Interesting about M and his daughter. I suppose not answering is some kind of stand. I know you likely want him to speak his mind and be honest about the situation but he didn't answer and say "okay, C can stay here" - baby steps? How did he introduce you when you met her? Where did you guys meet for this introduction? I hope I'm not asking too many questions but I'm intrigued.
I'm going to ask her. We've been camping at a Pagan event for the weekend (40* at night! Saturday was only 50ish during the day, and windy). Y'all-- Tuatha Dea is a fantastic band. Off to peruse their YouTube stuff!
M-- good POV, vydalea, thanks for the perspective. You have a valid point.
I met L (his dd) and D (his ex) and his 8yo grandson (M, also... named for M! ) back in the summer. I think over July 4th. It was at M's apartment. They all came over for....hmm, some reason. They were gracious, as was I. They've all known about me from the giddy-up, back in November '09, but they were all very hostile to the idea. They wouldn't even entertain the idea of M with another woman, even though M and D have been divorced since....hmm, 2000 maybe? 1999? They're finally warming up to the idea of me, as in, it's obvious so far that I'm not going away, nor is this relationship going anywhere, but they still won't get together. As in, they want M to come over for Thanksgiving, but they haven't, nor do I expect them to, invite me.
Thankfully M doesn't even want to go-- he is very much the traditionalist with that holiday, as in, extended family around the table, huge turkey and veggies and what-not, pie, etc. and last year he said he was really disappointed because L and C were in the bedroom, probably getting high, D was in her room reading a romance novel, little M was playing, and he sat there alone in the living room. Plus what food there was, was either buffet-style, or eat it as it gets done cooking, whenever you feel like it. I agree-- that's not Thanksgiving. So I'm going there And I am going to make a turkey breast in the crock pot for the two of us We can eat off that all the weekend!
I don't know how to carry over responses to the new thread, like Cari was able to do, so here y'all go. The last post of September
Me Handfasted wife to M as of 3/7/10 , and Mama to R (1/31/01)