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Hi to all you earth based spirituality/pagan moms.  :treehugger

 

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My birthday is this month birthday.gif to me! It's the 17th. I don't know what I'll be doing for my birthday yet, but it's a Sunday, so I'm happy!


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My birthday is this month birthday.gifto me! It's the 17th. I don't know what I'll be doing for my birthday yet, but it's a Sunday, so I'm happy!

 

Party at your house! Woot!  ;)

 

Sure thing, why not? Actually I am hoping my old punk buds from Syracuse will stop by. I've been threatened! :lol


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Happy Birthday Month!  Hooray!  partytime.gif

 

I wonder how revolting is doing?  I have been thinking about her lately...revolting if you see this sending you love, mama!

 

This month...is wild.  Lots of family love, football games and feasts (well, I had to tack on another F-word).  


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Hey mamas! I had my baby boy on Oct. 24th. At 9lbs 6oz and posterior, I had a difficult labor, but we still had him at home. Even though I had planned super chillax Samhain plans, even those didn't go down. I find keeping up on homeschooling and the new baby more than a full-time job! Maybe I'll have my act together by Yule...

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:joy  Hooray for the birth of you baby boy, revolting!! I am so, so happy for you.  Although your birth was difficult I am so pleased for you that you were able to stay at home like you wanted to!! How are you feeling?  

 

I cannot even imagine what juggling everything at home must be like but you seem like a ridiculously strong mama and you're likely doing better than you even think "getting your act together."  I am sending you lots and lots of peace and patience.

 

Speaking of YULE... Z kept asking me, "Mama, mama, when is Jewel?" and I could not for the life of me figure out what she was asking me.  July?  Jewel like the singer?  Finally I asked her to describe to me what Jewel meant to her "you know, when we throw the bread!" hahahaha :rotflmao Riiiiight... YULE.  I took it as a win that she is starting to remember how we celebrate the Sabbats! 


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Oh, revolting, congrats, mama! When was he born? What's his name, if you'll say?

 

vydalea, yay that Z remembers "Jewel"! :lol I bet your family will be calling it Jewel for years to come. I'm glad you reminded me about the bread. DS is getting too old to care about anything, including family traditions. He would not let me read "Heckedy Peg" to him for Halloween this year gloomy.gif I wonder if anybody will want to hear "The Night Before Christmas"? It's so much more fun when kids are little, I think. Gah.


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Hey mamas! I had my baby boy on Oct. 24th. At 9lbs 6oz and posterior, I had a difficult labor, but we still had him at home. Even though I had planned super chillax Samhain plans, even those didn't go down. I find keeping up on homeschooling and the new baby more than a full-time job! Maybe I'll have my act together by Yule...

 

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Hi guys. I'm just browsing through here. Trying to find my spirituality and I feel my energy belongs in the craft/earthly energies, I just don't know what fits me or how I go about educating myself on some of the stuff you guys practice, etc. What does it mean to you to be Pagan? What are some important traditions to you that you do, daily, monthly, yearly, etc. Do you have any type of like-minded people around you that you get together with?


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Hi guys. I'm just browsing through here. Trying to find my spirituality and I feel my energy belongs in the craft/earthly energies, I just don't know what fits me or how I go about educating myself on some of the stuff you guys practice, etc. What does it mean to you to be Pagan? What are some important traditions to you that you do, daily, monthly, yearly, etc. Do you have any type of like-minded people around you that you get together with?

 

Sigh. I wish I had people that I got together with. I just moved to a new area and haven't found my tribe yet. Where I used to live, I went to public rituals/potlucks for some 4 years or more, and got to know the core folk that put those on.

Right now, I am working on a daily spiritual practice, and I'm holding onto that until I find others, but I hope to establish a daily practice anyway, whether I find others or not. I may have to "build it and they will come"...sigh. I'd rather participate than lead. Well, sometimes.

 

What does it mean to me to be Pagan? Well...for me, and this is my perception only (take what you like and leave the rest!), I don't "believe" so much as I know, venerate, and practice. I have this very vast idea of what God/dess is, sort of. It's way too big. It's not a he or a she necessarily, or even a they, but, like me, part of a vast whole. I believe in the sacred. I believe everything and everyone is part of the Divine. I honor that. To me it kind of seems cheap and cheesy to say "Goddess" or "God" or put names to such, but sometimes for ease, I do it anyway.

What it means to be Pagan, for me, is that I honor the Earth and all Her creatures and I do really think everything has a spirit, including things that most people assume are inanimate, like rocks.

