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Happy Beltane! Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary! we have been together for 8.5 years. DH got to say it first this morning which was a nice surprise bc i usually remember first. lol. 


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Next month we'll celebrate our 18th wedding anniversary -- been best friends for 20 years. Wow. love.gif


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Happy anniversary! Over the weekend, we celebrated 9 years of being an official couple. (We are married, but we got married after the birth of our first kid, mostly for insurance purposed. We feel when we became committed is more important, to us, at least anyway. We had been dating for two years prior to that.)

 

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I'm so exhausted, mamas, that I think all we will do are massages. I don't remember being so wiped so early on with my previous pregnancies.


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A blessed Beltane to all! flowersforyou.gif I love how MDC forums recognize "Beltane" as a word and doesn't underline it in red thumb.gif

 

Did y'all wash your faces in the morning dew, today? I did-- twice, because the 2nd time ds wanted me to go out when he did his orngbiggrin.gif

 

M's area has pouring rain-- I guess that counts as "morning dew"? lol.gif

 

DS left for his camping trip this morning. I have 4 days of quiet. I wish so badly that I was on my way to M's...today I am doing laundry and I have one load hanging outside already-- it's already 72* and heading towards 80*. Ugh I hate hot!

 

The public Beltane ritual is this coming Saturday. I might make a Maypole cake, but I am wanting to make something low-carb so I can eat it, too. Any ideas? No starch, no sugar. I can have lots of fat.


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Happy Beltane! treehugger.gif

 

Happy Anniversaries! joy.gif

 

 

We have rain...

 

 

My body is in sync with the energy of Beltane... Since we want to avoid pregnancy, celebrating will have to be creative whistling.gif


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Happy Beltane to all and happy anniversary to LionessMom and Revolting! 

 

My spouse and I are also celebrating the 4th anniversary of our handfasting (though we were legally partnered at Town Hall the year before...)  AND it's my spouse's birthday. 

 

Maiasaura, can you have fresh fruit?  If so, maybe you could bring a fruit and cheese platter. 

Or make a fruit dip with some sour cream or plain yogurt and add some cinnamon, along with whatever sweetener you're allowed to have (agave nectar? Stevia? Something else?)

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Happy Anniversaries!  joy.gif  and Merry, Happy, Joyous Beltane!  

 

Z and I might have to put off our fairy loom making until tomorrow since it's raining and the sticks are all soaked.  Oh well... 

 

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well, you didn't have 2 children with your previous pregnancies so maybe that contributes to being wiped out?  I think just massages sounds great!  

 

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Happy Beltane all! I've been trying to get better--I think I'm almost there, but I'm still wiped. Since I live nearish Maia's M, I too have pouring rain. Ah well. Celebrating will need to get put off until tomorrow when DD goes to school again:D


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Happy Beltane! And Happy Anniversaries to all who are celebrating one! Today is my birthday! Lots of fun and excitement for everyone right now! Hooray!


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Or make a fruit dip with some sour cream or plain yogurt and add some cinnamon, along with whatever sweetener you're allowed to have (agave nectar? Stevia? Something else?)

 

I could, but I don't indulge often. Too carby. I use stevia. I don't use yogurt all that much, as much as I like it!

 

I think I am going to bring a "Chopped Salad" which has things like blue cheese, bubbled egg, bacon, with a green salad. Then I can have it, too. Often I bring things that I can't eat, and I bring my own food so I don't have to be tempted by potluck things.

 

 

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OMG yes! Great idea. Might go do that while ds is out of town!

 

 

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Glad you're starting the uphill now! Hey, pouring rain can be used as "dew", right?


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Happy Beltane! I hope you all had a fabulous day! Its rained--no POURED here off and on all day, complete with tons of lightning and hail, so we've pretty much stayed inside all day. DH and I are going to have some time alone this evening, but our real celebration (Family and personal) will be Saturday.

 

And happy anniversary to those of you celebrating! stillheart.gif

 

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Happy Beltane! And Happy Anniversaries to all who are celebrating one! Today is my birthday! Lots of fun and excitement for everyone right now! Hooray!


Happy birthday!

 

My husband and I ended up celebrating after all. mischievous.gif

 

Unfortunately, the rodent problem in my building continues. Their squeaking woke me this morning and I saw one run across the bedroom floor. I wish they'd at least stay out of the bedroom: no one is allowed to eat here anyway.

