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Hey ladies

Now that Tammuz is almost over I thought I'd hop in.

Good to see you around, Chavalemomela

Our shul is lay-led during summer and I volunteered to lein Torah. Kinda nervous. Reminds me of studying for my Bat Mitzvah

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Mazel tov! We were just voted in as members to our yishuv. Now we just need the money to build!

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Mazel tov! We were just voted in as members to our yishuv. Now we just need the money to build!
Mazal tov! Wonderful news!
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Mazel tov, jul511riv!

Faliciagayle, good luck!

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Mazel tov! Good luck!
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I'm getting ready for my parents' visit... haven't seen them in 3 years and this is the first time in over 20 years my dad will be in Israel. Last time my mom was here was right after we made Aliyah so it's been 12 or 13 years.

They'll be here for 10 days. Last time they saw Nati he was 3 months old and this will be their first time meeting Eli (he's 15 months).

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time is flying by. the other day, I was at shul, and realized it was sort of... my anniversary of coming to shul. That is, the parsha was one of the first I remember hearing/reading when I first came, so it was pretty much a year since I started going. Now it's almost the 17th of tammuz, which means it's almost tisha b'av, which was the first holiday I observed after moving out on my own and starting to explore judaism more. (the first holiday other than passover/hanukah/rosh hashanah/yom kippur, ever). I remember last year reading you guys talking about how your 17th of tammuz fasts went, and being disappointed I missed it.

I haven't started my official conversion process yet. I don't have any doubts I want to do it, but I'm not sure if I'm shy, or I'm not comfortable enough with the rabbi at shul to approach him. I think I'm shy, since I haven't approached any other rabbis. (Actually, I did approach him last year, around this time. He recommended taking a series of beginer classes last winter. I took some of them, but got too depressed to finish them all (which I regret because they sounded interesting. I guess that's part of my shyness. Feeling like he told me what I could do to take the next step and I didn't do it, and how do I come back and say I want to take the next step, in this time when your really busy (summer into high holy day prep), and I didn't do what you first suggusted.)

Also news in my life, I'm planning on proposing to my boyfriend/DP. (I know he's planning on proposing as well, but I decided that I rejected the social conditioning that had me waiting for him to propose, nagging him. It's way more fun to plan proposing to him, than worry about when he is going to propose.) Super exciting!

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I'm getting ready for my parents' visit... haven't seen them in 3 years and this is the first time in over 20 years my dad will be in Israel. Last time my mom was here was right after we made Aliyah so it's been 12 or 13 years.

They'll be here for 10 days. Last time they saw Nati he was 3 months old and this will be their first time meeting Eli (he's 15 months).
Oh wow. I hope you have a really wonderful visit. May all of us who long to see our families in Eretz Yisrael be likewise blessed.

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time is flying by. the other day, I was at shul, and realized it was sort of... my anniversary of coming to shul. That is, the parsha was one of the first I remember hearing/reading when I first came, so it was pretty much a year since I started going. Now it's almost the 17th of tammuz, which means it's almost tisha b'av, which was the first holiday I observed after moving out on my own and starting to explore judaism more. (the first holiday other than passover/hanukah/rosh hashanah/yom kippur, ever). I remember last year reading you guys talking about how your 17th of tammuz fasts went, and being disappointed I missed it.

I haven't started my official conversion process yet. I don't have any doubts I want to do it, but I'm not sure if I'm shy, or I'm not comfortable enough with the rabbi at shul to approach him. I think I'm shy, since I haven't approached any other rabbis. (Actually, I did approach him last year, around this time. He recommended taking a series of beginer classes last winter. I took some of them, but got too depressed to finish them all (which I regret because they sounded interesting. I guess that's part of my shyness. Feeling like he told me what I could do to take the next step and I didn't do it, and how do I come back and say I want to take the next step, in this time when your really busy (summer into high holy day prep), and I didn't do what you first suggusted.)

Also news in my life, I'm planning on proposing to my boyfriend/DP. (I know he's planning on proposing as well, but I decided that I rejected the social conditioning that had me waiting for him to propose, nagging him. It's way more fun to plan proposing to him, than worry about when he is going to propose.) Super exciting!
Good luck on all accounts!

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What's the best way to ask a community for help that doesn't seem "neby" or too much like a pity-party?

It's been a year since DH's accident, and in that time, he has had a series of surgeries, goes to regular therapy, and has tried to resume working, unsuccessfully. (He was back to working 2 days a week, but it just wasn't working - he lost his job last week). He has made great strides with his therapy, and is getting stronger, but its a long and painful process.

DH has now shifted to a different pain medication so he can have more consistent pain-relief and do his physical therapy even more, get even stronger.
Because of the new drug, he no longer can drive or work and is basically home-bound (aside from the trips to therapy and doctors).

I work full-time and am not around during the day, and frankly, DH is bored and could use some company. He is very smart and very friendly, and would love some visits from men, women, kids, etc. He would enjoy it.

I am posting a note on our local community list for visitors for him, but I don't want to sound to "nebach" (pitiful). DH is not pitiful. He is a strong person, we are both strong people who have just been put into a terrible situation and are trying to handle it as best as we can. But even strong people are pitiful sometimes.

I am concerned about the pity, because both DH and I are sensitive to this. We really don't like to be "nebach." Also, I find people are less likely to want to help those who are in situations where they wallow in misery, kwim? Since I am asking for a concerted community effort to visit DH, I want to voice it in as positive terms as possible.

Any tips?

