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It'd be nice if we could chat about General Conference and how we prepare ourselves and children for it and as always great children activities!

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I gave a talk on Sunday about spiritual and physical preparedness. It went very well and I loved giving it, and more than that I loved researching for my talk. I got to talk about a lot of crunchy aspects of Mormondom that most people don't really participate in as much as they used to. I stopped short of telling people to store reusable items in their year's supply such as cloth diapers, but I was this close to adding it in.

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subbing. I have been taking a breather from MDC, but I enjoy reading & lurking.

I'm ZZ, I am a convert of 17 years. Married for 15. 4 kiddos, My son just started passing the sacrament which is so weird because it seems just yesterday he was only 5!

My husband has been a councler in the bishopric for 4 years, I am the ward party girl for 4 years.

G.C. is close! We prepare by baking...lots of baking... sweets. That's all I got. We watch G.C on our computer most of the time. My husband & I switch off watching it at church. Sundays we bring the kids for morning session, then we arm wrestle for who will go in the afternoon.

Then, when all else fails....because each year it does fail in someway, I don't stress about it becasue I know the Ensign will come out soon
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Spring break is the week after GC this year, so we are heading to Utah to visit the ILs. We were able to get tickets for the Sunday sessions of GC and I am excited to be in the Conference Center for GC! We normally just watch on our computer or go hang out at my parent's house and watch it there (they have dish and get BYU TV).

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I am the ward party girl for 4 years.
Does this mean "activity chair person"? I never heard of that before! I'm laughing all over the place ...

I've just been released as the Primary president, and I'm now the RS pianist (knew it would be a music calling again) and choir director after the baby is a couple months old. We'll see exactly when that works out ...
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Hi, everyone!

So we got a new home teacher, well, him and his son, and they are so AWESOME!!!! We are in love, lol!

He gave us this whole loving lecture about how this is the hard part of our family years (with the little ones) and how our family needs to come first and it's okay if our two-year-old is too loud for chapel, don't feel bad, just sit with him in the nursery room (which has speakers) or something, if that's what we feel comfortable with, and don't feel bad because he's not being quiet. He went off on this lecture (uh, vent?) about how reverent does not mean "quiet" when you are two years old, and how the church isn't even supposed to teach the little kids that anymore (I hadn't heard about that?) Anyway, it was refreshing and validating. Seriously, I felt so relieved I could cry. He was just really nice and supportive. Oh, and he and his wife (who is awesome too!) gifted us about 13 or so Book of Mormon DVDs for the kids. :

I guess Heavenly Father knew who we needed.

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Wow, I didn't know they made BOM dvds for kids! That's awesome.

I like the article in March's Ensign about getting the kids ready for GC. Most of those things are new ideas for me, so I'm excited to try some of them out!

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We'll be skipping GC this time. It's too hard with our 2yo.

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You can get it online live. BYU TV dot com or something.

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First off, I am so happy to announce that our family is finally getting sealed together. : We are going to go to the Boise temple, because it is closer for our parents to be able to come. On March 31st my DH and I get our endowments and then on April 1st we will be sealed together with each other and our 3 boys.

So this year we are planning on staying in Idaho for GC and just watch it on my IL's television.
Most years we have to drag ourselves to the church for all the sessions, because our dial-up internet is too slow to load the sessions. Most years to prepare I print off lots of coloring pages, dot-to-dots, mazes. I also look around the internet for conference packets to help keep my kids entertained. There is a nice one here, it is mostly the same for every conference and she just updates little things that might have changed. We have also gotten one off of www.Sugardoodle.com in the past. Sorry i do not have a direct link to that one.

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Sugardoodle package

It's dot net not dot com. Dot com is a cat lovers site I do that all the time!

Thanks Alisha!

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You can get it online live. BYU TV dot com or something.
Great idea!!!

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Anyone know of any good GC activities for adults? I'm not saying like fun stuff but rather study helps if that makes sense.

Those packages for kids are great but my LOs are still too young.

I found some coloring pages and also bingo boards....

http://theideadoor.com/coloring_pages.htm
http://lds.about.com/library/bl/genconf/nbingo3.htm

I'm trying to think of more ideas. I know that I have wanted to create GC traditions in the past like when Daddy goes to Priesthood having a girl's night (doing our nails or something with scriptures and such of course). I also wanted to do a big inventory and additions to food storage between Saturday sessions. I think every 6 months is great for that. I think a pancake breakfast in front of the TV would be cool too and get them more interested.

A big argument between DH and I in our home is about whether or not we should dress church appropriate for GC at home. I say yes he says PJs are fine. Thoughts?

