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Wolfcat's Avatar Wolfcat 10:42 PM 12-02-2013

Ok, I'm a little crazy with the title, but I'm kind of loopy-happy today.

I got the contract from the publisher for my pagan cookbook! We are officially a "go"!

 

How's your December treating you thus far?



grisandole's Avatar grisandole 11:13 PM 12-02-2013

Congrats!!!! Mine is okay so far, only 2 days in, lol. 


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 06:19 AM 12-03-2013

Congrats, yay! I had a wonderful November....December is starting out a little rocky. I'm really depressed. Not about the holidays. There's just something that's ongoing in my relationship that I can't seem to get past. Sometimes it really irks/hurts/etc and other times it's *shrug*, practice acceptance....right now it's really acute and feels like I suck.


revolting's Avatar revolting 09:57 AM 12-03-2013

Maia - Hugs! I hope the month improves for you. It's him, not you!

Wolf - Yay on the book. Do you have a release date?

 

New moon blessings mama! We didn't observe the first new moon after E's birth, but I hope to ease back into it today. I used to try to clean the whole house to get rid of old negative energy from the last moon cycle, but that totes won't happen today. I do hope to get around to doing a tarot reading for me and my big kids, but that's it. I hope it will bring clarity for my goal for this moon cycle. We've had a string of bad luck the last few months, and I hope to improve it.


DaughterOfKali's Avatar DaughterOfKali 12:20 PM 12-03-2013

Maia- Hugs.  Let me know when you want to get together.  :)

 

Wolfcat- Can't wait to read it!


vydalea's Avatar vydalea 01:08 PM 12-03-2013

Wolfcat: I LOVE your punny title this month.  It will make me smile every time I see it.  Congrats on your contract!! jumpers.gif  So exciting! 

 

Maia: :Hug  

 

revolting: blessings for clarity, mama!  I hope you get some good energy coming in your world.  How's the babykins?  How are you feeling?

 

I do a reading with the Goddess Guidance Oracle Cards every new moon.  I have been using them for years.  My reading today was unclear to me.  DH and I have a lot of changes coming, I think, that are unknown in their consequences which I think makes my reading unclear.  He is on the verge of possibly switching new jobs which is scary, but I think the new one could be much more creative for him. As for me, I am taking on a larger role on a board I am involved with and also *finally* giving a presentation to the local attachment parenting group on cloth diapering and my CD service!! woohoo!!  NERVES, though, for goddess' sake!  I need to QUIET MYSELF - that voice inside that is constantly trying to be ready for the "whatifs" OYYYY!!!!  :nut 


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 04:23 PM 12-03-2013

Thanks for the hugs, mamas.

 

Mostly it IS him, but because of that, I'm an insufferable b*tch...he can't stand the yelling, I'm yelling because I'm concerned, yadda yadda...there's lots more, but I'm in a horrible way. And he doesn't want to be around me when I'm like that, but mamas, he can't even get into gmail anymore. This has been getting more and more acute since he stopped working. He is the smartest computer and math guy on the planet and he can't figure out gmail. It's SO frustrating. And he just shrugs and gives up as if that's a new normal. There's lots and lots more. He's shutting down right in front of my eyes, and he thinks I am just nagging. Sex...well, let's just say mostly it has been improving, but I'm ALWAYS the initiator, and I just don't have the energy to add that to my plate, too, especially when there's a 50/50 chance (or less) of the answer being No.

 

I'm just.so.freaking.TIRED. of negativity. Him, my ds, I want to divorce them both right now. It's such a vicious circle.


Becky Wheeler's Avatar Becky Wheeler 05:52 PM 12-03-2013

*hugs* Maia. If you ever need to talk/vent, I'm here if you want to PM me. I've mostly been lurking because I have zero energy to contribute, especially to study more into paganism, like I want, but I wanted to extend the offer and lend an ear, even if it's just to commiserate. I'm going through some relationship stuff as well. :Hug


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 06:12 PM 12-03-2013

Thanks, Becky.

 

He's determined to make things right-- he says he is NOT going to lose me under any circumstance, so, we'll see. He has an appt with the prescribing nurse at the end of the month, so in the meanwhile, we'll just have to hang in there and try to figure it all out ourselves.


M, in the meanwhile, has to get intentionally not lazy. I mean, he'll make a quick sandwich over, say, making Ramen noodles, because the noodles involve using a pot, which he would then have to clean. He's gotten THAT bad. I've noticed his dishes aren't really all that clean anymore, anyway.