 

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Happy Beltane! I hope you all had a fabulous day! Its rained--no POURED here off and on all day, complete with tons of lightning and hail, so we've pretty much stayed inside all day. DH and I are going to have some time alone this evening, but our real celebration (Family and personal) will be Saturday.

 

Twas a 'gully-washer' kind of day, wasn't it?

 

Did you see the news coverage of the flooding in Broad Ripple. Crazy!

 

I am sooooo happy to be greeting May. It is one of my favorite months of the year -- sunshine without (usually at least) too much heat. thumb.gif


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Happy Beltane! Today is my 3rd wedding anniversary! we have been together for 8.5 years. DH got to say it first this morning which was a nice surprise bc i usually remember first. lol. 

 

Although I said it on fb, Happy Anniversary!  Hope it was a lovely day for you!

 

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My oldest's birthday is today. He turns 6. Daddy gave him a hair cut today and he requested a mohawk so that is what he received :-)

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Twas a 'gully-washer' kind of day, wasn't it?

 

Did you see the news coverage of the flooding in Broad Ripple. Crazy!

 

I am sooooo happy to be greeting May. It is one of my favorite months of the year -- sunshine without (usually at least) too much heat. thumb.gif

Yes, yes it was. I ended up driving through some of it to take my dad to physical therapy. Oh holy great wow did it SUCK! 40mph in a 55, wipers on full tilt and still couldn't see more than 2 ft in front of me. I was glad to be home after that. I didn't see anything about the flooding, yikes! I will have to look it up! 

 

May is pretty awesome usually. I think my favorite April was the year my DD was born, and not only because she was born in it. winky.gif Sunny, mid 70s and green. I'm hoping that May is like that since this April was a wash.

 

DD had a fantastic birthday weekend. We went to the children's museum and spent the day there. It was a lot of fun. Saw a Maiasaura on display. thumb.gif And we got to "visit Egypt" and do all sorts of other fun and nifty things. Parties with grandparents this weekend (my mom doesn't exactly play nice with, well, anyone, so we have to do a party for my parents and then one for DH's side to avoid conflict and embarrassment eyesroll.gif). Hopefully she doesn't get too  much in the way of toys, we are beyond capacity already.

 

Speaking of which, it is finally time for garage sales! I'm pulling out all of the junk that's been stuffed into closets, pricing it and getting it the heck out of here! I can't wait, it will be so liberating. orngbiggrin.gif And it will hopefully put a nice chunk of change in our pocket, too. thumb.gif Hmm, I wonder if there is a spell I could do to make the rummage sales prosperous? I will have to look into that. 

 

I saw that today is International Pagan Coming Out Day. Anyone coming out today?


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Oh, I also wanted your opinions on something, ladies. While I was sorting through our assortment of kid books, I came across an Advent book (the kind with nightly stories leading up to Christmas) and a children's Bible stories book. I can't decide if I should toss them or not. Well, the Advent book I'm pretty sure will be sold. But the Bible stories may be handy. Fact of the matter is, most people and the entirety of our extended family is Christian. It would be helpful to have a book around to teach my kids the stories from the Bible esp since those stories are considered universal (*sigh*). It could be like teaching another culture's mythology. 

 

But, on the flip side, I'm not sure I want it around. We aren't Christian and, frankly, its confusing enough trying to teach Paganism and all of its ins and outs to kids without introducing yet another mythology. Plus, I don't really like the Bible or most of its stories. Never have. Should I teach my kids stories I don't like about a religion I don't believe in or agree with just so they can fit in more? Or am I doing them a disservice and withholding useful information by not teaching it to them??

 

Ugh, my head hurts now. I think I'm thinking about this waaaay too hard. uhoh3.gif Opinions??! Help!! 


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i teach them stories out of the bible. esp the historically supported ones. the ones they actually have evidence that it happened. and i liked what jesus taught too. but i always make sure they know that to me he was a person etc. and these are just stories we can learn from, just like the stories about the buddha, stories about ancient mythology, etc.


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HOLY MOLY, MAMAS!  I feel like this thread is boppin' right now and I love it!!  love.gif

 

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rtunately, the rodent problem in my building continues. Their squeaking woke me this morning and I saw one run across the bedroom floor. I wish they'd at least stay out of the bedroom: no one is allowed to eat here anyway.