I like the idea of having lots of activities for the kiddos on the living room floor in front of the TV so they *want* to stay in front of the TV. It may not matter much for a 1 year old now but I'm really hoping it will become a GC habit, ykwim?

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I have found there are some things (with DH) that aren't worth the "argument." If you're home, and comfortable in nicer clothes (like churchish) then wear them for GC. He may be totally fine in PJs. DH doesn't need to change his appearance/location to moderate how he's feeling the Spirit. I have felt that I do better if I'm wearing pretty nice clothes. I usually tend to wear "nicer" (like a denim skirt) but not "really nice" church clothes on GC Sunday, but we've done massive house reorganization stuff on GC Saturday, while listening to the sessions online. We try to keep the Sabbath aspect, and keep our hands busy. I know some people who used to knit or cross stitch during GC. That bugged me on Sunday, b/c I always felt like hand crafts were "work." (personal opinion). But it seemed OK on Saturday.

When I don't have a baby in tow, I take notes and bring my scriptures to do a more interactive GC experience for myself. It's a bit of overkill, but you know, we try.
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I'm listening to dd2 complain b/c she has the natural consequences of cleaning out her lunch bag which she left on the floor for 2 days, and ants found it. I told her it would cost $20 (of her allowance) if I cleaned it out, b/c I specifically mentioned that ants were coming in our house more and it was at risk. They are responsible for cleaning out their lunch bags each time they take lunch to school.

I'm just tired of her beefing about a few little ants. She's almost 9.
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I think it is respectful to get dressed like you were in church. That and not lie down on the floor or couch to watch. However, I usually only watch one session, not all four. If I were to watch on Saturday, I'd be doing other things as well, but Sunday is not a "break" from going to church, it's a day to worship with undivided attention (at least for one session), just as I would in sacrament meeting.

Well, worship with kids never allows me to give undivided attention anymore, you know what I mean.

Thanks for those links, I'm going to check out those GC packages for my kids!

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I think a pancake breakfast in front of the TV would be cool too and get them more interested.
mom always used to make a big breakfast on saturday, and we'd pull the piano bench up in front of the couch (as a table) and eat in the living room. We NEVER ate anywhere except the table, so it was a BIG deal.


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A big argument between DH and I in our home is about whether or not we should dress church appropriate for GC at home. I say yes he says PJs are fine. Thoughts?
we always wore regular church clothes on sunday, but we also were always attending at the chapel. On saturday it could be toned down, but it wasn't jammies or jeans... eg: the boys might wear a polo shirt but not a button down with a tie, and the girls might wear a playdress...
For myself, I think that dressing up helps us remember what we're doing...when we lived in utah and watched every session on TV (they don't even broadcast it to the chapels), we didn't dress up on saturday because we were working in the garden between sessions and stuff like that...but on sunday we did dress up.


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I like the idea of having lots of activities for the kiddos on the living room floor in front of the TV so they *want* to stay in front of the TV. It may not matter much for a 1 year old now but I'm really hoping it will become a GC habit, ykwim?
i make bingo for my kids, and let them put cheerios or something on them. When you hear a topic mentioned you get to fill in the square, and when you get a bingo, you get to eat everything from the row We make the bingo board with a whole bunch of gospel topics--we draw pictures for littler ones, but i also put a word or two for older ones (eg, prophet, temple, families, atonement, etc). When DS1 was 4 and 5 that would usually keep him focused for a good half hour at least.

As they get older (ie, now that DS can write), I ask him to try to take notes (either written words or draw a picture) of one thing from each talk. So he doesn't have to listen intently to every word, but I ask him to try to at least get one thing every so often...by the time I was 8 we were all sitting through every session w/o toys, but DH isn't convinced that kids can handle it (oh the differences in our upbringings could fill volumes!), so it usually ends up being at least for all the apostles, or for the first few speakers of each session, or something like that... Again, the point not being to sit still the entire time, but to at least pay attention to parts and try to make sense of them, kwim? The bingo helps with that too.

I've seen checklists that are on the same idea as the bingo or 'notes'...listen for certain topics and check them off the list. (I think the true brilliance of the bingo is the eating though...try a different cereal for each session )

For FHE the week before we talk about prophets, and try to help them get excited about how we have a living prophet that we can listen to.
While I don't ask my kids to sit still and 'listen' the entire time, (I try to keep them in the room, but they can play quietly), I do ask them to put down their toys and try to pay attention at least when the prophet is talking. That ends up being 5 min on saturday morning, 10 min whenever he gives his official talk, and then another 5-10 min in one or two other sessions, depending on if he does a Sunday welcome, and how long his closing remarks are on sunday afternoon. I think it's a good way to start practicing listening, but to adjust to it gradually, kwim?