And he won't get up off the damn computer chair-- he sits and stares at that screen all.day.long. It's got TV in it, too, so he's watching TV or using the computer. At least he's not using it socially (he does read electronics books on there and stuff) but still.

 

He used to be vigilant about cleaning.
 

He hasn't cleaned his place in like 6 months or more. Last week I found out that he was wearing the same socks for three days (and he's anal about personal hygiene-- or, was) because he needed to do laundry and was too lazy to load the laundry basket in his car when coming over here so he could do the laundry here.

 

I mean it's really pathetic, and I think in a pathological way, and I don't know what to do except yell in a very concerned manner...but that's not productive at all.


DaughterOfKali's Avatar DaughterOfKali 08:13 AM 12-04-2013
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I mean it's really pathetic, and I think in a pathological way, and I don't know what to do except yell in a very concerned manner...but that's not productive at all.

 

 Is he on antidepressants?  This must be really hard on you.  :Hug


Wolfcat's Avatar Wolfcat 03:43 PM 12-04-2013
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Wolf - Yay on the book. Do you have a release date?

 

It won't be until late '14 or early '15. They are going to be doing some new-to-them formatting for it, so it'll take a bit longer then usual. They are also looking at doing color photos (which is a pretty big deal since color printing is so much more expensive for them). I've got the contract signed and sent, though, so :joy


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 04:54 PM 12-04-2013
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Quote: Is he on antidepressants?  This must be really hard on you.  :Hug

 

It is. And yes, he is. He has an appt at the end of December, and we'll have to look at getting his meds adjusted. I don't think he's been entirely honest with the prescribing nurse. I will see if I can go with, this time.

 

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Originally Posted by Wolfcat It won't be until late '14 or early '15. They are going to be doing some new-to-them formatting for it, so it'll take a bit longer then usual. They are also looking at doing color photos (which is a pretty big deal since color printing is so much more expensive for them). I've got the contract signed and sent, though, so :joy

 

That is so cool. You must be so happy! I would be!


TreeTog's Avatar TreeTog 09:30 AM 12-08-2013

Hello! I am new. My name is Leslie and I have been practicing Paganism for almost 12 years. I am married and have 2 sons.

 

Leslie


DaughterOfKali's Avatar DaughterOfKali 12:56 PM 12-08-2013
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Hello! I am new. My name is Leslie and I have been practicing Paganism for almost 12 years. I am married and have 2 sons.

 

Leslie

 

Welcome, Leslie!  Nice to have you join us!


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 12:57 PM 12-08-2013

MM Leslie! I know ONE other Pagan from TX...that has got to be difficult, no? I hear so much about conservative Christians out thataway.

 

I have one son, age 12. He'll be 13 in January. M is my True Love and we just got engaged on my birthday (11/17) :love

 

Oh, for the rest of you: Things were at a low with M, and my attitude didn't help any...we got busy and got happy again, of course :lol:innocent He was like "I can't believe she (meaning me) gets that illin' without sex and then she's just fine after...can it affect someone's mood THAT much??"...um, yeah, you betcha! LOL.


TreeTog's Avatar TreeTog 01:20 PM 12-08-2013

There are not many family orientated pagan groups in my area and that sucks. There are lots of groups for single adults and married couples with no kids. My friends and family all know that I am Pagan. I am open about my beliefs on FB and have a lot of local friends on there.

 

Leslie


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 02:10 PM 12-08-2013

I'm sure you hear too much about conservative TX, Leslie. Hope I didn't push any buttons!

 

Though, when I moved to Asheville, NC, which is a super crunchy-granola oasis in a sea of southern Baptists, there were no Pagan groups that were kid friendly, either *sigh*....so I created them. And, I stepped up and helped with kid activities (and in some instances, created those, too) at the local public ritual/potlucks. If you want to do that in your area, I'd be happy to help! Though, like I said, my kid is 12 now and it's been awhile, but I do remember some stuff.

 

We just moved to MA after a whole lotta years in NC, so I haven't really found my Pagan niche up here yet. And ds is now totally uninterested in religions of any sort. M is Catholic. So mostly it's just me, now, Pagan-wise :(


TreeTog's Avatar TreeTog 03:10 PM 12-08-2013

No buttons pushed. My kids have special needs, so we don't take them to public rituals, yet. Ryan has Autism and loud noise bothers him.

 

Leslie


vydalea's Avatar vydalea 06:45 PM 12-08-2013

All those lovely chemical reactions and happiness released to the brain after some nookie!  wahooo!!