 

your last comment here made me giggle.  I'm sorry you have such a bad problem there.  Is there any kind of laws being broken there - something you could call code enforcement for??  

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Happy Beltane! And Happy Anniversaries to all who are celebrating one! Today is my birthday! Lots of fun and excitement for everyone right now! Hooray!

Happy Birthday!!!!!  I love birthdays and agree with DoK - celebrate all week!! wahooo!!! joy.gif

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I think I am going to bring a "Chopped Salad" which has things like blue cheese, bubbled egg, bacon, with a green salad. Then I can have it, too. Often I bring things that I can't eat, and I bring my own food so I don't have to be tempted by potluck things.

 

 

I swear, Maia, I gain weight just reading your posts half the time!  what the heck is a bubbled egg?  Whatever, anything with bacon is delicious.  mmmmmmmm.  

 

 

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Oh, I also wanted your opinions on something, ladies. While I was sorting through our assortment of kid books, I came across an Advent book (the kind with nightly stories leading up to Christmas) and a children's Bible stories book. I can't decide if I should toss them or not. Well, the Advent book I'm pretty sure will be sold. But the Bible stories may be handy. Fact of the matter is, most people and the entirety of our extended family is Christian. It would be helpful to have a book around to teach my kids the stories from the Bible esp since those stories are considered universal (*sigh*). It could be like teaching another culture's mythology. 

 

But, on the flip side, I'm not sure I want it around. We aren't Christian and, frankly, its confusing enough trying to teach Paganism and all of its ins and outs to kids without introducing yet another mythology. Plus, I don't really like the Bible or most of its stories. Never have. Should I teach my kids stories I don't like about a religion I don't believe in or agree with just so they can fit in more? Or am I doing them a disservice and withholding useful information by not teaching it to them??

 

Ugh, my head hurts now. I think I'm thinking about this waaaay too hard. uhoh3.gif Opinions??! Help!! 

I totally feel you on the families being weird at birthday parties.  My mom and dad were divorced in 2002 and they have not spoken since... which is AWESOME rolleyes.gif -- but I told DH I REFUSE to have separate parties on behalf of their weirdness so I have Z's party at a park under a big, very rain friendly shelter.  THANK THE HEAVENS she was born in May!!  I also invite a bunch of our framily (friends that are family, get it? haha) to dilute the folks.  So far both last year's party and her baby blessing went alright.  *sigh* 

 

As for the Bible stories book: for me it would all depend on what Bible stories they are and what the message is.  There are lots of great parables and stories like LM said.  I want Z to know about the major stories and beliefs in major religions because they do have an impact on our society and how people perceive the world.  Nerd alert: it's also been very helpful in my literature studies.  However, in her early years I'm not going to get too in to it.  I think it would just confuse her, like you said.  We'll just stick to nature worship for now.  :)  

 

IN SUMMARY: (haha) IMHO: Keep it if you like the overall message in the stories - Sell it if it's too preachy.  You can always find another Bible story book that has more universal/less Jesus Saves message. 

 

mama3mary: I agree I LOVE may!  June is my favorite here in Upstate NY.  and October but that's likely due to my Libra-ness having to have balance (and it's my birth month) To me it's like even if it rains a lot in May it's still MAY.  The peeks of sunshine are warm when the rain does end - things are in bloom - it's just lovely.  

 

It did stop raining long enough for us to go gather dandelions to make our own massage oil (thanks for the idea, revolting).  Today we will try again to make our fairy looms.  If nothing else I'll drag the sticks up onto the porch to dry!!  Hope everyone else is drying out!! 


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Yes, yes it was. I ended up driving through some of it to take my dad to physical therapy. Oh holy great wow did it SUCK! 40mph in a 55, wipers on full tilt and still couldn't see more than 2 ft in front of me. I was glad to be home after that. I didn't see anything about the flooding, yikes! I will have to look it up! 

 

May is pretty awesome usually. I think my favorite April was the year my DD was born, and not only because she was born in it. winky.gif Sunny, mid 70s and green. I'm hoping that May is like that since this April was a wash.