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We try to keep the Sabbath aspect, and keep our hands busy. I know some people who used to knit or cross stitch during GC. That bugged me on Sunday, b/c I always felt like hand crafts were "work." (personal opinion). But it seemed OK on Saturday.
My DH has never been a note taker, whereas I was raised tot ake notes since I was tiny... (as I mentioned in my pp). I do feel like I retain more sometimes when I take notes, but on the other hand when I'm focused on taking notes I don't always get the same feelings from conference, because I'm busy taking notes... so sometimes I like to just sit and absorb...it means that afterwards I usually can't remember who said waht, but I do have warm fuzzies.
DH often does cross-stitching during conference (yes, I said DH, )...I have sometimes too. Now that I knit I knit sometimes. I find that it keeps my hands busy so that my mind is able to pay attention, so for me it helps. I understand the 'work' perspective, and I wouldn't being doing mending or soemthing, and I would NOT work on a project that I was doing for pay (my definition of 'work'), but if it's a hobby/pleasure project, (something for me/the family that I'm doing because I like to) then I think it's fine on the Sabbath. Frankly I've taken handwork to sunday school too (or at least I used to before I had a child in arms!) I think it just really depends on how you feel about the 'work'--whether it's work or play for you.

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It's ok Jenni! My DH crochets (better than I do I might add).

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It's ok Jenni! My DH crochets (better than I do I might add).
Oh I'm better than he is, it's just funny to see my big scruffy bearded husband with a tiny little needle cross-stitching some elaborate birdhouse or something.

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We probably need to give these guys the benefit of the doubt. As a (now former) Primary president, how many of the 7 to 11 year old boys would do better in Primary if we gave them a cross stitch project to work on while teaching the lesson to them? Probably your dh's know what works for them to sit for a long time ...

My DH also has cross-stitched in the past, he liked the counting and filling in squares as a kid and teenager especially.

My ds is especially interested in yarn crafts, and if I did more he probably would be crocheting well. One day I had him chaining a long chain during rest time by hand ...
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If we gave the boys in our primary cross stitching they would be poking each other - tying embroidery floss all over the chairs and each other, etc. LOL I think during conference things like that are ok - my mom always worked on her cross stitching during conference. In other areas though I think it's distracting and even though it is often a mindless hobby - the person teaching a lesson might not understand it.

I look through all the past issues of The Friend online and print out fun things they have to do. We also do bingo - the kids make their own cards with different gospel topics.

We don't dress up and we usually bake a yummy breakfast. We only listen to conference since we don't have a tv and we don't take notes. I feel the same as Jenni - when I'm too busy writing things down I don't really get to experience them. If I love something a lot I might make a note of it so I can remember to read it in the Ensign the next month.

I don't expect the kids to be able to sit still - especially with just listening to it - but we do have them listen when the Prophet speaks and if any speakers direct their talk towards children we have them listen. Other than that the rule is that they have to be (fairly) quiet.
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Oh I'm better than he is, it's just funny to see my big scruffy bearded husband with a tiny little needle cross-stitching some elaborate birdhouse or something.
We had a brother in our ward who I have known for quite some time. Anywho we went over to his house for a get together and his wife pulled out this beautifully crafted cross stitch image of Christ that was a replica of the classic LDS picture of Christ by Francis something-or-other. I mean this thing was a work of art! All the women and some men (including my DH) were standing around ooing and awing at this gem and praising her and she just laughs and goes "I didn't do it my husband did". We were shocked! This thing belonged in an elaborate frame on some art studio's wall it was so good.

This is the image I am referring to but more centered on his face and neck.

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I am really having a hard time.

DH was disfellowshipped in November 2006. He worked his butt off and had a second disciplinary council in Dec 2007. At that time, the bishop told us that we could not be sealed in the temple yet, but that DH could start using his priesthood and -IIRC- was now back to full membership status in the church. DH got a home teaching route (with the Elder's Quorum Pres no less) and he gave me several blessings and gave Toby several blessings, including his official church baby blessing.

Then we moved out of the ward, and we've been living in a different state for almost a year. We haven't been particularly active, but we were getting geared up for a major shift in lifestyle, meaning starting going to church more and participating more. We want to be sealed soon.

DH got a call from the bishop this week and went in to talk to him. Apparently, the records still say he is disfellowshipped. New Bish called Old bish and OB said that DH was never un-disfellowshipped. But if that's the case, why did OB let DH do home teaching? Why did he let DH give Toby a blessing IN SACRAMENT MEETING?! What the HECK?! So now New Bish is saying DH is still disfellowshipped and there will be another council in a few months.