I'm a practical Witch. I don't think you have to have special materials in order to practice (wand, athame, special robes, etc) but I do like to have them, and especially early on I liked to have them. They helped me connect, and learn, till I didn't necessarily need them anymore and could do with a finger what I used to have to  have a wand for, for instance.
I like little magicks. I like to stir deosil (clockwise) when I make soup, I like to put little sigils (pentagrams, usually) on doorways and things, I like to smudge my house occasionally, I like to ground and shield every day if I remember and sometimes I do the Short Version :lol but that's allowed. I try to get quiet and meditate-- the most I can achieve is about 8 minutes, but that's OK, too. Sometimes the best I can manage is to get quiet for a second while I am on the potty!

The most I have learned is to keep practicing, because I don't want to beat myself up...that's counterproductive. Especially with small kids around. Do what you can do.
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Oh, and I keep a home altar, too, a little one on my dresser-top. In my bedroom. Makes me stop and pause for just a second when I go in there. Which counts.

 

Hope that helps?

 

I thank you for asking the questions. They made me slow down to actually articulate what those things mean for me...and sometimes I need to do that. I'm not sure I was any clear, but I tried :D


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Sigh. I wish I had people that I got together with. I just moved to a new area and haven't found my tribe yet. Where I used to live, I went to public rituals/potlucks for some 4 years or more, and got to know the core folk that put those on.

Right now, I am working on a daily spiritual practice, and I'm holding onto that until I find others, but I hope to establish a daily practice anyway, whether I find others or not. I may have to "build it and they will come"...sigh. I'd rather participate than lead. Well, sometimes.

 

What does it mean to me to be Pagan? Well...for me, and this is my perception only (take what you like and leave the rest!), I don't "believe" so much as I know, venerate, and practice. I have this very vast idea of what God/dess is, sort of. It's way too big. It's not a he or a she necessarily, or even a they, but, like me, part of a vast whole. I believe in the sacred. I believe everything and everyone is part of the Divine. I honor that. To me it kind of seems cheap and cheesy to say "Goddess" or "God" or put names to such, but sometimes for ease, I do it anyway.

What it means to be Pagan, for me, is that I honor the Earth and all Her creatures and I do really think everything has a spirit, including things that most people assume are inanimate, like rocks.

I'm a practical Witch. I don't think you have to have special materials in order to practice (wand, athame, special robes, etc) but I do like to have them, and especially early on I liked to have them. They helped me connect, and learn, till I didn't necessarily need them anymore and could do with a finger what I used to have to  have a wand for, for instance.
I like little magicks. I like to stir deosil (clockwise) when I make soup, I like to put little sigils (pentagrams, usually) on doorways and things, I like to smudge my house occasionally, I like to ground and shield every day if I remember and sometimes I do the Short Version :lol but that's allowed. I try to get quiet and meditate-- the most I can achieve is about 8 minutes, but that's OK, too. Sometimes the best I can manage is to get quiet for a second while I am on the potty!

The most I have learned is to keep practicing, because I don't want to beat myself up...that's counterproductive. Especially with small kids around. Do what you can do.
I absolutely LOVE Karinna Blackheart's Daily Witch. Go look it up and subscribe to the daily email. I find her SO helpful! If she says "stop and breathe NOW", I actually do it.

Oh, and I keep a home altar, too, a little one on my dresser-top. In my bedroom. Makes me stop and pause for just a second when I go in there. Which counts.

 

Hope that helps?

 

I thank you for asking the questions. They made me slow down to actually articulate what those things mean for me...and sometimes I need to do that. I'm not sure I was any clear, but I tried :D

You just summed up my whole belief system! Even believing everything has a spirit. I think I feel at home now. ^_^

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You just summed up my whole belief system! Even believing everything has a spirit. I think I feel at home now. ^_^

 

Yay! Well, then, Becky Wheeler, merry meet! :D Where are you? I'm in MA.


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Yay! Well, then, Becky Wheeler, merry meet! :D Where are you? I'm in MA.

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Welcome, BeckyWheeler!  wave.gif  

 

I think Maia really articulated well what I agree to be MY version of Paganism when she wrote "What it means to be Pagan, for me, is that I honor the Earth and all Her creatures and I do really think everything has a spirit, including things that most people assume are inanimate, like rocks."  I honor the Earth, I celebrate the turning of the wheel with my family.  For me, I focus on my garden as a place of seeing the turning of the wheel - it helps my daughter to kind of "get it" a little more because she can see it. I also subscribe to the "Rule of Three" where all the energy you put in the world comes back to you three-fold.  The energy of the Universe is the base of my beliefs.  

