Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: near Nashville, Tenn.
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I would love to have one more (we have one son, 2.5 years old, already), but it's not looking very likely. We haven't completely ruled out trying to have another, but I've had three losses in the past 11 months, one of which was due to Trisomy 13, and I'm 38 years old, so we're fairly high up in the risky department.
Some days I'm fine with having only one - I think about being able to have some of my life back, in terms of focusing on my hobbies and spending time on myself; about him being old enough to appreciate and put up with travelling around the country and, eventually, to other countries; I think that it will make things easier in terms of affording all the things we want to give him. But I loved being pregnant and breastfeeding, in spite of the discomforts; I ache to hold a wee baby of my own again.; and I want to go through all the firsts again, one last time. When I think of not having another child, I feel the way previous posters have mentioned - I mourn the child I may never have, and I am sad to think that my body may never carry and nourish another tiny life.