I'm very upset about the whole thing. I clashed a couple of times with Old BIshop but thought it was just pregnancy hormones for the most part. Now I've realized that he was just a jerk to us the whole time we were there, really. And now this is going on and I'm not sure what to do. I'm mad, and I don't know what to do about this because if I go to new bishop and talk to him I'm afraid he'll be like "well, you're so defensive, obviously you have more repenting to do." You know? But grr. So now what, is Toby's baby blessing invalid? AAAARGH.

I'm also struggling because I just got sterilized the other day and I'm really bummed about it. I wanted more babies but if I get pregnant again I'll die, so we went ahead and had the surgery. Now I feel like a failure as a Mormon.

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Kris!

It took me a year and a half of back and forth to be in good standing with the church after my disfellowshipment. I'm sorry! It is so frustrating I know.

I don't know what your old Bishop was thinking. That i just odd. Did you receive a letter saying DH had been reinstated? They ALWAYS send a letter. It's policy.

You're not a lesser Mormon or daughter of God for doing what you had to do. Period. And your sons blessing shouldn't be invalid because it was the Bishop's bad not your DH's.

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First off, I am so happy to announce that our family is finally getting sealed together. : We are going to go to the Boise temple, because it is closer for our parents to be able to come. On March 31st my DH and I get our endowments and then on April 1st we will be sealed together with each other and our 3 boys.
Ancoda, Congratulations! : I hope your sealing was absolutely perfect and wonderful. What a special, special day for you and your family.

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I am really having a hard time.
I'm sorry you're going through this. I can't even imagine how frustrated you must be. It sounds like your old bishop really didn't handle things well and I don't blame you for being upset. But, as long as your baby is showing up on the church records then its official. And as Magstphil said, its the bishop's fault not yours. So don't feel bad about it.

And please, please don't feel like you're a failure as a Mormon because you can't have more children. We do what we have to do and Heavenly Father understands that. He knows the desires of your heart and what you would do if you could. If that made you a failure there would be no hope for me. My DD may very well be an only child, not because we can't have more but because DH really doesn't think he wants another.
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Krisis, I feel the same way - I got preggers before marriage, then married a non-member, and now I'm getting a divorce (3 children later). There's no such thing as one kind of "Mormon", seriously. Don't be so hard on yourself.

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So now what, is Toby's baby blessing invalid?
I'm gonna say no. For one thing, baby blessings are not an official ordinance...they are an opportunity to formally present the child to the Lord, put his name on the church records, etc, but it's not an ordinance. So while the blessing part is given via the priesthood, you and your DH were both acting on good faith that he was refellowshipped, so I don't think anything is invalid. Your OB may have some things to answer for, but not you.

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I'm also struggling because I just got sterilized the other day and I'm really bummed about it. I wanted more babies but if I get pregnant again I'll die, so we went ahead and had the surgery. Now I feel like a failure as a Mormon.
Please know that you are not the only mormon mommy who's faced the fact that she's going to have a small family, or who has needed to medically remove the possibility of future pregnancies. On the one hand, there's always adoption, but on the other hand, I think the really important thing is to make family planning type decisions with the Lord as part of your process. It sounds like you had a darn good medical reason for getting the surgery, and I believe that God understands that.
I haven't told anyone else this yet, but I had the thought cross my mind the other day that the baby I'm carrying is my last bio child. I've always wanted a big family, but the process has been harder than I'd ever anticipated, as I am a chronic miscarry-er. I honestly have no idea what the future holds. My oldest DS is adopted (step-son adoption), and it took several years to get my second DS (first bio). Between them, I had dreams about giving birth to a little boy, so I knew I would have at least one bio child...but I never knew if I would be able to have more than one, or if I'd be mostly an adoptive mother. (I had been looking into a lot of adoption options before conceiving DS2, and am still interested down the road probably...) Anyway, DH and I both had the feeling when I was pregnant with DS2 that my days of miscarrying were over--we both had the strong feeling that the miscarriages had been specifically to delay DS2 because there was something else we needed to get done (I conceived the cycle after we completed DS1's legal adoption)... so we figured we'd go on to have several more kids the old fashioned way. Then it took me over 2 years to conceive this time, and now I'm getting this premonition about not having others after this one...I don't know. I will take what comes, but I guess it's just coming home in a very personal way that some families are 'full' with 9 or 12 children, but some are 'full' with just a couple. And that's ok.

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