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#1 of 8 Old 07-08-2012, 08:57 AM - Thread Starter
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Ok, I just signed up yesterday but I've been a long-time lurker. smile.gif


As the title says I'm no longer a christian as of a few months ago, but had doubts for a while before that as well. Before I was "born-again", I was just plain old me; doing what I wanted, didn't really follow a philosophy or religion, although my family is Catholic.


I have 4 children and we homeschool so the last few months have been busy. Now that summer is here, I have some time. I'd like to figure out who I am, where I am in life spiritually. To me it's all a journey. Right now I just feel so lost.


So, no longer a christian. I do not believe in a literal hell or heaven any longer. I do not believe Jesus is the only way anymore. I feel like I've been brainwashed these last few years. At this point, I think I believe that there is something more powerful, but not really God, at least maybe not the christian God.


I'm kinda feeling like live and let live. Be honest, be kind, be compassionate. I like seasonal celebrations, I'd like to learn more about the moon phases. I believe you get what you put out (karma?). Beyond that, I'm not sure at this point. This is where I need help.


I'd like book rec's, maybe blogs about spiritual journeys, somewhere to start.


Please help if you can! smile.gif

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#2 of 8 Old 07-08-2012, 12:13 PM
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Have you tried the infamous Belief-o-matic Quiz? :)


From your description, it sounds like you'd feel at home with UUs...but they are not the only ones I know who might blend pagan/seasonal celebrations.  That seems to be growing everywhere, really.


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Do you require a religious path?


I ask, because I thought I did, for a long time.  We have all been told that "everyone" believes in "something".


Well, we don't. 


I like seasonal celebrations as well.  At our house, we have flowers and candy season, BBQ and beer season, beer and awesome yummy food season, and then way too much yummy food and candy season. 

But this is not a spiritual or religious path.


Not knocking you if you do require something, just chiming in that not all of us do. 



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I'm raising mine with the dh as "agnostics with pagan leanings". We have parties and celebrations to honor the changing the seasons and as a good excuse to catch up with friends and loved ones. Also, regular parties keep me motivated to keep a clean house. redface.gif

Didn't care for the UU... too wishy washy. I think it fills a place for some adults as a community builder but any folks I knew that were raised UU as children are atheist at this point.
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We have embraced a variety of religious practices from all over the world. We are raising our kids to be spiritual and not religious.  I believe that the supreme source is oblivious to the labels we slap on things and experiences. They are beyond language.

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I'm right there with you.  I was raised fundamental Baptist but quit going to church after I moved from home.  Then I half-heartedly went to some semi-liberal protestant churches off and on.  I recently quit going and I don't see myself going back.  I feel like I need to pick some religion so I've been reading a lot about the metaphyical and spirit world.  Right now I'm pursuing Wicca and other forms of paganism.  Not sure where my path will lead me though. 

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I'm in a similar situation as the OP.  I was raised Catholic and went to 12 years Catholic school.  My husband's family was also Catholic but they stopped practicing when he was little.  I know the Catholic church is not right for me.  We tried a local Lutheran church and loved the pastor and liked some aspects (like women being pastors, etc) but we stopped going because I disagree with many of the principal beliefs of Christianity.  (etc.  belief that non-Christians are not going to heaven, views on reproductive issues, views on homosexuality, etc.)  I have looked into other religions but I have not found anything that fits my beliefs...yet I would like to raise my children with some sort of religion or spirituality. 


I do not think we will ever be parents who say - "This is how it is." - with regards to religion.  I sometimes worry that our spiritual confusion or lack of religious conviction is a bad thing.   My son questions what happens after death - a lot.  I am honest and tell him I am not sure but some people believe...etc.  So far he likes the idea of reincarnation much better than heaven.


We've been celebrating holidays in a mostly secular way.  We discuss other religions when possible (but we need to become more educated).  My husband and I were saying the other day...we wish there was some sort of comprehensive theology class we could take as a family and learn about all religions/traditions. 

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You don't need a label. You can be whatever you want. My DH is Japanese, grew up with bon dances, I grew up Christian and long ago found I was unable to reconcile the holes and flaws.. We've got a mini-shrine in our house but that doesn't mean we have an exclusive relationship with any religion! I like to think of Plato's cave allegory or even John Godfrey Saxe and his blind mind and the elephant. We might glimpse the divine or universal truth but maybe it is out of our grasp to know it in its entirety and that is okay. We can still appreciate what we do experience. This idea also fosters respect of other traditions.

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