Thanks!
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I would kind of just let go of the not wanting to be "pitiful" thing. I understand that you are nervous about this, but frankly, it's a mitzvah to visit the sick and you are giving people the opportunity of doing a mitzvah. So I would just ask for your request, I would also ask friends. Perhaps your rav or others that you know and trust if they can put the word out. Maybe help your husband meet like minded men online that he can talk with. Think of projects he can do from the house. I don't know if he's bedridden or if he can get up and walk a bit around the house, but maybe there is something he can do to help others from home. Maybe if the beit knesset is making mishloach manot, for example, he could offer to put together baskets or something from home. This sort of thing. If he is able to GIVE to others while also reaping the benefits of having company, that makes this all the better. Good luck.

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Because of the medications, he doesn't have the focus and concentration to do projects (that's why working didn't work out). But he could use company. I am trying to put the word out on multiple networks.
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(cross-posted on Birth & Beyond)

Here it is! We finally got it up on youtube:

Part 1 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YtLyOyfHkZY

Part 2 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ux9xl...eature=channel

Part 3 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ur5Ur...eature=channel

part 4 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=15J77...eature=channel

Part 5 (Bonus) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dVoPH...eature=channel

Please let me know what you think! We were very happy with the episode.
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We loved it!! I started out annoyed at the "she wants a homebirth but will the pain be too much?" at the beginning, but otherwise, they were wonderfully respectful and it was a GREAT show!

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Best episode of The Baby Story I have ever seen! What a cute family! Thank you so much for sharing!

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So I just saw that Chavelamomela's got a cute little red head, and I've got 2 little red heads. I was wondering how many other Jewish mamas here have red heads in the family too. Also, does anyone know if there is a traditional story/explanation for Jewish red heads? I'd love a cute comeback or interesting tale to tell people who assume my kids' red hair comes from the Irish side of the family.

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My red-head ds also has green eyes...

As you saw, both DH and I are brunettes, and our parents and grandparents were all brunettes too.

We had to go back 5 generations on each side to find redheads!

Oh, and FYI, ds2, Noam, who was born with a full head of dark brown hair...is turning very light, and has a lot of red highlights! (on a recent trip to Israel, a cabdriver insisted that this is called "Gingi Sfaradit" or "Sephardic Redhead")
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So I just saw that Chavelamomela's got a cute little red head, and I've got 2 little red heads. I was wondering how many other Jewish mamas here have red heads in the family too. Also, does anyone know if there is a traditional story/explanation for Jewish red heads? I'd love a cute comeback or interesting tale to tell people who assume my kids' red hair comes from the Irish side of the family.


You might want to remind anybody who asks about "Jewish redheads?" that King David was a redhead.

And while Esav (Esau) isn't considered a Jew to emulate, he was very definitely red, and very definitely the grandson of Avraham Avinu, the son of Yitzkhak Avinu, and uncle to the 12 tribes. Along with being Yaakov Avinu's twin.

So there's definitely redheads in the family.

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I'm not red-headed, but it's very red in the sun. I always figured it had to be from the small scottish side (though no evidence of any red or reddish hair there.)

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Mags - good luck on all accounts! I hope you'll share the story of your proposal when it happens

Chavale - beautiful! Like Sara, I was also annoyed at the whole "can she handle the pain" thing but otherwise, it was lovely. You have a beautiful family I was surprised how little there was of the actual labor and birth.

Sara - how late is too late to back out of reading torah? I'm slated for July 24 and I'm feeling super nervous. The summer crowd isn't as thin as I thought it would be and well...

DD was reddish when she was younger, now her hair is dirty blonde. Both Dh and I are brunette (DH is super dark, too). Whodathunk? now DS is red and very blond - strawberry! He's got a patch of white hair on the side of his head, I hope it stays.

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Chavale - beautiful! Like Sara, I was also annoyed at the whole "can she handle the pain" thing but otherwise, it was lovely. You have a beautiful family I was surprised how little there was of the actual labor and birth.
its actually more surprising to me how MUCH there was of the labor! the film crew actually didn't arrive until about...5 minutes before Noam was born (traffic, apparently). I hadn't realized how much DH had actually caught on tape during the labor (He was awesome, and he was doing this all the while thinking "what if they don't make it? I have to save the show!"). But he never let on and I really didn't notice.

So you want to know a bit about reality tv...

Okay, there was one teeny part we "faked" - by that, i mean we re-enacted. We described on the show how to get things moving, my doula encouraged me to take a walk outside. We did that. But we never caught it on tape.

3 months later, when they came back for the follow-up visit, I dressed in a big loose coat and the same snood I wore while laboring and re-enacted a few contractions on the walk! (They told me I'm a natural, a good actress). So while the walk happened, I wasn't really wearing make-up and a winter coat during labor!

But the timeline was true to the actual labor, as were the descriptions of what happened. The interviews obviously happened later, but we talked about them as if we're "in the moment"

They also re-enacted the shots of the doula arriving into the building and the MW coming out of the elevator with her bags. Not a "lie" so much as giving them images to work with to tell the story. But no, I didn't deliver the baby again!
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You might want to remind anybody who asks about "Jewish redheads?" that King David was a redhead.

And while Esav (Esau) isn't considered a Jew to emulate, he was very definitely red, and very definitely the grandson of Avraham Avinu, the son of Yitzkhak Avinu, and uncle to the 12 tribes. Along with being Yaakov Avinu's twin.

So there's definitely redheads in the family.

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Thank you, merpk! That is exactly the kind of info I was looking for!

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Eve I cried.

A beautiful show.



But for real Chavela, that is such an awesome video. I cried.
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it's been a while. elul's over here

http://www.mothering.com/discussions...9#post15730529

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