been reluctant to tell him all of my experiences. Of course that was before he had a couple of his own experiences recently.
It's true about animals. I do think that animals sense these things. In my experience the cats in my house are much more relaxed about it though. I'll see them tracking invisible things with their eyes or running off in a huff, but they seen to enjoy it, like it's some play thing. Now, one of my dogs reacts totally differently and in all honesty if I start to get really creeped out, she comes inside to hang out with me.
The last thing that happened was my daughter was having a bit of a freak out and refused to be upstairs any longer. This is odd for her, especially if I'm with her (co-sleeping), and it was late and very much past bedtime. After realizing there would be no calming her, I decided bring her downstairs to nurse her on the sofa till she fell asleep.
The stairwell is the center of our home and also the center of a lot of paranormal stuff. As I was going down the stais I started feeling really anxious, watched and completely unnerved. I got about halfway down and saw my dog, Zoe, bare her teeth and give out a little growl. She was looking directly behind me as I was walking down. She's not a growly type dog and it was weird to see her reacting so strongly, especially to something I couldn't see!
I'm just a bit worried because at night when I woken the people who come to me are so real and vivid. All of my senses are able to expereince them. So I'm worried that one day all of a sudden I'll just be able to see all these people standing there, looking, sounding, and feeling just as real. Scary thought I guess.
Ya, that would be distressing to me as well. Not only that, very distracting to try and go about your normal day and trying to guess what's paranormal and what's normal.
I'm no expert, I'm just now accepting and learning myself, but I do know there are ways to filter it. I don't know how, but maybe some more experienced women can chime in on this. If I were you I would start researching this now, before it becomes a big issue. It may never become a big problem, but knowledge is power and it would probably make you feel better to know what to do in that event, just in case.
If I find anything out about it, I will definately post for ya.
I think people could tell me what to do in the case that I start seeing them during the day while not groggy from sleep BUT, I think I'd just react and be freaked out. I'm pretty sure I'd know they aren't your regular people but, seeing them so real and for more than a couple seconds I imagine would just freak me out. QUOTE]
My dh used to have lots of experiences where he would awaken and there would be multiple beings watching him sleep...either hovering over him or collected in the room where he slept. As soon as 'they' saw that he was awake, they would fade into the walls.
He always felt like they were watching over him, not wishing to get anything from him.
I think most of that stopped (or at least he stopped being sensitive to it) when we got our cocker spaniel. She didn't usually bark at anything, but sometimes she would sit and stare into a corner for hours without moving away.
Dh also sometimes saw people around our house, though again, never in a threatening way.
One time when he was still at work I could very clearly feel a presence in the house...I could tell it was an older man and that he really, really, really wanted to make contact. I could feel that there was a woman with him, though 'behind' him and not wanting to be noticed.
This was the first time I ever felt anyone's presence (though I never doubted what dh felt and saw) and it freaked me out a little. I just asked that this man, he gave me his name as Henry, just wait until dh got home, because I knew I would feel safer with him with me. The man immediately retreated and I could tell I was alone again.
After dh came home, we were sitting on our bed and I was telling him about the whole thing and I could feel Henry standing in the doorway to our bedroom watching. I could clearly feel that he didn't want to intrude, and therefore wouldn't come into the room without invitation.
I told dh that Henry said that they were very lonely. Dh was dealing with some stress at work and said he just 'couldn't deal with it right now' and Henry and his wife faded away again.
I never had another encounter with Henry, but I always felt that other spirits were sharing that house with us.
Fast forward a decade to just this last year... I was constantly catching a glimpse of a figure in doorways in our house. I felt no animosity from the figure and I could never see it if I looked straight that way, it was always a shape I could only catch in the periphery of my vision.
One time dh saw a dark male figure standing near our toddler-daughter watching her play. He felt no fear either.
Unlike the time before, I was not freaked. I just told the spirit that it was welcome as long as it was a benevolent spirit. I told it that it could stay as long as it meant no harm. I told it that it was welcome to make itself more visible or communicate with us.
But then we moved.
Anyway, I'm sorry this is so long-winded...I would say that you should tell the spirits hovering about you/your house what you are comfortable with. You can say that you are kinda freaked out by somethings, but others are ok. You can tell them to come to you in specific ways or at specific times. You can let them know if they are welcome.
And I think it's totally normal for a spirit to check out the new baby's room...I think they are drawn to these new ones.
I haven't felt any spirits in our apt...but it's a rather soul-less place.
I have always found the whole thing confusing.
For example, why do I get stuff for other people, or get random idiotic stuff for myself, but on 3 separate occasions I went to work for people who accused me of stealing from them and got no warning at all until right before I was accused??? : Wouldn't it make more sense for me to get a warning like Don't go to work for those whacko UAVs because they'll accuse you of stealing and have no clue who it really is???
In one instance, I got the warning and a distinct don't freak out admonition, so I was like uh, OK? A few weeks later I bumped into one of my former coworkers and found out they had closed up in the dead of night and most everyone else lost their last couple of paychecks because they couldn't cash them. I, on the other hand, had a new job within a couple of days.
I don't get it. Why not avoid the whole situation in the first place?