 

Hi Leslie!  Welcome!  wave.gif

 

We have a local museum that has a holiday tree display today with Z.  Many of the local organizations decorate a tree and then they have displays from different countries and beliefs including Hanukkah, a Bodhi Day display, Diwali, etc.  There was even an explanation "yule-tree" which was awesome to see!  


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 06:55 AM 12-09-2013
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Originally Posted by TreeTog View PostNo buttons pushed. My kids have special needs, so we don't take them to public rituals, yet. Ryan has Autism and loud noise bothers him.

 

Well, I don't have autism, and loud noise bothers me, too :wink but, our rituals were never loud. They'd get between 20 and 50 people, but always quiet and respectful. I hope you find something that fits your family!

 

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You think? Are there really? You'd think I'd know that. But yeah, we both get idgity and then we have sex and things are fine again for awhile shrug.gif

I think a lot of the problem is we have to kind of force the mood, #1 because I work now, and only have certain times when I'm available when ds isn't home, and #2, well, the Viagra thing. You have a window of opportunity, with that stuff. He has a much lower drive than I do, so forcing the mood is a PITA. But when we manage to be successful, it's wonderful :love I just have to remember that when it's NOT optimum, ALL acts of love and pleasure are Her rituals :D

 

That's cool about all the trees, Vydalea.

 

It's snowy and icy here today, and the schools are on a 2 hour delay, which is a PITA because ds has to be at the bus stop the same time as I have to be at work. Ugh. I'm going to call in late, I think.


Becky Wheeler's Avatar Becky Wheeler 11:09 AM 12-09-2013

Maia, you could have a sensory processing disorder which makes you sensitive to loud noises. I have one. It makes it difficult for me to learn some things, and I am also sensitive to loud noise.


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 03:23 PM 12-09-2013

I suppose I could. I've got ADD, too, but I didn't know that (because they didn't have it when I was little), and I'm 54 now and really I've been compensating for years. And years.

 

For noises, it's not *loud* so much as *sustained loud*, as in like, crowds. Or parties. I did those for so long, being a drinking person that went to bars/clubs/bands, that I really think I'm just over it-- and overly sensitive to make up for all that. Maybe.

For whatever reason, I really value silence, now, and I also think I'm an introvert, even though I am very outgoing and gregarious and I talk too much-- it's about how I recharge. I can handle about 3 hours in public or with people and then I have to Go Away And Be Silent, All By Myself. For hours.

I learn things best by being shown by someone, or being in a class. I don't do well at all if left to my own devices. I lose interest or attention too quickly.

 

You could be right, though. Who knows?


revolting's Avatar revolting 07:45 AM 12-10-2013

Welcome Leslie!

Vy - Did you do your presentation yet? How'd it go?

AFM - E is doing great! He looks at you and smiles and coos now, which is so much fun. I still am really grieving my grandmother, but I'm really trying to lighten the tone in my house. It's the holiday season, after all. Like Maia, we have snow. I hope that by this afternoon we have enough snow to go sledding.

 

Is everyone ready for Yule? What are your plans?


vydalea's Avatar vydalea 01:29 PM 12-10-2013
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For noises, it's not *loud* so much as *sustained loud*, as in like, crowds. Or parties. I did those for so long, being a drinking person that went to bars/clubs/bands, that I really think I'm just over it-- and overly sensitive to make up for all that. Maybe.

For whatever reason, I really value silence, now, and I also think I'm an introvert, even though I am very outgoing and gregarious and I talk too much-- it's about how I recharge. I can handle about 3 hours in public or with people and then I have to Go Away And Be Silent, All By Myself. For hours.

 

:yeah I am super outgoing always called "welcoming" but seriously cannot stand to be around people for too long.  The longer I am it's like I start to break down... I have to regenerate alone and drink lots of water.  

 

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Welcome Leslie!

Vy - Did you do your presentation yet? How'd it go?

AFM - E is doing great! He looks at you and smiles and coos now, which is so much fun. I still am really grieving my grandmother, but I'm really trying to lighten the tone in my house. It's the holiday season, after all. Like Maia, we have snow. I hope that by this afternoon we have enough snow to go sledding.

 

Is everyone ready for Yule? What are your plans?

My presentation is next Tuesday!  I'll be giving a shout out for some good energy for sure!!!!

