We all went outside and stood in a circle holding hands.
We explained the meaning of DS's name, and also his Jewish name. (it is a Jewish tradition to have a Jewish name after close relatives who have passed away.) We had DH's mom and my parents talk about his ancestors and lineage and we asked for the ancestors' blessing.
Then we went around the circle and asked everyone to make a wish or say a prayer or blessing for DS.
I am leaving out some of the Pagan elements cause I don't know if you are Pagan.. but that is the gist of it.
Then we ate!!!
The truest answer to violence is love. The truest answer to death is life. The only prevention for violence is for the heart to have no violence within it. We cannot prevent evil through any system devised by mankind. But we can grapple with evil and defeat it, but only with love—real love.
We then talked about the significance of his name--which was very special as his older brother named him.
People then made wishes for him and his well being and then we opened birthday presents and ate...