Catholics: A question about Godparents - Mothering Forums

Forum Jump: 
 
Thread Tools
#1 of 4 Old 07-08-2009, 03:00 PM - Thread Starter
 
MrsMike's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,920
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
My husband's aunt is my son's Godmother. Three years ago it seemed like a good choice. In the past year she has put my husband through hell and we really don't want anything to do with her. Her actions are as un-Christian as one can get. On the surface, we no longer consider her David's Godmother. Is there something I can do through the Church to strip her off that "title?" It's easy to say, "well, just name someone else and forget about it," but if there is an official way to do this through the Church then I want to do it. I will call them, but I wanted to ask friendlier people first.

Jenn treehugger.gifmama to Monkeylearning.gifSquishyenergy.gif& Riverangel1.gif(8wks)Wife to Mikejog.gif See you at the rainbow1284.gif Bridge, Abigael cat.gifand McKenna dog2.gifgd.gifnamaste.giffamilybed2.gifbellyhair.gifcaffix.gifcrochetsmilie.gifom.gifknit.gifcomputergeek2.gif

MrsMike is offline  
#2 of 4 Old 07-08-2009, 04:00 PM
 
spero's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2003
Location: the back of beyond
Posts: 9,917
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by MrsMike View Post
Is there something I can do through the Church to strip her off that "title?"
Unfortunately, no. The official records can't be changed.

Every baptized Christian is, or should be, someone with an actual (disturbing) experience, ... a close encounter, with God; someone who, as a result, becomes a disturbing presence to others. - Fr. Anthony J. Gittins, A Presence That Disturbs
spero is offline  
#3 of 4 Old 07-08-2009, 08:49 PM
 
BMG580's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Posts: 1,176
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Quote:
Originally Posted by MommytoC View Post
I recall that the reason is because the godparents are also the witnesses of baptism. I don't know if it's possible to have a set of witnesses and a set of godparents at the baptism, but that's the reason it can't be changed on the baptismal certificate.

But I do believe in practice you can have another godparent. In other words, you can seek someone out to be your child's godparent who meets the church's requirements, but the person's name would not appear on any official records.
3 of the 4 godparents for my children were not present at their baptisms. We had proxies stand in. I also do not believe it is possible to have the official record changed, you could always add a godfather for your child so they have one godparent that the family is in contact with.

"Hey, I've got nothin' to do today but smile." - S & G
BMG580 is offline  
#4 of 4 Old 07-10-2009, 10:33 PM - Thread Starter
 
MrsMike's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,920
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Bummer. We do have a godfather who was present at the Baptism, but the church doesn't recognize him and wouldn't put his name on the certificate because he doesn't go to Mass enough. But, I can't dismiss the godmother who is no longer Catholic or any type of Christian person. Another Oh well. In my eyes she is no longer the godmother anyway. I was just hoping to make it official. Thanks for the responses.

Jenn treehugger.gifmama to Monkeylearning.gifSquishyenergy.gif& Riverangel1.gif(8wks)Wife to Mikejog.gif See you at the rainbow1284.gif Bridge, Abigael cat.gifand McKenna dog2.gifgd.gifnamaste.giffamilybed2.gifbellyhair.gifcaffix.gifcrochetsmilie.gifom.gifknit.gifcomputergeek2.gif

MrsMike is offline  
Reply

Quick Reply
Message:
Drag and Drop File Upload
Drag files here to attach!
Upload Progress: 0
Options

Register Now

In order to be able to post messages on the Mothering Forums forums, you must first register.
Please enter your desired user name, your email address and other required details in the form below.
User Name:
If you do not want to register, fill this field only and the name will be used as user name for your post.
Password
Please enter a password for your user account. Note that passwords are case-sensitive.
Password:
Confirm Password:
Email Address
Please enter a valid email address for yourself.
Email Address:

Log-in

Human Verification

In order to verify that you are a human and not a spam bot, please enter the answer into the following box below based on the instructions contained in the graphic.



User Tag List

Thread Tools
Show Printable Version Show Printable Version
Email this Page Email this Page


Forum Jump: 

Posting Rules  
You may post new threads
You may post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are On
Pingbacks are On
Refbacks are Off