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#31 of 39 Old 04-09-2010, 07:47 PM
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I would talk to your friend. It might not be an issue. They trust you and it might not be an issue. It might not matter to them.
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Nope. I hold my beliefs because I believe they are true (not just valuable or life-affirming or enriching or what-have-you), so teaching contradictory beliefs would not only be dishonest, but from my point of view actually dangerous and immoral. And there'd be no way around it, as DH and I are both into presuppositional theology and plan to homeschool... and go to a church where my dad's the pastor... so it's not a subject that'd only come up once a year, you know?

I'd simply point all this out to someone who asked us to raise their kids. If they were happy for their kids to be raised in our religion, then cool (but in that case, I'd wonder why they weren't of our religion themselves!). More likely, they'd choose someone with a more compatible belief system, as well they should. My Catholic SIL and I are amicably agreed that neither of us will raise each other's children, because I couldn't in conscience bring her son up Catholic and she couldn't in conscience bring my daughter up Protestant. We're both OK with that, and didn't get into a knock-down-drag-'em-out religious debate about it or anything. It's just the way it is.

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Definitely age dependent.
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I'm a pretty big non-believer with only a nod to the seasons in my house. If I suddenly had a little ward/child, I'd probably not deal with the issue. If the ward/child was already a teenager and a believer.. I might drive them to worship but not sit with them there.
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It would depend on if the parents specified something... Otherwise I would raise them in my religion.

Personally my religion is very important and my children would go to a friend or family member who holds it in the same importance.

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i am very VERY strongly opposed to any monotheistic religion.

my mom has specifically stated that she would most likely take my children to her church (and as a compromise expose them to various different religions) and for that reason she is not the beneficiary in my will.

if i had a friend that was very specific about which religion she wanted her children raised with i would definitely take them to services and honor her wishes. however, they would be raised in my house where we are emphatically agnostic so there would be that dichotomy.

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If a non-Catholic friend or family member wanted to name me as guardian, I'd be upfront that I'd be raising their kid/s Catholic. If they weren't okay with that, then I'd have to decline. Likewise, I would never willingly leave my children to someone who would not raise them Catholic. I have this issue with my mom, who is our children's only grandparent. She's very close with them and wants them if we die. She's agnostic but said she would raise them Catholic, which to her means taking them to Mass on Sunday and putting them in Catholic school. I appreciate the effort, but that's really not enough for me, because our faith is a huge part of our life. So idk what to do there.
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
Definitely age dependent.

Fascinating question. I agree that it would be age dependent and also to some degree dependent on which religion/sect we are speaking of.

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No, I wouldn't raise kids with the intention of fostering a faith other than my own. I would be flexible about the daily details that were important to the family (denomination, seasonal traditions, etc.), but I would still keep and share my core beliefs. It's who I am.

I can't imagine anyone willing me to care for their kids and expecting anything else.

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