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That is the way that it always is in my house. I never see DH. It makes it harder having kids. So I know what it is like.
I'm sorry it's awful! I am lucky I guess bc he does get a lot of time off
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DH got the job about 6 month after we got married. It is a blessing because without this job I would have to work.
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Yes we are fortunate too that I am able to stay home. DH just got a promotion this year too with a substantial pay raise. God is good. I give the glory to him.
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Question for you gals--

OK, a girl that I have know her whole life had a baby. She is a single mom and has been out of work for a while. I would not say that we are friends. I know her and would do whatever I can to help her. Here comes the BUT...

She calls me today. She has found a job. Great!!! Needs/wants me to babysit. Fine. I told her that I want $1 an hour....till she can get on her feet. $1 that is all. She told me no!! ...OK, she calls me back. She can't find anyone to do it for FREE. She cried on the phone for a long time.

So, do I do it for the sake of the child? I told her that I believe a $1 is more then fair. I would even take it as she can give it to me...let when she get paid.

It is a baby. So bottles, naps and the works. Sorry for the novel...
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Naz- $1 an hour is cheap (not meaning in the way that you wouldn't provide good quality care). I'd stay firm on that rate, but I could totally see where someone would agree to do it for free. I often provided childcare for people (not a regular basis) since my boys were little and the ones similar to that always ended up being huge problems. Especially if they thought it meant you were providing food and diapers or such.

I haven't been this chat since... beginning of June? Haven't had much time to get on the site at all and then it seems I always go through the forums in order so this is my last stop. We've been having a bit of a tough time with my younger son too. He seemed to (I hesitate to use the word because it isn't what I really mean but my brain isn't working well) 'have an experience' with understanding what it means to believe last year. Now, however, he is flat out disrespectful at church and during our home Bible study times. DH has started having him define word-by-word a verse at a time each evening this week and only once has he not complained and moaned about it. We thought it might backfire on us, but he likes to tell people how much he loves G-d so we decided this is the best route for now. Just a bit frustrating for me!

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A buck an hour is a fantastic rate. When I used to babysit, the lowest I'd go is $15 a day. You shouldn't have to do it for free.

Steph Ann, I don't think I've seen you here before. Nice to meet you
What is the point your DH is going for by making your son define bible verses every night?
If he is complaining about doing it, then how is it beneficial?
I'm just honestly curious...
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Steph Ann- Yes, I remember you. Did you have the baby? Getting ready?

I'm sorry I'm not following about your son. I think I remember that you got remarried? Does that have something to do with how he views things? (If that is not you I apologize!!!)

ME- I'm really think I need to stick to my guns...$1. Once, she gets back on her feet I would like more. But know that will mostly not happen.

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Update- I will be watching the baby. She will pay me $1 and take it from their.
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Naz that's a tough one bc I'm sure you want to do what's right by The Lord but it's important to set boundaries too. A baby that young will be a lot of work as well. Hope it works out.

Steph, hello! I just wanted to say without sounding bossy or anything but my advice would be careful with your little guy. You can't make him believe or force the bible in him. I've seen this backfire. All you can do is set an example and pray the Holy Spirit enters his life. Again I say this with love in my heart. trust me I struggle with my 5 year old daily and I do not have all the answers lol
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Its definitely a tough situation with the son who is being disrespectful... The bible tells us to train up our children in the way they should go.... so how can we do that without being forceful and controling?
IMO, doing family bible study and prayer time, focuses the whole family on the Lord and then the kuds see a good example, instead of using the bible as a tool that feels like punishment to the child.
We had made a similar mistake. When our kids fought and argued we would force them to sit together and hold hands. We thought it was a wholesome way of discipline. But ultimately what that does is takes something that they should want to do out of love and turns it into something they dispise. So to use a form of love as discipline, is really a demonic assignment against love and against family.
Just like using the bible as a way to force feed God, actually is an assignment against the child's relationship with God. We have to *want* that intimacy with the Lord. Otherwise, its just religion, and if there's one thing Jesus hated, it was religion!
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I haven't been this chat since... beginning of June? Haven't had much time to get on the site at all and then it seems I always go through the forums in order so this is my last stop. We've been having a bit of a tough time with my younger son too. He seemed to (I hesitate to use the word because it isn't what I really mean but my brain isn't working well) 'have an experience' with understanding what it means to believe last year. Now, however, he is flat out disrespectful at church and during our home Bible study times. DH has started having him define word-by-word a verse at a time each evening this week and only once has he not complained and moaned about it. We thought it might backfire on us, but he likes to tell people how much he loves G-d so we decided this is the best route for now. Just a bit frustrating for me!
Steph Ann- Please explain this alittle more? Did something happen that made the change?