 

DD had a fantastic birthday weekend. We went to the children's museum and spent the day there. It was a lot of fun. Saw a Maiasaura on display. thumb.gif And we got to "visit Egypt" and do all sorts of other fun and nifty things. Parties with grandparents this weekend (my mom doesn't exactly play nice with, well, anyone, so we have to do a party for my parents and then one for DH's side to avoid conflict and embarrassment eyesroll.gif). Hopefully she doesn't get too  much in the way of toys, we are beyond capacity already.

 

Speaking of which, it is finally time for garage sales! I'm pulling out all of the junk that's been stuffed into closets, pricing it and getting it the heck out of here! I can't wait, it will be so liberating. orngbiggrin.gif And it will hopefully put a nice chunk of change in our pocket, too. thumb.gif Hmm, I wonder if there is a spell I could do to make the rummage sales prosperous? I will have to look into that. 

 

I saw that today is International Pagan Coming Out Day. Anyone coming out today?

 

April totally disappointed me after that beautiful, beautiful May. I hope this May is nice. I'm still hoping for an early strawberry picking trip: I already have green strawberries getting pretty big on my plants.

 

I have always been on the fence about having two birthday parties for my kids with different sides of the family. My in-laws and my family don't get along. (I don't get along with my in-laws either.) Every year, we have the party, and the whole time I feel panicky. I hate their birthday party because of it.

 

I want to have a garage sale this year. Oh man, do I want to get rid of stuff. We are also hoping to find a bunk bed at a garage sale. I'm hoping to kick my two year old out of my bed before the new baby comes.

 

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Oh, I also wanted your opinions on something, ladies. While I was sorting through our assortment of kid books, I came across an Advent book (the kind with nightly stories leading up to Christmas) and a children's Bible stories book. I can't decide if I should toss them or not. Well, the Advent book I'm pretty sure will be sold. But the Bible stories may be handy. Fact of the matter is, most people and the entirety of our extended family is Christian. It would be helpful to have a book around to teach my kids the stories from the Bible esp since those stories are considered universal (*sigh*). It could be like teaching another culture's mythology. 

 

But, on the flip side, I'm not sure I want it around. We aren't Christian and, frankly, its confusing enough trying to teach Paganism and all of its ins and outs to kids without introducing yet another mythology. Plus, I don't really like the Bible or most of its stories. Never have. Should I teach my kids stories I don't like about a religion I don't believe in or agree with just so they can fit in more? Or am I doing them a disservice and withholding useful information by not teaching it to them??

 

Ugh, my head hurts now. I think I'm thinking about this waaaay too hard. uhoh3.gif Opinions??! Help!! 

It depends on how the Bible Stories are written. I like reading mythology to my kids, be it from Hinduism, Christianity, fairy tales from all over the world. I think some Bible story collections do a great job at presenting the stories as stories, and some don't. I don't think it's any more confusing for my five year old than reading Harry Potter (even though it portrays an inaccurate idea of what being a witch is).

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It did stop raining long enough for us to go gather dandelions to make our own massage oil (thanks for the idea, revolting).  Today we will try again to make our fairy looms.  If nothing else I'll drag the sticks up onto the porch to dry!!  Hope everyone else is drying out!! 

 

Everything is still icky and wet here. We might try fairy looms again next week: the weather forecast suggests that it's gonna be icky all week, and I need new shoes: the only shoes I have that don't have holes in them at this point are converses, which is so not fun to be outside on a rainy day in. I'm hoping it dries up by Sun: there's fire spinning and drumming near the lake to celebrate the full moon during the warmer months of the year; this will be the first one of the year, and I'm so excited!

 

And yes, the whole mouse infestation thing violates the laws according to the city's housing authority, but I don't have it in me to try to take these guys to court. I wish I did, but I don't. They won't even just let us out of our lease. In three months, though, our lease will be up, and we're moving one way or another. We're hoping to buy a house (since the rental market is so horrible right now that rent payment is about equal to a mortgage payment on a small fixer-upper), but if not, we're rent somewhere else. I just can't wait until those three months are over, though finding an alternative stresses me out.


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Thanks for all the birthday well wishes! I agree, I need to celebrate all week. My parents got nasty at the birthday dinner they took me to last night, so I at LEAST need a do-over. I never even made my birthday cake!

 

3X - It is SO time for a garage sale! I wish I had more energy to put into it. DH and I have been going back and forth about whether we should have one before the baby gets here (June). I've been going room by room and putting more and more things up in the attic on the garage sale half of the room. Part of me thinks that we should get our butts in gear, but the other part of me says oh no, I'm just so big and round... maybe I should just eat something instead.

