My DH sees positive changes in me but really chalks it up to crazy foreign philosophy. He keeps talking about getting us into church again, but i really have no desire. I just really don't believe the way he does and i feel like I'm faking it so people won't think I'm an awful atheist or something. I don't know how to approach this situation. Our marriage never took a spiritual turn until 2 years in. We were married on the beach in a non-religious ceremony, so it's not like I've suddenly become someone he didn't marry.
And how do kids and their beliefs factor in? My oldest always wants to discuss God with me and I'm confused on how to approach this. Anyone else agree to disagree??
Jesse, mama to my three wonderful boys, our newest born at home late Jan 2012
My husband is Catholic and I'm a pagan. We attend mass every Sunday at a very conservative parish and fulfill all our obligations as a Catholic family. We also celebrate the quarters and cross quarters. I practice my faith with my family which is a joy. My husband supports and "attends" my rituals and I do the same. It isn't about our beliefs being different, its about our family and our love. That said there are alot of similarities in our faiths and ideas. We focus on what is similar. That might be harder with Taoism and Orthodox but it doesn't have to be. Don't think of church as something you do for other people, go to be with your family, to love your husband and maybe if your lucky to sneak in some mediation time. I feel the the beautiful ritual services of older churches are well suited to personal meditation and contemplation. Having a different faith from your husband can be a wonderful thing. Our children are young so they aren't asking really complicated questions about God yet but maybe that would be another good reason to go the church with them. They can see a living faith surrounding God and ask questions of other people (including your husband) and you can be there to clairify or guide conversations. My only other advice is to be patient and forgiving with your husband. Men hate change worse than cats hate water, even when its good.
Catholic beliefs tend to run deep, unless the Catholic has left the Church for his/her own reasons. I don't have any advice. Maybe a dual religion upbringing would work. I'm not sure.
I am a Christian and my husband is an athiest. I basically handle all the religious/spiritual stuff in our family. If one of the boys asks dh about God, he'll answer to the best of his ability (he went to church growing up, so he knows the basics) or send them to me. One of my big regrets is that we don't go to church regularly, even just me and the boys. I need to work on that.
Mostly, we just agree to disagree. We make sure that neither of us are bashing the other side (ie-I don't go around saying athiests are going to hell and dh doesn't go around talking about how it is stupid to believe in God, etc). The funny thing is that I am super socially liberal and dh tends to be really socially conservative, politics-wise. It makes me laugh, a bit.
Wife to an amazing man , mommy to 3 wild dudes: ds1 (5/23/05 @ 30 weeks), ds2 (3/5/09) , and ds3 (9/26/10) . Part time librarian, full time mommy, occasional chef and maid.