 

I, too, have an altar.  Mine is in my home office.  I charge my rocks and water and whatever else I feel needs a little magical energy in the light of the full moon.  At the new moon each month I do a goddess oracle reading and set my intentions for the month.  I read new moon reports every month to help in that at tracyastrosalon.blogspot.com.  For the sabbats I have started doing little things with my daughter and hubs and solitary things by myself.  I think that as they come up we usually talk about them so stay tuned... Yule is coming up and it's my second favorite!  (Summer solstice is my #1 favorite!!)

 

In other news... birthday.gif Maiasaura!!!!   I hope your day is awesome!! xoxo


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Thanks! Guess what? I got a diamond from M for my birthday...I'm officially engaged now! :joy:love


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eeEEeeEEE! CONGRATULATIONS YOU TWO!!! :joy 


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Well, I've been reading on and off here for a while, and this question "What does it mean to you to be Pagan?" is timely for me and I would like to create my answer as I have been thinking about it myself lately. At this point of my life - my babies are bigger, my work is comfortably integrated into my life - I am able to occasionally shift my focus and allow my own thoughts to occupy my mind for long enough to contemplate things purposefully.

 

Growing up, my family did not practice religion or profess any specific faith at home, but I did attend Catholic school for 10 years. The ritualistic aspect, the incense and the candles to match the seasons, was very comfortable and comforting to me. While I never really felt any spiritual stirrings while I attended church or school there, one of my favorite parts of the year was the month we honored Mary. 

 

When I was little, I was drawn to all things magical - tv shows like Bewitched, I Dream of Jeannie were my favorites; I looked for the moon every night; my fairy tale book was used as my "book of spells" before I could read; I used to spend my allowance on these rolled up zodiac/astrology things; I still have a small library of magical books from Lewellyn from when I was a teenager; Tarot cards were always very easy for me to read, so much so that I freaked myself out and got rid of my deck. 

 

I had a baby and started going to a non-denominational church. I enjoyed the community aspect very much, and again, the rhythm that attending services brought to my days. I appreciated the feelings the music elicited, and the way the pastor read from the bible, adding cultural and historical text which broadened my understanding of the verses. I did not appreciate the message of tolerance, versus acceptance and celebration for those who believed differently, though. But I figured that I wasn't going to find something that matched my beliefs perfectly, so I took what I liked and left the rest. Until one day, the pastor said something about a conversation he had with a "white witch" - his response in this exchange was something along the lines of "white, purple, polka-dots, I don't care what color you are, being a witch is still a sin". That wasn't even tolerance, let alone respectful, and I left. I couldn't identify as a Christian anymore, but I didn't feel comfortable denying Jesus, either, because his life and his teachings are truth to me as well. 

 

Since then, I took as many opportunities as I could going to magic circles, visiting various mosques and temples. I have had the privilege of working with Muslim families, Orthodox Jewish families, Amish and Mennonite families, etc. I began sporadically involved my kids in spells and rituals (like when we wanted to sell our house, had naming ceremonies for our new babies, etc.). Two years ago, I started gathering with friends the Saturday closest to the Full Moon. 

 

I tell my kids that to me, religions are just different languages of saying the same thing. I see truth in Judiasm, Islam, astrology, numerology, tarot, Christianity, Hinduism, all of it. Because to me, its all the same thing - just a different language, with different tools to express it maybe. When people talk about their religion, I can replace any term with one that makes sense to me and connect with them where they are.  

 

In summary, Paganism is what feels right to ALL of me. It allows me the space to grow spiritually, to explore and expand my personal views, while at the same time keeping me rooted in, and bringing me back to, what has always been there. I really resonate with all the holidays - honoring deceased loved ones, caring for our physical bodies, acknowledging the the balance of light and the dark co-existing and how that applies to many levels of life, etc. Paganism gives me the opportunity to incorporate the meaningful rhythm and ritual I crave into my daily life.

 

Right now, I am looking for more ways to draw my kids into this more mindfully as a way to connect. I think I do a good job doing spells with them when there's something special happening, like a really powerful moon and the Sabbats, but I want to focus on the importance of every day / month. 

