Thank you ladies!
I totally would not be ok with the church nursery not allowing me to go in with my child. Maybe plugging in to bible study or home groups would be a better option for the time being...
As far you aunt goes apeydef, the Lord is the only One who can heal and restore situations like that. Unforgiveness and bitterness are literally poison, so you've gotta deal with those. When I face memories or situations that have roots of unforgiveness, Its hard but I ask myself, "What good can possibly come by me holding on to this?" The answer is always the same for me. And to forgive we release it to Christ for Him to deal with, and only then does *anything* good ever come.
The Lord is walking us through some really intense stuff! The refining fire totally sucks! But its all for His honor and glory.