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#1 of 3 Old 05-06-2011, 05:09 PM - Thread Starter
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I am looking for a church.  I have lived in this largely Christian town for two years, but because of major marriage problems, I have made almost no friends.  I filed for divorce in February and have been trying to put my life in perspective.  Overall, I'm doing well, but I'm getting depressed and I'm lonely and not only am I longing for a closer relationship with God, but I need some people in my life who really give a crap about me.  I freakin need a hug once in a while and I need to be around people who care about my emotional and spiritual happiness.  OK, I could go on forever about that.


I have some options in this town, but all Christian oriented (I'm ok with that, though my views are a little more open...I think we all pray to the same God anyway and Jesus and I are good),,,but I don't know much about churches.  I am looking at a Wesleyan Church and First Reformed (Dutch) --I have a lot of family that goes to the FRC and I do like the pastor.


I'm a little bit afraid to just walk myself into either of these churches.  I have emailed the FRC pastor, but like the community efforts of the Wesleyan Church.  I think part of me is so craving compassion from anyone that I'm afraid of getting it...or that if I enter into an arena where that is possible I might start weeping and never stop.  I'm just scared on a number of fronts I guess.


I don't know...this is a lot of babble about different things.  I really came online to find out more about these two churches and everything else spilled out.


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Hugs mama! I know alot of what you are going through. I have a great dh but zero friends (other than my great MDC mamas). I too am looking for a church, but not sure if that is where I want to make my friends having realized in my old church, my friends were close because of religion only. I am leaning towards a UU church since I am only wanting total love and acceptance. I have started going to monthly women gatherings called Red Tent. So nice and healing to spend time with other women. And I found there are great groups on meetup.com. As for churches I know a woman that goes to the Wesleyan church and it is the best thing that has ever happened to her. So if that were one of your only choices, I would pick that since I hear so highly of it.
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You're location says Western Michigan. If that means Grand Rapids you might check out Plymouth Congregational, UCC.  A dear friend of mine goes there and I think she'd certainly care about you.  She comes from a Dutch Reformed background, if that makes any difference!

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