 

About those bible stories, there's a thread over in religious studies that you might find interesting. Although I might have killed it... lol: http://www.mothering.com/community/t/1351601/grandma-wants-to-buy-my-daughter-a-childrens-bible/0_50 I'm still struggling on how much I want to teach my 4 year old about religion, and where does religion stop and mythology begin. Like I have an awesome book of Greek Mythology for kids that has cool pictures and everything. But, I don't ascribe to a Greek tradition, and it mentions different gods and goddesses (obviously). And if you read my post in that other thread where I say that I have no problem with the bible stories as stories, then I should have no problem with the Greek mythology as stories. All of it just makes me kinda hinky. I really don't want to "force" any sort of beliefs on my DD.

 

Revolting - Ooh! Strawberry picking. I wish there was a place to do that around here. I know there's a few u-pick farms, but I need to look into them and see what they offer. There's a lavender farm not too too far from me that I've been to. That was a blast. DD ran through the lavender fields like crazy, and I made little sachets for the cars, closets, and a couple to hang up in the kitchen. Hrmm. Wonder when they open?


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Revolting-- UGH about your rodent problem! M just had a mouse issue. He was getting them in snap-traps and when he told his landlord about it, the landlord did not come in to take care of it OR buy the traps, which I would have insisted on, but he told M to watch for the size of the mouse getting smaller. He said when the parents have died, the babies come out to fend for themselves, and the problem goes away. He appears to be right-- M caught a bunch of mice, they got smaller, he hasn't seen one in days.

 

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I wish. This week is all in the mid 80s! I hope to HECK it is not like last year. When I first moved out here, in 2003, we had four equal seasons. We had about 2 weeks of unbearable in July or August, 90* or above. Last year it was well over 85* or 90* all.summer.long. Starting in May and it was relentless till mid-September.

Then again, I'll be happy to be in MA by midsummer!

 

 

 

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I saw that today is International Pagan Coming Out Day. Anyone coming out today?

 

How fun, on the Maia!

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Ugh, my head hurts now. I think I'm thinking about this waaaay too hard. uhoh3.gif Opinions??! Help!! 

 

I think that depends on the ages of your kids. If they are younger, no. Let them go. They'll find out about other religions in due time. If they're older, enlist their opinions. But if you don't want to, don't!

 

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Got a sweet little house in Asheville, NC! winky.gif Cheap, too!

 

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All of it just makes me kinda hinky. I really don't want to "force" any sort of beliefs on my DD.

 

Maybe I should just eat something instead biglaugh.gif

 

You're not "forcing", you are parenting! She will figure out her own way, despite you, at some age or other! Which is my roundabout way of saying I think parents SHOULD bring a child up in their religion (or no religion if that's what they do). I can't stand this-- what seems to be a general Pagan way, now-- of "I'm going to expose my kid to all religions so s/he can choose"-- I think that's only confusing them, and they will choose their own, regardless of us, right?

I've brought my boy up Pagan. We go to the UU (well, we have majorly slacked off lately). They get exposed to UU concepts AND lots of religions, there. He is interested in Christianity, but I think he's coming around to Paganism again. He's 11. It's his life and his mind-- I will support his choices, and help him (like, if it means he gets serious about Christianity and can't drive yet, I will take him to church if he wants to go). I would love for him to be Pagan, but if I force ritual on him, it's the fastest way to make a Fundie out of him lol.gif So no, at about 8 years old I stopped "forcing" him, but when he was younger? You betcha I did.

 

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I had SUCH a great day today. I miss my ds terribly, but I can't believe how quiet it is around here, and without the interruptions of his day-to-day, and having to drop him/get him from school, and all his activities, and losing sleep because he loses sleep, and the feeling of urgency around a typical day-- I had a hugely uninterrupted sleep last night, and such an easy day, even though I did a ton of chores...I feel marvelous.

 

I only really wish I had not canceled my plans to go see M this week. This has been WAY too long.


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You're not "forcing", you are parenting! She will figure out her own way, despite you, at some age or other! Which is my roundabout way of saying I think parents SHOULD bring a child up in their religion (or no religion if that's what they do). I can't stand this-- what seems to be a general Pagan way, now-- of "I'm going to expose my kid to all religions so s/he can choose"-- I think that's only confusing them, and they will choose their own, regardless of us, right?

