oh, all hugs gratefully received, thank you
you're right, I'm frustrated and confused at the moment, and about my whole position here, religion is just a flashpoint. Your questions are actually easy to answer. I do not want dd to be brought up catholic, neither does dh (he knows what a catholic upbringing did to him).
What I want is for her to be exposed to all paths and decide for herself. My problem here is a wish to give her something really simple, solid and secure to go by. I suppose the common demoninator of religions is enough.... And what I meant by being "just the weird mother" is that it will be easy for my opinion not to be taken as seriously as all the forceful, black and white beliefs around me. (I'm already the weird one and I don't mind as long as it allows me strength in that position!!)
I like what you say to your dd, that she should listen to everyone's views but let no one tell her she is sinful. Hey, I feel better already!
Emmalala - I am absolutely intrigued!! How on earth is it possible?! I have all kinds of questions, I don't know of course if you want to answer them!
I think all the surprises the church has in store for me right here are related to pedophilia, alcoholism and illicit children, oh and bribery. The thing is that Catholicism here is about social pressure and nationalism as much as about genuine spirituality. Like, it's compulsary in order to be a good Pole, and everyone else belongs to "a sect". Coming from a truly Christian family (in England) I find the extent of hypocrisy around quite amazing.
Thank you both so much, it's clearer already.