 

OOOOhhh, I am sooooo excited for YULE!  We're, of course, making bread and throwing it at the sun to welcome him back... and reading our Sun Bread thanks to Ms. Maiasaura.  We also will light our Yule log and ring some jingle bells as we make wishes for the new year and clear out the energy of the old.  I also read from Circle Round "Birth of the Sun" which I made felt pieces to illustrate and play with.  Then we talk about what the sun "gives" us.  Warmth and energy, etc. I LOVE LOVE LOVE YULE almost as much as Summer Solstice...almost.... 


Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 03:37 PM 12-10-2013
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OOOOhhh, I am sooooo excited for YULE!  We're, of course, making bread and throwing it at the sun to welcome him back... and reading our Sun Bread thanks to Ms. Maiasaura.  We also will light our Yule log and ring some jingle bells as we make wishes for the new year and clear out the energy of the old.  I also read from Circle Round "Birth of the Sun" which I made felt pieces to illustrate and play with.  Then we talk about what the sun "gives" us.  Warmth and energy, etc. I LOVE LOVE LOVE YULE almost as much as Summer Solstice...almost.... 

 

I miss ds being little. Nobody cares about Yule, or any other holiday, except me, anymore. I doubt I'll be making Sun Bread anymore, cause I know that M can't get up at sunrise because of his meds, and ds won't care, I'm pretty sure. Sigh. I'm glad y'all are carrying on the tradition, though.

 

We're doing Christmas at my brother's house, though, with my brother, his dd's 19 and 24, my mom, and ds and me. It should be a good time. Cross fingers.

 

In other news, I woke up sick this morning :( AND, I lost my Monday client. The agency paying for my services only paid for 10 weeks and they just ended. I didn't know that. I'm so sad. Because besides $30 for me, that poor woman has been in that facility for 7 years with no visitors. At all. Granted she's got dementia, but still. That is so sad.


TreeTog's Avatar TreeTog 05:47 PM 12-10-2013

I am in the process of writing a Yule ritual for my family.

 

Leslie


revolting's Avatar revolting 06:34 PM 12-10-2013

Vy - You need to post a picture of the felt pieces you made! Yule definitely rates as one of my favorite holidays as well.

Maia - That is super sad. Does she not have any family? I hope tomorrow goes better for you. I like to think that if/when my kids have decided that the traditions we keep don't jive with them anymore that I'll still observe in some way, even if it changes.

Leslie - I'd love to see what you wrote! I think I've tried a scripted ritual with my kids all of once...way not where my littles are right now! How old are your kids?


TreeTog's Avatar TreeTog 06:38 PM 12-10-2013

Ryan is 6yo and Liam is 3yo.

 

Leslie


tresleo's Avatar tresleo 06:51 PM 12-10-2013
I love hearing about other families traditions. smile.gif

For Yule, we will have a candlelit dinner with our friends - the same thing every year...potato soup, crusty bread, salad and cake, and we'll also have a bonfire with last years tree. We'll get up early to greet the sun as it rises and have a nice breakfast - then I'll take a nap! - and maybe we'll hike in the park...

We haven't exchanged gifts on Solstice before, and I'm debating on wether or not to this year. I kinda like the holiday for itself, without the present aspect. Probably because Christmas Eve / Day is part of our Winter holidays, too, and thats when we do presents - everyone gets one gift under the tree and a stocking (although, I'm considering next year doing stockings on St. Nicholas Day instead). We don't exchange gifts with family or friends.

I am also a total introvert. And becoming very comfortable with it! ;-)
Maiasaura's Avatar Maiasaura 08:45 AM 12-11-2013

On Solstice, we normally read Sun Bread on Solstice Eve, and I make a Sun Bread, and Solstice Morning we wake before Sunrise and when He peeks out (or if it's cloudy, we mark the time He is supposed to rise), we throw bits of bread up to Him, and pour libations on the ground, and dance and sing Sun songs, then we go in for stockings (which usually only have a couple little things in, and an orange) for everybody. Then lazy, lazy day, and feasting later. This year I might make Solstice Stew (mostly beef stew with veggies) or maybe roast a chicken, but whatever I do it'll have oranges and/or lemons.

I doubt I can get anyone awake at Sunrise, though. Might have to do that part myself.

 

No, poor lady has no family that I know of. Nobody seems to know her history or anything about her, and she's mostly non-verbal so no answers out of her herself :( I wonder if it's unethical or inappropriate (with my work, I mean) if I go visit her now and then anyway.

 

Gods, I'm sick. Woke up sick yesterday, today I'm slightly feverish :( I have so much to do for Christmas...and I feel like typing is exhausting me. Dang.


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