And then there's this one...I got a warning one day as a friend was about to leave a party at our house and begged him not to leave, because I knew something bad was going to happen. I knew he wasn't legally drunk because he was the person who always watched out to make sure nobody else drove impaired, but I had a bad feeling...he insisted he had to go, couldn't be dissuaded. A few blocks from our house was the entrance to a highway and on the highway was a mysteriously parked dark vehicle in the fast lane with no flares no lights, nothing. No streetlights, and the occupants who later claimed to be undercover policemen were hiding in the ditch waiting for someone to hit it. Our friend was arguing with his wife, something that had been ongoing most of the evening, and probably contributed to him not seeing the vehicle in time to miss it. The situation was bizarre and got weirder, and when he went to court they didn't have to identify themselves, the vehicle didn't exist, it was never identified for his insurance...it was like he wrecked with nothing. They of course claimed they had received a call about a drunk driver and used a breathalyzer as evidence. Well...you can't refute a breathalyzer because there is nothing to retest. You can have blood retested by a second lab because they still have it..air it gone. Ok, so I got a warning, and I tried.
Now, a few weeks ago, my dh has to get up and go to work at 330ish in the morning and I don't have to get up till 5. At about 4 I wake up, but because I take drugs for a sleep disorder, I'm a little groggy (I'm assuming my sleep drugs screw up my psychic receptors?) and not quite sure why I'm awake early, no real 'knowing' like I usually get, but I know I'm awake for a reason, then the phone rings and it's my husband telling me he just drove off a cliff after a dog ran in front of him on wet pavement.
Um....why no warning for this one? For days we're going gee, this psychic stuff is great, isn't it, no little clues that your dh is gonna go sailing off a cliff in the middle of the night? Nothing?
He literally sailed off into the air, went down about 50 feet, landed between 2 other cars that had gone off at other times and been left down there because it's nearly impossible to get them out, and climbed back up out because he had no cell reception down there and was relatively unhurt. The airbags did not go off. : The dome light that has not worked for months suddenly did and that's how he found the flashlight and tools that came flying past his head when the car landed. He said he checked the other 2 cars for bodies, climbed up, double checked to be sure he really was unhurt and then called me. Then he flagged down one of his coworkers going by and went on to work. :
We went by the next day, and there was no sign that a car went off the road. You cannot see from the road that there are cars down there. If he had been hurt or killed we wouldn't have found him for who knows how long. Then he goes to work and one of his coworkers tells him about a guy he knows who swerved to avoid a dog in the road, hit a pole, the dog is fine, but his dog in the car died and he's paralyzed from the neck down.
This week another guy some of his coworkers knew went off the road and was missing for several days before he was found by a roadworker. It happens here because of the way the land is and it scares the out of me to drive at night because some tailgater could send you spinning right off the edge if they hit you.
Now, here's the silver lining...his parents freaked out and wired us money to buy a new car the next day. We have a clunker car and a gas hog truck that we use to haul stuff and they said they didn't want him driving anything unsafe to work in case anything happened again. I can't get over how lucky he is, and I'm completely flabbergasted that they did this...but yk, wheel of fortune came here a few weeks ago and I'd have rather gotten a car that way than had this scare.
So...I'm always left wondering why things happen the way they do and why I get the warnings I do, but the ones I don't get or the ones that come in sideways seem to benefit me/us in a strange way.
I must have been a hellion in a previous life or something....I can't help thinking all the : moments have to be earned somehow.
I totally agree! Maybe if I understood the rhyme or reason of what I feel and from whom, this would all be a better thing...Alas, no instruction manual came along with the ability to feel the emotions of other people.
I am trying to work on having control of my receptors, though.
I meditate both as I go to sleep at night and as I shower in the morning to cover myself and my family in a protective white light that will allow me to not be buffetted around by the emotions/fears/turbulence of people I don't even know. This (I think) helps me to hone in on what my actual children are feeling so as to be more responsive to their and my needs.
Always while I meditate someone else comes to mind, so I send them protective energy as well.
I am hopeful that this empathic ability, like other abilities, will become more logical with practice and intention. Not controllable, mind you, how can a person control what they don't fully understand. Just somewhat more predictable and clear.
Of course I don't see apparitions, and even though I sense presences, it's not often. For me it's about the empath stuff -- feeling the emotions and sometimes physical sensations of others. So I need to know how to block those when I need to be present in my own reality. And I need to know how and when to open myself to these sensations in a way that doesn't upend me.
I'm not confused by it all, though. I guess it's because I don't expect it to be logical in the first place, KWIM? Growing up with a grandmother who had 'the gift' of foresight maybe has me in a different place. I understood, even as a child, that grandma was a recipient of information. And with each message, she had to choose whether or not to act on the information given. She knew that she couldn't decide what information to get...but that she could decide what to do afterwards. That she and I talked about from time to time.
She never believed (as far as I know) that she was meant to change what was about to happen -- but rather believed that she was given this information to make herself (and sometimes others) emotionally/spiritually/psychologically ready for what was coming.
I believe that my experiences are coming with a greater frequency because I am open to understanding it all more now. And I think all the little things that are happening are helping me to hone in on what is next...and what I want to do with it.