I agree that the name of the thread should be changed in one way or another, but still, there are things that I need to go ahead and say. I'm just touching on the few things that really stood out to me, but I'm only skimming the surface here....
|I'm not against feminism in it's true form. I just feel the point was lost somewhere. Feminism needs to be re-thought and revived.
From the first post, I felt like there was an idea that "feminism" was something that could clearly be pointed out, like a Democrat or a Republican. But there is no Grand Council of Feminism; it's not something you can join like a political party. There is no party line.
The effects of feminism on the family can hardly be measured here, because we can't even agree on what feminism is, much less what it means, or what kind of value it has brought to our lives as women. Some women in this thread have posted really terrific ideas about their beliefs as feminists, and the way they define themselves makes it difficult to ascribe the sins cited as those of these feminists. It's never going to be as simple as "Feminism put women in the workplace, harming children", or "Feminism made premarital sex okay (thank GOD!) accounting for infidelity." The last one really got me, in essence it's like saying: "Feminism is responsible for the moral weakness of men." !!??!!
I am a feminist, but I disagree with much of what others who call themselves feminists say. That's fine. No one owns the concept. The one thing "feminists" generally agree on is that women should have all the freedoms and rights that men have. My understanding of feminism includes men, who should have the same rights as women do, for example, more flexible jobs so that they can be truly involved parents.
|Feminism DID NOT FALL SHORT OF MAKING US EQUAL. It has a long way to go.
Even here we are taking a step in the right direction. Talking about feminism means that we are taking part in the evolution of the concept. We are discussing ways to expand the opportunities for women, regardless of how we see that happening. If feminism drove women into a corporate culture that stripped us of some of what made our lives valuable, maybe it wasn't feminism, but CORPORATE CULTURE that's the problem. My husband, working at a corporate job, was deprived of much of what he needs to have a good life. Time off if his children were sick, paternity leave, more than two weeks vacation...
The good news is that we, as feminists, have the power to change that. Better family policy, more involved husbands (that's one great thing feminism has brought us!) and the CHOICE to have different configurations for combining work and family so that we have real choices about working or not...those are all things in the future of feminism (as I see it!).
By the way, I think childcare can be a very nice *supplement* in a child's life. My kids would have a fit if I tried to pull them out of their very cool Montessori school. They love having their own social circle and community. I do think that some very insulting statements about childcare have been made in this thread, although I feel the same way about much childcare available. But responsible, involved parents find rewarding alternatives for their children, no matter what configuration they choose in order to do so.