I'm not religious and dh is not practicing but we love to celebrate holidays!
Just tonight he got down our Halloween decorations - we all had so much fun putting them up. I am looking forward to Thanksgiving and Xmas.
I understand trying to downplay the consumerism (especially pink, plastic, made by Mattel stuff! ugh!) aspect. Good idea someone had to request stuff like:
zoo, kid museum, etc. membership
kid theater tickets
book or music store gift certificates
gross motor stuff like jump ropes, hula hoops, balls, etc.
I have found lots of good stuff in two catalogs - Hearthsong and Chinaberry. They have websites - their names with www.
before and .com after. I just got a Hearthsong order (early for Xmas) with the NEATEST book - it is called The Apple Cake. Check it out! Also ordered some neat stuff like named above.
We like to focus on decorating, seeing family and friends, volunteering, choosing gifts for others, music, fun activities like caroling, making gingerbread houses and cookies, writing cards to our friends and family, taking family photos, donating toys/food to needy families.
Good luck figuring out what will work for your family!