The thread was too long to for me to read in its entirety, but I sure found a load of good points.
Like some of the others, I believe that feminism is not meant to be prescriptive; it's meant to give women a choice that is acceptable to them. Patriarchal society is just behind ~ it makes it hard for us to combine working and having kids, it still want to make our choices on how to birth and feed our children, and now that women have cracked at least a few glass ceilings it came up with a new beauty ideal that takes our femininity away by trying to make us look like non-threatening pre-adolescent boys.
Of course sahm, wahm, and wohm shouldn't pit against each other. That's just what the powers that be want and expect: us being unable to solve our differences. So they can step in and once again "solve" everything for us. I wah, not just for the money but also because I like to stimulate myself intellectually. Since dh does the same, the money usually ends up being the most important reason because we hardly make doodlysquat~LOL~ but I don't think any worse of women who made and make different choices.
And I fiercely believe capitalism is the big evil. NOt just consumerism, tho that's bad enough, but especially the uneven division of capital. Several comments on this thread suggested that a couple of lawyers make a lot of money, and they do when we on the bottom look up at it, but the real culprit are the 5% that own 70% of the money in the US! YEs, 5%, having 70%!!! Don't even think that the lawyers, doctors and other "good lifestyle" people are in that range. And fyi I'm not in that middle range either ~ dh and I were quite impressed with ourselves when we saw our w2's add up to almost 30K (and the wonderful people at MasterCard love us too
Feminism should bring us together, not break us into little groups. Society can take care of that well enough, as we all know. By educating our children, we can hope that in 30 years our daughters and sons look back on this era and feel proud of the possibilities they have, thanks to us and our sisters. And maybe laugh a bit at poor ol' mom who didn't get it quite yet