 

Yeah, see this is where it gets weird for me. I have a system of beliefs... what I'm lacking in is a system of practices. There is only one option for pagans in my community, and they're of a trad I don't ascribe to in the least, and tbh the people that I've met from that coven are pretty creepy. I wish we had something like UU in my area. I would love the fellowship. It's been hard to really dig my heels in and really "do" the solitary thing as well.

 

While I may acknowledge to myself that it's a full moon, it's not like I'm gonna light the firepit and hold an esbat ritual by myself. It feels artificial, and then it takes away time from family. DH is not pagan, and I get weird-ed out thinking that he's gonna want to watch me going through a ritual just so he can see what it's all about. Then I get all self-conscious about speaking aloud in my backyard, cause if it's not DH watching through the window, then the creepy neighbor will be peeking through the fence slats from his post on his back porch. Sooo.... to sum up, I've really let my practices fall by the wayside over the last few years.

 

I guess that's one of the reasons I joined on this thread was for some accountability. The last few months I've been trying to bring back some spirituality into my life. So far this has involved doing a simple re-dedication ritual in the dark of my bedroom one night after DH fell asleep on the couch, putting my altar back together, doing the treasure map this year, and reading some of my religious books. I have Family Wicca, Celebrating the Great Mother, and Pagan Parenting, so it's not like I don't know that there are many different ways to raise a pagan kid. It just feels like... how do I begin to bring my kid up pagan when I can't even find my own way to practice paganism. IDK.. It's something I'm working on for sure.

 

And I totally agree with you about exposing them (kiddos) to everything. I don't want to say God with a capital G one day, and then gods and goddesses the next, and then Buddha the next, etc. I DO think that's confusing to a kid. I do want to make all of those available to her when she starts questioning and searching for herself, but for now I really wish I had a clear way to parent her with my own beliefs. I just haven't found my way with that yet. And, I'm not sure yet how I want to approach other belief systems yet. I don't want to say "they're wrong!" or anything like that. (I don't believe that anyway... I'm more of a "many paths up the mountain" kinda gal.) But, then if I do my thing of saying "Well, I believe this, and other people believe that and that and that. What do you think?" doesn't that just go back to being confusing? nut.gif It would be so much easier all around if there was just a coven, or a circle, or a service, or a meeting, or something that we could just go to that just served up paganism in a basic format.


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We went to the children's museum and spent the day there. It was a lot of fun. Saw a Maiasaura on display. thumb.gif And we got to "visit Egypt" and do all sorts of other fun and nifty things. 

 

 

The Children's Museum is such an excellent resource for us local families! I feel bad for the kids that only get to go once a year or who only get to go as a part of a school field trip. 

 

That said, my kids have totally outgrown it. Sucks. I have awesome memories of taking the kids there and staying all day. Now? My 5 year old would like to stay for hours but the boys (12.5 & 8.5) are over it after about 1-2 hours.

 

They do love the Egypt exhibit and the top floor of dinosphere -- which they call their 'art school' because they do drawing and sculpting for a long time

 

 

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It would be helpful to have a book around to teach my kids the stories from the Bible esp since those stories are considered universal (*sigh*). It could be like teaching another culture's mythology. 

 

We do what I'd call Comparative Mythology all the time around here. I don't discount the biblical stories at all, but I also don't put them on a higher pedestal than other stories/mythologies. The kids know -- at whatever level is appropriate for each one of them -- that Christianity is so much of a majority religion here as to be accepted as 'everyone's religion' and they know that this is not necessarily true. 

 

We've talked lots over the years about accepting that people come from a variety of different ethnic, cultural and religious backgrounds and that it is a good and proper thing to accept that.

 

All that said -- we've never had a bible in the house. But then we don't have holy books from any of the other religions/mythologies. 

 

As for the stories -- the kids pretty much get a really good perspective and context about the main & culturally pervasive biblical stories from Veggie Tales. orngbiggrin.gif


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I see what you mean. Your explanation totally makes sense. Do you want to brainstorm on-thread?

 

So...your dd is four? And you have one due, yes? What religion (if any) is your DH? Is he hostile to Paganism or just curious or noncommittal at all?