Give him love. Maybe some space?
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Did he die????? I didn't hear anything about it!
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Yes suspected suicide. It just hit the news last night at a little before 7.
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It is going to rain. We are just waiting for it.

apeydef- How is the reading going? I am most of the way thou Matt.

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It is going to rain. We are just waiting for it.

apeydef- How is the reading going? I am most of the way thou Matt.

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My reading is going good. I've been reading about two chapters a day.
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That is great!!!

This week is going so slow...I need something good to happen. Good or fun
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Sorry for not replying sooner (like I said, not much time on here now).
This particular son says he believes (I'm not so sure though- as bad as that sounds), will tell other people how much he loves G-d, and judges (in a bad way) other believers (i.e. "I would never do that", "I would just tell people what G-d says to do about that"); however, he is totally disrespectful when we have our Bible studies and at church. He really believes he knows everything there is to know about the Bible and G-d's commands. (He's 10 and doesn't do any Bible reading on his own so that is definitely not the case.)
We've spent months now trying the gentle, encouraging route and hoping it would get through his head, but after the bragging about how good he is lately we decided that, if he thinks he knows so much about the Bible, he needs to be able to look up the words to the verse of his choosing and figure out (with our help) how it applies to his life. I'm just hoping it doesn't make him more arrogant.


That's great that she agreed to pay for childcare! I hope it all works out!

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Oh, forgot to say hi and thanks for the (re)welcome. : )
And no baby yet- two weeks left!
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Oh congrats on the baby. I'm 22 weeks today and I think @3lilchunklins is about a month ahead of me.
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So ladies what time do you wake in the morning and do you have a routine/schedule?
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We don't have a schedule. Most days are reading, playing board games, being outside and see where the day takes us.

As far as sleep. Bed time here is around 8pm for the kids and 9pm for me. Wakeup naturally
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Steph Anie- I will pray for wisdom and heal for your son.
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I'll be 26weeks tomorrow, so yep were about a month apart apeydef!

Horrible as it sounds, I usually get up at 11. No real set in stone schedule, but its important to get our chores done ASAP
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Chunk- Do the kids let you sleep?? My kids wake me up. Today my 8yr came in bed around 5:45 am. That was hard.

Apeydef- I'm wrong we do have a flow to the day. Not sure how to explain it but it works.
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Just a quick hello! I haven't been on MDC since the bloody show that preceded my labor last November, but I'm looking to jump back in. Since my DDC is effectively no more, I'm hoping to find a place here with some like-minded mamas.

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So ladies what time do you wake in the morning and do you have a routine/schedule?
Just started one for the morning only.
We have personal devotional. (DD is 4 DS is 1) I read her a story from the bible (no other books) and we have a short summary/discussion. All this time, she is drawing a picture about something we read about. Later on, when she learns to write, she can write a sentence or two. I picked this idea up from a friend. Her children share their sentence or two or drawing at the breakfast table before eating. They homeschool too. After dinner, they have family worship every evening. We do something similar. I read them their sabbath school lesson, pray, and as they fall asleep, I read them what I am reading (usually spiritual/Christian in nature).

Anyway, I don't know how to fill up the middle part of my day in routine form. I am working on ideas. I am not good at this part.

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