We're invited to DDs cousin's baptism. She's fairly close to this cousin and the same age. They're catholic. I've been to Catholic baptisms before, but this family is a bit different than most Catholics I know. They are very religious- at any given barbeque and any given meal (even if it just the cutting of a watermelon) the family holds hands and prays aloud for 5+ minutes. Birthday parties included. (My DD actually became a bit frightned at the last birthday party- her favorite uncle's. They removed his hat before he blew out the candles and had everyone hold their palms up to him as they prayed aloud for 10 minutes. My DD didn't have a clue what was going on but looked a bit scared.)
I'm not against this in any way- but I'm not sure if bringing my daughters to the church ceremony would be a spectacular idea. I do want to expose them to various religions and their practices, but I don't know if this particular situation might be "religious exposure overkill".
Me (27) DW (28) DD1 (9) DD2 (7) DD 3 (4)
if you really think it would irritate you, freak you out, freak your dd out to go then it would be best to stay home. There were people at my childrens baptism that I felt I had to invite. it would have been better if they had stayed home. for everyone. They weren't comfortable there and yet they felt obligated because I invited them (and Invited them because I felt obligated )anyway, I know for me, if someone felt uncomfortable celebrating a sacrament with us I would totally understand. Heck if I ever get married again I make sure people know they do not have to attend the religous part of the ceremony if it makes them uncomfortable. I would rather be able to relax and worship and participate than wonder if my guests were uncomfortable and if I wanted to invite someone it would be because i love them and I wouldn't want someone I love to be uncomfortable for any reason (hello run on sentence of the year).
It really is ok if you are uncomfortable with other people religous expression. Even though I love poeple and even though at a very basic level we share a faith (some more than others) I doubt I would be comfortable attending baptisms, confirmations, weddings etc at other churches (well somewhere between uncomfortable and cranky) and if I cannot go with complete love and acceptance I owuld rather not go because I don't want to be a damper on their celebration (I wish it were more socially acceptable for people to say "I am not comfortable with the whole religous thing but would love to come celbrate at the after party with you")
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