 

Okay, more random and long winded than I planned. And I didn't proofread. But I'm hitting submit anyway... :) 

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I tell my kids that to me, religions are just different languages of saying the same thing. I see truth in Judiasm, Islam, astrology, numerology, tarot, Christianity, Hinduism, all of it. Because to me, its all the same thing - just a different language, with different tools to express it maybe. 

 

Are you my conscience? :lol (Sez Dory, right?)

Yeah, me too. All my YA novels were about witches. All my little kid books were about witches. I had this astrology book when I was a kid that I read till it fell apart (which is hilarious, because I'm SO not about astrology now). Those were my fave TV shows, too. My best friend and I played "witches" and she was Serena (from Bewitched) and I was Sabrina (from The Archies). We had a "logo" that was like our secret sign, a witch hat with a broom through it, like an arrow through a heart, drawn a very particular way. Witches, always witches.

 

And yes, I love the way you put that, religions are just different languages of saying the same thing. That's even better than what I say, which is basically everybody wants to get to the top of the mountain; some go straight up while others go 'round and 'round, but the striving is what counts.


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And yes, I love the way you put that, religions are just different languages of saying the same thing. That's even better than what I say, which is basically everybody wants to get to the top of the mountain; some go straight up while others go 'round and 'round, but the striving is what counts.

 

Oh! I like that, too. :) 

I can't believe you read all the way through my post, lol. 

 

You mentioned stirring the pot clockwise - I do that naturally, never thought of that as magical, but I will now!  I love the idea of little bits of magic scattered through out my day! Especially wrt cooking and cleaning. 

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Hilarious, ladies.  I was sure when I was little that I was the real life Tabitha (the daughter from Bewitched) and it remains one of my all time favorite TV shows!!  ha!
 
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I have a publisher showing interest in my cookbook. AND a book that I contributed to is on amazon.com today (Paganism 101, if you're interested).

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Wolfcat-- awesome, mama! How exciting is that? :thumb


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Hi my pagan mamas. Please light a candle for my grandmother who died yesterday morning. My grandmother spent decades smoking Camel Lights, drinking Oldstyle, and reading what she called "wicked" novels, which mostly consisted of romance novels. As children, she fed us the best homemade spaghetti sauce topped with cottage cheese by candlelight followed by Sundays. I can't imagine celebrating Thanksgiving without all those pies she baked every year even as she started to approach 90 years old or following the meal with her trash talking as we played cards: Only on Monday night she had bemoaned the difficulty of finding lard for pies nowadays as she started preparing to make her pies. Despite her age and her bouncing in and out of hospitals for the last few years, her rapid deterioration surprised me. By the time she passed, her body had swollen and blackened. She couldn't breathe unassisted and the BPAP that helped her made her miserable. She felt a lot of pain until the last few minutes where they sedated her with a whole lot of drugs. She held strongly to her conservative Lutheran beliefs, and I hope her belief that she would soon return to Jesus and her husband comforted her in the end. She always told me when I birthed my firstborn that she never expected to meet any of her great-grandchildren, and that she did get to meet my newborn helps ease some of the pain of her loss. We will attend the wake on Monday, a very traditional, Christian sort of thing that I have yet to process how I shall prepare the children since I keep my religious beliefs pretty private and I know that the wake and funeral will expose my children to some pretty conservative and what will seem to them unusual religious beliefs. Last time I attended a wake, one of my aunts reassured me of how the decease was the lucky one since he returned to Jesus, and that we are just sad for ourselves for losing him. My three year old still struggles to understand what happened to "Grandma Great," and my six year old still stays in denial. I will admit I struggle with her denial, with her focus on her excitement around seeing one of her cousins rather than the huge loss of her great-grandmother. I also struggle with a lack of closure around my grandmother's death: my grandmother obviously had something she wanted to communicate to us as she died, but the BPAP made her speech incomprehensible and the weakness of her disease left her unable to write. I've read through The Pagan Book of Living and Dying, but a lot of it didn't resonate with me. I hope to have an altar erected for her soon; my mother organized the funeral at a place a few blocks from my grandmother's home. I'd love prayers and songs to help me move through the grief but also feel respectful of my grandmother's beliefs.