 

What I am thinking is this. Your dd is only 4. Looking back to when mine was 4...you have PLENTY of time. Plenty. Probably about 2-3 years at least, to get something down if you want to impart a personal belief to your kid before she starts with "What do YOU believe?" and really? With mine, I was like "Well...my beliefs aren't really cemented" lol.gif

And I think being honest about "some people believe this, while others believe that" isn't confusing like actually GOING to these places, as if it's your "belief of the week". I knew one mom who decided her way of teaching religions was to BE each thing, for a year. Now that would be confusing to me! And she's Pagan! Why not just raise the kid Pagan, y'know?


I think what you oughtta do is read, read, read to your kid. Lots and lots of stories. You can explore your own beliefs along the way! I think kid books are wonderful resources for adults. They're simplified, y'know? My mom takes this Bible study class (I was like "Finally!", lol, if  you are going to be a Christian, you oughtta know your holy book, eh?) and she was confused about one of the lessons, and I said "Why don't you read it out of ds's Bible?" and she did and it cleared it right up lol.gif

 

Anyway if you read to her, you'll be learning right along with. I'm sure there are lots and lots of "mythology" books for kids orngbiggrin.gif

 

 

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We do what I'd call Comparative Mythology all the time around here. I don't discount the biblical stories at all, but I also don't put them on a higher pedestal than other stories/mythologies. The kids know -- at whatever level is appropriate for each one of them -- that Christianity is so much of a majority religion here as to be accepted as 'everyone's religion' and they know that this is not necessarily true. 

 

We've talked lots over the years about accepting that people come from a variety of different ethnic, cultural and religious backgrounds and that it is a good and proper thing to accept that.

 

All that said -- we've never had a bible in the house. But then we don't have holy books from any of the other religions/mythologies. 

 

As for the stories -- the kids pretty much get a really good perspective and context about the main & culturally pervasive biblical stories from Veggie Tales. orngbiggrin.gif


This is wonderful, Mary, and so well-rounded. Good mama! love.gif DS is aware like that, too. We do have Bibles in the house (remember when my mom got him that kid one?). Mine, I have two, one was a gift from a dear friend, and one I bought my ownself because it's a Catholic one.

We also have other books but not holy books, just "mythology" ones (put in quotes because it really jerks my chain that anyone would consider holy stories from another culture as "myths").


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 I'm hoping to kick my two year old out of my bed before the new baby comes.

 

Everything is still icky and wet here. We might try fairy looms again next week: the weather forecast suggests that it's gonna be icky all week, and I need new shoes: the only shoes I have that don't have holes in them at this point are converses, which is so not fun to be outside on a rainy day in. I'm hoping it dries up by Sun: there's fire spinning and drumming near the lake to celebrate the full moon during the warmer months of the year; this will be the first one of the year, and I'm so excited!

 

And yes, the whole mouse infestation thing violates the laws according to the city's housing authority, but I don't have it in me to try to take these guys to court. I wish I did, but I don't. They won't even just let us out of our lease. In three months, though, our lease will be up, and we're moving one way or another. We're hoping to buy a house (since the rental market is so horrible right now that rent payment is about equal to a mortgage payment on a small fixer-upper), but if not, we're rent somewhere else. I just can't wait until those three months are over, though finding an alternative stresses me out.

Okay, so our 2 y.o. is also in our bed... and I love it.  and I don't.  KWIM?  It makes me sad to think that once she's out she's out forever. I know how much better I sleep when she's not in the bed... Anyway, I see that you have an older child so you probably have experience in this transition.  How are you planning to transition your 2yo??  I'm thinking by the time Z is 3 it will be time... I would totally value your insight.

 

I wish I lived near you so I could participate in the drumming/fire spinning! It sounds lovely.  

 

It's too freaking bad you can't just make one phone call to a code enforcer saying your rights are being violated as a tenant and have them take care of this rather than having to do it yourself through court.  I'm sorry, but that's simply BS what the F is the housing authority there for if they aren't going to enforce?  Sorry to rant, I'm just ticked for you.  No one should have to deal with that.  *Grumble!* irked.gif

 

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 We go to the UU (well, we have majorly slacked off lately). They get exposed to UU concepts AND lots of religions, there. He is interested in Christianity, but I think he's coming around to Paganism again. He's 11.

