It REALLY REALLY depends on the church, the situation, and who contacted you. In some larger churches it really is a numbers game (its sad, but true) and they automatically send out cards after a certain time just to make sure their numbers don't drop. At other churches this is a really personal thing, and the cards are sent by someone who honestly cares about you. I used to send out the cards/make phone calls for the kids in our church. I always made the cards personal, and didn't use pre-printed ones, and those seemed way too impersonal.
So, I'd have to agree with everyone that says it can go either way. I always liked to make personal phone calls to families who didn't show up. And I always called families in bad situations, to make sure things were ok, and they had the basics they needed (some kids in our church were too poor to eat dinner every night).
- Mom to Baby Mark (9/18/10) and 4 wonderful dogs!