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Hi my pagan mamas. Please light a candle for my grandmother who died yesterday morning. My grandmother spent decades smoking Camel Lights, drinking Oldstyle, and reading what she called "wicked" novels, which mostly consisted of romance novels. As children, she fed us the best homemade spaghetti sauce topped with cottage cheese by candlelight followed by Sundays. I can't imagine celebrating Thanksgiving without all those pies she baked every year even as she started to approach 90 years old or following the meal with her trash talking as we played cards: Only on Monday night she had bemoaned the difficulty of finding lard for pies nowadays as she started preparing to make her pies. Despite her age and her bouncing in and out of hospitals for the last few years, her rapid deterioration surprised me. By the time she passed, her body had swollen and blackened. She couldn't breathe unassisted and the BPAP that helped her made her miserable. She felt a lot of pain until the last few minutes where they sedated her with a whole lot of drugs. She held strongly to her conservative Lutheran beliefs, and I hope her belief that she would soon return to Jesus and her husband comforted her in the end. She always told me when I birthed my firstborn that she never expected to meet any of her great-grandchildren, and that she did get to meet my newborn helps ease some of the pain of her loss. We will attend the wake on Monday, a very traditional, Christian sort of thing that I have yet to process how I shall prepare the children since I keep my religious beliefs pretty private and I know that the wake and funeral will expose my children to some pretty conservative and what will seem to them unusual religious beliefs. Last time I attended a wake, one of my aunts reassured me of how the decease was the lucky one since he returned to Jesus, and that we are just sad for ourselves for losing him. My three year old still struggles to understand what happened to "Grandma Great," and my six year old still stays in denial. I will admit I struggle with her denial, with her focus on her excitement around seeing one of her cousins rather than the huge loss of her great-grandmother. I also struggle with a lack of closure around my grandmother's death: my grandmother obviously had something she wanted to communicate to us as she died, but the BPAP made her speech incomprehensible and the weakness of her disease left her unable to write. I've read through The Pagan Book of Living and Dying, but a lot of it didn't resonate with me. I hope to have an altar erected for her soon; my mother organized the funeral at a place a few blocks from my grandmother's home. I'd love prayers and songs to help me move through the grief but also feel respectful of my grandmother's beliefs.

 

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BIG hugs, mama. I'm so sorry. She sounds like she was a wonderful woman and that you have a great legacy! I'm so glad you got to see her before she died, even if her dying was quick and maybe painful for her. My father died quickly, and while it was horrid for those of us left (so fast!) I think it was merciful for him that he didn't suffer long.

As for your kids-- I would probably just tell them "There may be lots of things you don't understand at the funeral. Just be quiet and respectful and any questions you have, I promise you we can talk later, when we're alone". And then you will have to follow through. At their ages, "Different people have different beliefs" is probably the main go-to phrase, and then you can briefly explain what "they" believe. They may ask what you believe. If you don't want to answer that yet, you can easily turn it on them and ask what they believe. Kids that age are really easily sidetracked!

When they ask where did Grandma Great go, you could say something like "She died. Some people think the spirit goes to Heaven. Some other people think X and some other people think Y. Grandma Great believed in heaven and we hope she's there"...or something like that.

 

Oh, mama. It sounds to me like you ought to keep up the pie tradition, and the spaghetti one, too, in her honor, when you feel up to it. HUGE hugs.

 

Also-- ETA-- I think it's pretty normal for a 6yo to focus on seeing her cousin. You could tell her that this is a very solemn occasion, and she must be serious during the wake, but that she can play afterwards at the "party"-- I don't know what it's called-- you know, where people gather after the wake with food and stuff.


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revolting: :grouphug I am sending you so much strength and healing as you move through this time and process.  It sounds like your grandmother was what we refer to in my family as a "pistol."  I agree with Maia and hope that when you are ready you honor her with pie making and cottage cheese topped-spaghetti dinners by candlelight.  

 

Here is one of my favorite readings... I took it from this website: http://www.pagan-transitions.org.uk/rituals/burial.htm when a loved one passed on.  I did a private ritual in my backyard at my outdoor altar with candles and singing one of his favorite songs using many of the words/ideas from this page.  It gave me my own kind of healing point to start from.  

 

Do not weep for me for I have not gone.
I am the wind that shakes the mighty Oak.
I am the gentle rain that falls upon your face.
I am the spring flower that pushes through the dark earth.
I am the chuckling laughter of the mountain stream.
Do not weep for me for I have not gone.

 

I am the memory that dwells in the heart of those that knew me.
I am the shadow that dances on the edge of your vision.
I am the wild goose that flies south at Autumns call and I shall return at Summer rising.
I am the stag on the wild hills way.
I am just around the corner.

Therefore, the wise weep not.
But rejoice at the transformation of my Being.

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