 

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I had SUCH a great day today. I miss my ds terribly, but I can't believe how quiet it is around here, and without the interruptions of his day-to-day, and having to drop him/get him from school, and all his activities, and losing sleep because he loses sleep, and the feeling of urgency around a typical day-- I had a hugely uninterrupted sleep last night, and such an easy day, even though I did a ton of chores...I feel marvelous.

 

I only really wish I had not canceled my plans to go see M this week. This has been WAY too long.

I would like my Not-give a shit bone" early.  I'm trying to exercise it more so it becomes stronger.  

 

UU religious instruction sounds great for Zoey but I don't know that I want to be part of the congregation.  I do have to say, though, every week the local UU church has their sermon/lecture "theme" or what have you on the board outside and it always sounds very interesting.  What do you make of it?  Since Z is 2 I know I have some time but I'd like to have some direction.  

 

Good to hear that you are enjoying your time alone.  It's got to be nice to have your own time to breathe. 

 

I totally relate to much of your post, MamaIntheDesert!  I keep telling myself that the learning curve is practicing.

 

We were able to make our fairy loom yesterday.  Z squealed she was so excited about it.  haha.  If I think of it I will post a picture when I upload them.  :)  


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Thanks for all the birthday well wishes! I agree, I need to celebrate all week. My parents got nasty at the birthday dinner they took me to last night, so I at LEAST need a do-over. I never even made my birthday cake!

 

3X - It is SO time for a garage sale! I wish I had more energy to put into it. DH and I have been going back and forth about whether we should have one before the baby gets here (June). I've been going room by room and putting more and more things up in the attic on the garage sale half of the room. Part of me thinks that we should get our butts in gear, but the other part of me says oh no, I'm just so big and round... maybe I should just eat something instead.

 

LOL. I had a garage sale before my second was born. I'm glad I did. Too bad about your birthday. And what's a birthday without cake? yummy.gif

 

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I had a hugely uninterrupted sleep last night, and such an easy day, even though I did a ton of chores...I feel marvelous.

 

 

Yay for sleep, though I got to say, that you are still sleep deprived with an 11 year old doesn' t bode well for me.

 

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Okay, so our 2 y.o. is also in our bed... and I love it.  and I don't.  KWIM?  It makes me sad to think that once she's out she's out forever. I know how much better I sleep when she's not in the bed... Anyway, I see that you have an older child so you probably have experience in this transition.  How are you planning to transition your 2yo??  I'm thinking by the time Z is 3 it will be time... I would totally value your insight.

 

UU religious instruction sounds great for Zoey but I don't know that I want to be part of the congregation.  I do have to say, though, every week the local UU church has their sermon/lecture "theme" or what have you on the board outside and it always sounds very interesting.  What do you make of it?  Since Z is 2 I know I have some time but I'd like to have some direction.  

 

Well, this is what I did with my eldest: When my second came along, we tried the whole family bed thing. She was almost three at the time, and she still nursed at night. With my milk coming in, suddently she was wetting the bed all the time (when previously she hadn't wet the bed since she was less than two), and no one was getting any sleep. So, we abruptly night weaned her and transitioned her to a bed away from me. She wouldn't sleep by herself initially, so we started with having my partner sleep with her. Gradually, he stopped sleeping with her. She had an early bedtime than us, so even when before he stopped sleeping with her, we had started to talk about what she should do if she woke up to comfort herself back to sleep. We'd tell her that she needed to drink some water, try to use the bathroom, adjust her covers, and cuddle her doll. If she still couldn't get back to sleep, she could come get Daddy. Sometime before she was four, she was sleeping by herself almost every night. We didn't announce it. He just stopped going to sleep in her bed unless she came and got him, and eventually she pretty much stopped asking.

 

I don't know exactly how things will work with my second. He is already night weaned, and he sleeps better at night than my eldest did at that age. He also has an early bedtime, but if he wakes (which is more rare), he doesn't soothe himself yet, but because he wakes less frequently, I'm sort of hoping that if I move him to his own bed, most nights he'll just sleep through the night. If not, my partner will sleep with him and we'll work on teaching him to soothe himself at night. He's a lot less verbal than my eldest at this age, so teaching him that seems like a more daunting project, but while I prefer my partner to sleep with me, I just want him sleeping somewhere other than with me and the new baby come this winter. I don't know how helpful that is for a home with an only child.


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